Re: Rubber bands and my college reunion...

[Guest guest]

Well, after much back and forth and some advice from friends and people

on the site, I decided not to go to my college reunion because I am all

rubber banded up and didn't want all my friends whom I haven't seen in

6 years to see me as a science project. The reunion was last night. I

had already declined the evite and was wearing dirty jeans to work.

Yesterday, at about 2pm, I looked in the mirror and realized that while

my teeth and mouth might be all messed up- after 4 weeks on a liquid

diet, my body has never looked better! I went out and bought the

shortest little mini skirt I could find (in the kids section) and I

went to that darn reunion! It was really hard, walking in there myself

and knowing I looked weird smiling with my mouth closed but I was soooo

glad that I went. Yes, some people were like " tova, what the heck is

that? " and " great timing, tova " but I had such a great time! Granted, I

found myself covering my mouth when I laughed, but I was laffing A lot!

Also, I had stocked my handbag with rembrant liquid breath mints,

binaca spray and a little bottle of scope which I used a bunch of

times... once in front of a friend and spit back into my wine

glass....(I know it's gross but I did it anyway. that's how little it

seemed to matter in the end....:-) I also was very honest, telling

people " I know my mouth looks weird but look how hot my body is... I

bought this tiny skirt just to show off my legs! " I also pointed out,

ironically, that the one other woman at the event that was wearing

braces was also wearing a rather short skirt. Ha ha.

And my point-- back to dating and braces---- The main reason I was

hesitant to go to the reunion? I was in a very specialized major. There

were 18 people in my very close class for 2 years and 13 of them were

men. There were 2 in particular that I did not want to see me looking

" ugly " . Forget about the braces... I had nasty rubber bands stretched

across my entire mouth in every which way possible, holding my teeth

tightly together. It was pretty clear that they did not think this made

me look " ugly. " They both hit on me ;-) and one even commented that it

was a good thing I was all wired up because it was like a chastity belt

for my mouth. I know that might sound nasty out of context but it was

actually rather flattering. No-one said to me " Why would you do that? "

or even asked many questions at all. It seemed, just like with the

braces only much grosser- that in the end- no-one really cares as much

as the person wearing them. Obviously, it's different because these

people knew me before and are responding to me as a whole person, not

just a mouth of hardware... but still.

As a PS- That Gwen Stephani had braces was very inspirational to me in

the decision making process.... and she was dating Hottie Gavin Rosdale

at the time...

>

> Sure I would date someone with braces, but i highly doubt that it

> would happen... and, yes, it would depend on the person... if either

> Jolie or Faith Hill were in braces, I'd date them!

>

> Funnily, I've found that women really don't care if the guy has

> braces...in fact, as Tova suggested, it shows them the guy cares

> about his appearance...

>

> Regardless, i couldn't care less if some girl didn't want to date me

> because I had braces... I'm not doing it for her; I'm doing it for

> ME...

>

> If you want to see my post-op picture with the slight asymmetry,

> check my profile... http://profiles.yahoo.com/zulu1967

>

>

>

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > > I have a personal question to ask related to this entire

> > > > > process.

> > > > > > I

> > > > > > > will be getting my braces on in a month or so and then

> > > > eventually

> > > > > > > having upper and lower surgery to correct an underbite. 

> I

> > > was

> > > > > > hoping

> > > > > > > to already have the braces on, but had to delay it a

> little

> > > > bit

> > > > > > due

> > > > > > > to needing dental work first.

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > > Here's where my question comes in...I just recently

> started

> > > > > dating

> > > > > > > someone I was set up with.  We don't know each other very

> > > well

> > > > > > yet,

> > > > > > > but so far we have hit it off and have a lot in common.

> > > > Because

> > > > > > we

> > > > > > > have not known each other very long, I have not told him

> > > > anything

> > > > > > > about the braces/surgery.  I am actually a little nervous

> > > > about

> > > > > > > telling him because I am afraid it will overwhelm him. 

> It

> > > > would

> > > > > > be

> > > > > > > different if we had been friends for awhile first or

> > > > something.

> > > > > > When

> > > > > > > I get my braces on in a month, he is obviously going to

> > > > > > notice.

> > > > > > > My question is, How much should I tell him or not tell

> him?

> > > > > Also,

> > > > > > > has anyone else been in a situation similar to mine and

> how

> > > > did

> > > > > > you

> > > > > > > handle it?

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

[Guest guest]

Good for you, Tova!

That's clear thinking for you... And I'll bet you looked " hot "

yourself.

Congratulations,

Cammie

> Well, after much back and forth and some advice from friends and

people

> on the site, I decided not to go to my college reunion because I am

all

> rubber banded up and didn't want all my friends whom I haven't seen

in

> 6 years to see me as a science project. The reunion was last night.

I

> had already declined the evite and was wearing dirty jeans to work.

> Yesterday, at about 2pm, I looked in the mirror and realized that

while

> my teeth and mouth might be all messed up- after 4 weeks on a

liquid

> diet, my body has never looked better! I went out and bought the

> shortest little mini skirt I could find (in the kids section) and I

> went to that darn reunion! It was really hard, walking in there

myself

> and knowing I looked weird smiling with my mouth closed but I was

soooo

> glad that I went. Yes, some people were like " tova, what the heck

is

> that? " and " great timing, tova " but I had such a great time!

Granted, I

> found myself covering my mouth when I laughed, but I was laffing A

lot!

> Also, I had stocked my handbag with rembrant liquid breath mints,

> binaca spray and a little bottle of scope which I used a bunch of

> times... once in front of a friend and spit back into my wine

> glass....(I know it's gross but I did it anyway. that's how little

it

> seemed to matter in the end....:-) I also was very honest, telling

> people " I know my mouth looks weird but look how hot my body is...

I

> bought this tiny skirt just to show off my legs! " I also pointed

out,

> ironically, that the one other woman at the event that was wearing

> braces was also wearing a rather short skirt. Ha ha.

>

> And my point-- back to dating and braces---- The main reason I was

> hesitant to go to the reunion? I was in a very specialized major.

There

> were 18 people in my very close class for 2 years and 13 of them

were

> men. There were 2 in particular that I did not want to see me

looking

> " ugly " . Forget about the braces... I had nasty rubber bands

stretched

> across my entire mouth in every which way possible, holding my

teeth

> tightly together. It was pretty clear that they did not think this

made

> me look " ugly. " They both hit on me ;-) and one even commented that

it

> was a good thing I was all wired up because it was like a chastity

belt

> for my mouth. I know that might sound nasty out of context but it

was

> actually rather flattering. No-one said to me " Why would you do

that? "

> or even asked many questions at all. It seemed, just like with the

> braces only much grosser- that in the end- no-one really cares as

much

> as the person wearing them. Obviously, it's different because

these

> people knew me before and are responding to me as a whole person,

not

> just a mouth of hardware... but still.

>

> As a PS- That Gwen Stephani had braces was very inspirational to me

in

> the decision making process.... and she was dating Hottie Gavin

Rosdale

> at the time...

>

[Guest guest]

Good for you Tova!

My 20 year high school reunion is this year and I may still be in

braces.

I'm sure my orthodontist gets requests to rush ortho treatment so

his patients can go to high school grad, but a 20 year reunion???

Times sure have changed!

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > I have a personal question to ask related to this

entire

> > > > > > process.

> > > > > > > I

> > > > > > > > will be getting my braces on in a month or so and

then

> > > > > eventually

> > > > > > > > having upper and lower surgery to correct an

underbite. 

> > I

> > > > was

> > > > > > > hoping

> > > > > > > > to already have the braces on, but had to delay it a

> > little

> > > > > bit

> > > > > > > due

> > > > > > > > to needing dental work first.

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > Here's where my question comes in...I just recently

> > started

> > > > > > dating

> > > > > > > > someone I was set up with.  We don't know each

other very

> > > > well

> > > > > > > yet,

> > > > > > > > but so far we have hit it off and have a lot in

common.

> > > > > Because

> > > > > > > we

> > > > > > > > have not known each other very long, I have not

told him

> > > > > anything

> > > > > > > > about the braces/surgery.  I am actually a little

nervous

> > > > > about

> > > > > > > > telling him because I am afraid it will overwhelm

him. 

> > It

> > > > > would

> > > > > > > be

> > > > > > > > different if we had been friends for awhile first or

> > > > > something.

> > > > > > > When

> > > > > > > > I get my braces on in a month, he is obviously

going to

> > > > > > > notice.

> > > > > > > > My question is, How much should I tell him or not

tell

> > him?

> > > > > > Also,

> > > > > > > > has anyone else been in a situation similar to mine

and

> > how

> > > > > did

> > > > > > > you

> > > > > > > > handle it?

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >