RE: Re: SO FRUSTRATED

[Guest guest]

Cammie,

I was blessed with a housekeeper for the past 10 years – a gift from my

husband when baby #2 arrived. Unfortunately, my cleaning lady, who I loved,

decided she did not want to clean houses any longer (a hard job). I and

five of my neighbors are now at a loss. I have a few leads on a new house

cleaner, but have decided to try and see how the six of us do for a while.

We were doing pretty well until tax season…my husband is a CPA, so now is a

very busy time for us. However, my two older girls are 11 and 14 and have

been cleaning various areas since they could push a vacuum. My son is 6 ½

and has the job of garbage, recycling, setting and clearing the table, etc.

Between the four us and my two year old =), we’re doing pretty well. But,

when I’m tired or am busy shuffling kids around…things sit!! This used to

drive me crazy, but now is very liberating!!

Good thing, the dryer went out today so I’m heading to the in-laws (who are

on vacation) to dry a couple loads of laundry.

Diane

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From: ceast36532 [mailto:no_reply ]

Sent: Wednesday, March 23, 2005 3:13 PM

To: orthognathicsurgerysupport

Subject: Re:

SO FRUSTRATED

Diane,

Is there any possibility you could hire a part-time (or better yet,

full-time) housekeeper?

I can't, and used to be embarrassed that I'm such a lousy housekeeper

that I really need one.

Now I only wish I could! (But I'd have to clean the house before I'd

let her -- or him -- in!)

Cammie

> Jane,

>

> I can totally relate to what you are going through!! DO NOT GIVE IN

TO HIS

> ANTICS!! Let him vent and don't take it to heart. You MUST take

care of

> yourself before you can take care of anyone or anything else.

You've had

> such a hard time with your recovery and adjusting to working again.

He knows

> you need this time to heal. He too is feeling overwhelmed. It can't

be easy

> for him to see you in so much pain and discomfort. It's unfortunate

he can't

> communicate his frustrations better.

>

> You are both tired and have been through a lot. If the house

doesn't get

> cleaned today, so what? If you knew me, you'd say this was the pot

calling

> the kettle black. But, after four children, working full-time,

hitting the

> big 4-0 and now braces, I've reassessed what is really important in

life. I

> do what I can, but when I need down time, the dishes sit.

>

> My mother-in-law spoiled my husband from day one. When I married

him at age

> 29, I foolishly continued the pattern. As the years went by, I grew

tired

> trying to care for the children, work full-time and keep a spotless

house. I

> neglected myself in the process.

>

> I've learned to ask more for help and not take his pouting to

heart. I

> sometimes resent having to constantly ask him to clean the

bathroom, etc.,

> but realize this is just the way he handles household chores. And,

he's

> learned when to shut up and start cleaning!

>

> I wish you well my friend. Take it easy. We're all pulling for you!!

>

> Diane

>

[Guest guest]

Jodi -

I have to laugh! I'm sorry, but it goes perfectly with a conversation I had

with one of my best friends today. She has 2 mastiffs, and one I like to call

Gross Boy... He will come up to love on you, leaving TONS of goobers

everywhere. When he drinks, he has a good foot of goo hanging from each side of

his mouth! I told her that's going to be me, and when I start drooling, I'm

going to get the Gross Boy back!!!

Kate

[WRONG..I walked in

the dressing room peeked in the mirror and I have a 6 "

drool hanging from my lip and my nose was leaking.

That's HOT:) ]

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Katrina M. Hissam

OSU College of Veterinary Medicine

Class of 2007

~my karma ran over my dogma

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