Re: Re: Long time no write!

[Guest guest]

I know what you are talking about. Was always told I have such a pretty face

and great smile. Oh lose the weight honey you will find yourself a nice guy.

I get so tired of hearing that I get real defensive. If he's a nice guy he

should want me for me not how much of me there is....lol

[Guest guest]

Dawn,

You are right. I hear that same thing all the time. You have such a pretty

face. Yeah, so you are implying that the rest of me looks like two pigs in a

sack fighting, but my face is pretty. I could just puke every time I hear that.

I am ready for my body to be as pretty as my face.

Dora

Long time no write!

>

>

> Hello gang,

>

> It's been a while just living life. I have to say I am so happy

since

> surgery. Stairs used to be my nemesis and now I don't even blink

> twice when I have to climb them. I have to say it's almost two

years

> since surgery and I feel fit. I'm not at my goal weight yet but I

> feel by the second anniversary I will be which is Dec of this year.

> I'm afraid to go clothes shopping. I don't know why I know I must

> have dropped about four dress sizes. Sometimes I still see myself

as

> that fat girl and when I put on my clothes they are so big. When I

go

> to the gym everybody keeps telling me how good I look but I'm still

> very negative toward my body image. It's that awful? but I still

have

> to work on my mindset. Even when men talk to me I'm looking behind

me

> because they can't be talking to me right? That's still something

I'm

> not comfortable with. I'm I the only one that still feels a little

> shell shocked?

>

> Dawn

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Amen!!! My husband and I met after I was almost as large as I am now. He loves

me and adores me for me. He is supportive of me loosing the weight because he

knows I need to do it for my health. But not once has he ever said that he

wants me to loose for an appearance issues. We got married in October and my

wedding dress was a size 32. I am huge, but I was determined that it was not

going to stop me from having a wonderful wedding. He married me fat and still

loves me. You deserve someone who accepts you for you and loves you the way you

are.

Re: Re: Long time no write!

I know what you are talking about. Was always told I have such a pretty face

and great smile. Oh lose the weight honey you will find yourself a nice guy.

I get so tired of hearing that I get real defensive. If he's a nice guy he

should want me for me not how much of me there is....lol

[Guest guest]

too funny. my mom had at one time said she would give me $10 for each pound

I lost. I'll be a rich woman....lol. She's sticking to it too, how cool is

that.

[Guest guest]

oh I forgot to add to that that when I was little my

mother used to hit me to eat. I would hide the food

cuz I didn't want to eat and then when she found it

she would hit me. As a result I never make my son

eat. I feed him when he asks for food.

--- Dora McCary

wrote:

> And in the past it is. It does not bother me

> anymore. I know my father loved me and only said it

> out of love. My mother on the other hand blames

> herself for my weight and we are having to deal with

> that.

>

> Long time

> no

> > > > write!

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > > Hello gang,

> > > > >

> > > > > It's been a while just living life. I have

> to

> > > say

> > > > I am so happy

> > > > since

> > > > > surgery. Stairs used to be my nemesis and

> now I

> > > > don't even blink

> > > > > twice when I have to climb them. I have to

> say

> > > > it's almost two

> > > > years

> > > > > since surgery and I feel fit. I'm not at my

> goal

> > >

> > > > weight yet but I

> > > > > feel by the second anniversary I will be

> which

> > > is

> > > > Dec of this year.

> > > > > I'm afraid to go clothes shopping. I don't

> know

> > > > why I know I must

> > > > > have dropped about four dress sizes.

> Sometimes I

> > >

> > > > still see myself

> > > > as

> > > > > that fat girl and when I put on my clothes

> they

> > > > are so big. When I

> > > > go

> > > > > to the gym everybody keeps telling me how

> good I

> > >

> > > > look but I'm still

> > > > > very negative toward my body image. It's

> that

> > > > awful? but I still

> > > > have

> > > > > to work on my mindset. Even when men talk

> to me

> > > > I'm looking behind

> > > > me

> > > > > because they can't be talking to me right?

> > > That's

> > > > still something

> > > > I'm

> > > > > not comfortable with. I'm I the only one

> that

> > > > still feels a little

> > > > > shell shocked?

> > > > >

> > > > > Dawn

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

[Guest guest]

what a great story....lol