Re: Y'all are probably tired of this by now..........

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In a message dated 6/26/2003 3:56:06 PM Eastern Standard Time,

quilterdot@... writes:

> It

> >could be worse, of course. I know that. Just need a little support

> to keep on

>

This sounds like it is as bad as life can get for your Mom. I am sure you

hubby is depressed into inaction. My sister has been given antidepressants, but

there are many other things they do for this depression that afflicts cancer

patients. It is true, all we can do some days is just put one foot in front

of another. My heart is with you.

Fay

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Carol......it is not selfish AT ALL to ask for prayers and support for

yourself........that is what we are here for!! On a better note I wanted to

share with you that my Dad (at the age of 63 beat his colon cancer) it was

actually one of his better and faster recoveries (he went on to get

esophagual cancer later in life.) I will be praying as I am sure a lot of

others will be.......I am hear to listen anytime....I went thru two parents

diagnosed with cancer within 6 months of each other.......it is certainly a

trying " season " in life................ P.

Y'all are probably tired of this by now..........

> I know it's selfish to complain about how all the bad news affects ME, but

I

> just can't seem to crawl out from under the burden just now. Mom's doc

called

> yesterday from the nursing home and said her latest chest x-ray would seem

to

> indicate she probably has lung cancer--at least there seems to be a

" shadow "

> or " mass " or some kind of tumor/growth on the upper right lobe. Only way

to

> know for sure is wait a month, and re-xray, see if it's grown or what.

Waiting

> seems really hard.

>

> Due to her age, she's not really eligible for surgery, or any other kind

of

> treatment, for that matter. I also took the opportunity to ask the doc if

she

> holds out any hope that Mom might at least at some point be able to

transfer

> from bed to wheelchair to toilet on her own (walking ever again has

already been

> ruled out from just about day one after she broke her hip). Doc said she

> hates to be negative, but she really doesn't ever see that as being

possible.

> Haven't told Mom either of these developments.

>

> Meantime, DH (Wase) has appts next week with 2 oncologists: one from

> Northwest Community Hosp/ ian Bros Med Ctr; one from Univ of Chicago

Hosp.

> Expecting to start chemo within a week or so after that. So far, he does

very little

> and while he gives lip service to " beating it, " his inaction belies what

he's

> saying; I think he's scared and depressed. Leila has done some additional

> research and come up with far different (much less optimistic) prognosis

figures

> on colon cancer than what the first oncologist told us. Have not conveyed

this

> to W, of course. It's hard to know just WHAT to believe. I keep holding

onto

> the belief that whatever is in store for any of us is just pre-determined

and I

> will just keep putting one foot in front of the other and doing what needs

to

> be done, and God will take care of the rest.

>

> Those of you who are praying people can say a prayer for ME, selfish as

that

> request may seem. It's hard to be strong in the face of so much adversity.

It

> could be worse, of course. I know that. Just need a little support to keep

on

> track.

>

> Carol A

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

You and the family are in my prayers, Carol. Maybe you can make it

to the Posties Oldies picnic at my house July 12. It would do you

good to take a break.

I know the weight feels like an anvil on your shoulders right now,

but you were on the right track when you mentioned how our lives are

pre-determined and that you can find peace in knowing that you are

not alone. Remember that in Psalm 119 He mentions that HE knit you

together in your mothers womb and that HE knows your comings and

your goings. If you have a Bible handy read that Psalm...it will

bring you a calm and a peace.

Much love and prayers,

Carol G.

> I know it's selfish to complain about how all the bad news affects

ME, but I

> just can't seem to crawl out from under the burden just now. Mom's

doc called

> yesterday from the nursing home and said her latest chest x-ray

would seem to

> indicate she probably has lung cancer--at least there seems to be

a " shadow "

> or " mass " or some kind of tumor/growth on the upper right lobe.

Only way to

> know for sure is wait a month, and re-xray, see if it's grown or

what. Waiting

> seems really hard.

>

> Due to her age, she's not really eligible for surgery, or any

other kind of

> treatment, for that matter. I also took the opportunity to ask the

doc if she

> holds out any hope that Mom might at least at some point be able

to transfer

> from bed to wheelchair to toilet on her own (walking ever again

has already been

> ruled out from just about day one after she broke her hip). Doc

said she

> hates to be negative, but she really doesn't ever see that as

being possible.

> Haven't told Mom either of these developments.

>

> Meantime, DH (Wase) has appts next week with 2 oncologists: one

from

> Northwest Community Hosp/ ian Bros Med Ctr; one from Univ of

Chicago Hosp.

> Expecting to start chemo within a week or so after that. So far,

he does very little

> and while he gives lip service to " beating it, " his inaction

belies what he's

> saying; I think he's scared and depressed. Leila has done some

additional

> research and come up with far different (much less optimistic)

prognosis figures

> on colon cancer than what the first oncologist told us. Have not

conveyed this

> to W, of course. It's hard to know just WHAT to believe. I keep

holding onto

> the belief that whatever is in store for any of us is just pre-

determined and I

> will just keep putting one foot in front of the other and doing

what needs to

> be done, and God will take care of the rest.

>

> Those of you who are praying people can say a prayer for ME,

selfish as that

> request may seem. It's hard to be strong in the face of so much

adversity. It

> could be worse, of course. I know that. Just need a little support

to keep on

> track.

>

> Carol A

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I keep holding onto

> the belief that whatever is in store for any of us is just pre-determined

and I

> will just keep putting one foot in front of the other and doing what needs

to

> be done, and God will take care of the rest.

>

> Those of you who are praying people can say a prayer for ME, selfish as

that

> request may seem. It's hard to be strong in the face of so much adversity.

It

> could be worse, of course. I know that. Just need a little support to keep

on

> track.

>

> Carol A

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Carol,

You have the best attitude that you possibly can. God will walk through all

of this holding your hand. Asking for prayers is not selfish. You are the

one having to be strong for your loved ones. He knows that. You and yours

are in my prayers.

Dawn