Guest guest Posted May 5, 2003 Report Share Posted May 5, 2003 I totally agree with this....my mother had a eating disorder and me and my two sisters all were bulemic and have battled with our weights. I see my 15 year old daughter obsessing about her weight and she is 5'2 " and weighs 120 pounds. I try not to let my problems with weight affect her but it is there none the less. She is constantly asking if she is fat...I tell her she is beautiful. Karla Hook Dr. Provost (Dallas, TX) 4/7/00 > From " O " the Oprah magazine, May 2003 > > " Poor body image is passed on like a computer virus from mother to daughter. > Its disadvantages are well-documented: low self-esteem sexual promiscuity, > smoking (to try and control weight gain), eating disorders. > > " .....Our mothers, often unwittingly, have driven these messages home--if not > by hraping on our weight or looks, then by their own > grapefruit-and-cottage-cheese diets or anxieties about physical inadequacies. > Kids are like sponges: a daughter sees that her mother is beautiful and > doesn't like herself, and thinks 'What does that mean for me?' > > " 'The eyes of others our prisons; thier thoughts our cages' Virginia Woolf > once wrote. It's up to us to escape with our self-esteem intact. If we don't, > weand our daughters will remain hostage to our culture's belittling > messages. " > > (For the rest of the article and steps to change your attitude, see the > magazine itself) > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 6, 2003 Report Share Posted May 6, 2003 You know, I tried really hard not to give my kids food issues. I don't think they have them. However, they DID inherit the chubby gene. Both sides. Hit them at age 6, just like my side of the family, Predictable as clockwork. LONG before they were making their own food choices. Same as me, same as my mom. Genetics. I got red hair, short legs & fat genes. sigh Re: Do u have a daughter? > This line of discussion has caught my attention. I have two daughters (they > are now ages 19 & 17). I was determined not to raise them with food issues. > I have worked really hard at not making food and weight an issue . My > theory was that if I was successful at this....I would raise children without > eating disorders. I have blamed alot of my weight and food troubles on the > way I was raised. > Interesingly enough, my oldest daughter is now showing signs that she is on > her way to obesity. She recently got married and is in college. She and her > new husband live with us. He, unfortunately, has the most unhealthy eating > habits I have ever seen....and they are rubbing off on my daughter. I am > helplessly watching as her weight keeps climbing (while mine continues to go > away!). She has gone from a healthy size 14 to a tight 18. I feel ashamed > that I am even worried about this. Honestly, her size isn't a consideration > in the way I feel about her. I have always been very close to my daughters. > Have my theories been thrown out the window? We will see. At least I have > not ruined my relationship with her by turning our home into a battle ground > over food. At the same time I worry. I feel as though I have left her > behind in this journey toward a healthier me. > > O'Connell > Haverhill Ma > Open RNY 2/7/02 > Pre op weight:248 > Now: 136 > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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