Guest guest Posted April 30, 2004 Report Share Posted April 30, 2004 I'm new here...testing...could someone let me know if your able to read this..... Thanks, Sonja 282/170-now. Lap RNY-12/19/2001 Funny things... Over the past week I've really noticed a couple of things that have struck me as funny. The reason is probably because being 418 lbs I had forgotten how things really are. Things like; sitting in a restaurant booth without having to move the table or hoping that the table wasn't attached to the wall. Now I have at least two or three inches between the table edge and my body, this hasn't happened for maybe 12 years or more. Another thing is that I can now look straight down and see my feet, not just my toes, but most of my feet (and some unmentionables I haven't been able to see in quite a while). Then today, I put on a pair of jeans that I probably couldn't have fit into over 20 years ago. So when those of you that are considering the WLS. I want you to think about where you are now, happiness wise. I believe, men (and women) are on this earth to enjoy their lives. For those of us, for one reason or another, aren't really living, we're just in survival mode, I'm convinced that WLS is a tool by which we can break the chains of depression, paranoia, and self-doubt. I am only 90+ days post-op, but I am convinced that if I had not stuck with my decision to follow through with the surgery, I would be in the same place mentally and physically that I was just three months ago. I now have a new start on life and being 47 years old, I am more than ready to live my life as it was intended, with Joy. That joy includes my wife, my children, and perhaps more importantly myself. Thanks for this group's support. This type of medium to convey and converse is a great way to touch lives and show others that there are many other souls in the very same or similar position in life. Thanks again. -Ray Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 30, 2004 Report Share Posted April 30, 2004 I WAS ABLE TO READ IT. TINA > Re: Funny things... > > I'm new here...testing...could someone let me know if your able to read this..... > Thanks, > > Sonja > 282/170-now. > Lap RNY-12/19/2001 > Funny things... > > > > Over the past week I've really noticed a couple of things that have > struck me as funny. The reason is probably because being 418 lbs I > had forgotten how things really are. Things like; sitting in a > restaurant booth without having to move the table or hoping that the > table wasn't attached to the wall. Now I have at least two or three > inches between the table edge and my body, this hasn't happened for > maybe 12 years or more. Another thing is that I can now look straight > down and see my feet, not just my toes, but most of my feet (and some > unmentionables I haven't been able to see in quite a while). Then > today, I put on a pair of jeans that I probably couldn't have fit > into over 20 years ago. > > So when those of you that are considering the WLS. I want you to > think about where you are now, happiness wise. I believe, men (and > women) are on this earth to enjoy their lives. For those of us, for > one reason or another, aren't really living, we're just in survival > mode, I'm convinced that WLS is a tool by which we can break the > chains of depression, paranoia, and self-doubt. I am only 90+ days > post-op, but I am convinced that if I had not stuck with my decision > to follow through with the surgery, I would be in the same place > mentally and physically that I was just three months ago. I now have > a new start on life and being 47 years old, I am more than ready to > live my life as it was intended, with Joy. That joy includes my wife, > my children, and perhaps more importantly myself. > > Thanks for this group's support. This type of medium to convey and > converse is a great way to touch lives and show others that there are > many other souls in the very same or similar position in life. Thanks > again. > > -Ray > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 30, 2004 Report Share Posted April 30, 2004 Thank you Ray. You spoke directly to my heart on that one. I agree. The only way I am going to be able to enjoy the time God has given me is to have this surgery. I know that God does not want us sitting cooped up in a house unable to enjoy the wonders he has provided for us in the world. Keep up the good work, you are an inspiration to us all. Dora Still waiting on insurance approval. Funny things... Over the past week I've really noticed a couple of things that have struck me as funny. The reason is probably because being 418 lbs I had forgotten how things really are. Things like; sitting in a restaurant booth without having to move the table or hoping that the table wasn't attached to the wall. Now I have at least two or three inches between the table edge and my body, this hasn't happened for maybe 12 years or more. Another thing is that I can now look straight down and see my feet, not just my toes, but most of my feet (and some unmentionables I haven't been able to see in quite a while). Then today, I put on a pair of jeans that I probably couldn't have fit into over 20 years ago. So when those of you that are considering the WLS. I want you to think about where you are now, happiness wise. I believe, men (and women) are on this earth to enjoy their lives. For those of us, for one reason or another, aren't really living, we're just in survival mode, I'm convinced that WLS is a tool by which we can break the chains of depression, paranoia, and self-doubt. I am only 90+ days post-op, but I am convinced that if I had not stuck with my decision to follow through with the surgery, I would be in the same place mentally and physically that I was just three months ago. I now have a new start on life and being 47 years old, I am more than ready to live my life as it was intended, with Joy. That joy includes my wife, my children, and perhaps more importantly myself. Thanks for this group's support. This type of medium to convey and converse is a great way to touch lives and show others that there are many other souls in the very same or similar position in life. Thanks again. -Ray Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 30, 2004 Report Share Posted April 30, 2004 Great !! I have been wanting to join this groupoi for sometime now, however I wasn't quite sure how to sign up. So it's great I'm finally here. I'm not sure where to begin. I would like to think that there are other men, women out there that has had bypass and has lost a large amount of weight have gone thru a simular situation that I have had and still have.....do I make any sense at all ?????? I guess is what I'm trying to say is that since my weight loss I have had many, many men approach me and that was something that I was not use to. I have had a number of affairs. I'm married with 2 boys. I want to stop, but being wanted by other men (good looking) feels so incredibly wonderful. I dont mean to be so blunt about this, I just know that there are people out there that know what I'm feeling and can help me thru this. Funny things... > > > > Over the past week I've really noticed a couple of things that have > struck me as funny. The reason is probably because being 418 lbs I > had forgotten how things really are. Things like; sitting in a > restaurant booth without having to move the table or hoping that the > table wasn't attached to the wall. Now I have at least two or three > inches between the table edge and my body, this hasn't happened for > maybe 12 years or more. Another thing is that I can now look straight > down and see my feet, not just my toes, but most of my feet (and some > unmentionables I haven't been able to see in quite a while). Then > today, I put on a pair of jeans that I probably couldn't have fit > into over 20 years ago. > > So when those of you that are considering the WLS. I want you to > think about where you are now, happiness wise. I believe, men (and > women) are on this earth to enjoy their lives. For those of us, for > one reason or another, aren't really living, we're just in survival > mode, I'm convinced that WLS is a tool by which we can break the > chains of depression, paranoia, and self-doubt. I am only 90+ days > post-op, but I am convinced that if I had not stuck with my decision > to follow through with the surgery, I would be in the same place > mentally and physically that I was just three months ago. I now have > a new start on life and being 47 years old, I am more than ready to > live my life as it was intended, with Joy. That joy includes my wife, > my children, and perhaps more importantly myself. > > Thanks for this group's support. This type of medium to convey and > converse is a great way to touch lives and show others that there are > many other souls in the very same or similar position in life. Thanks > again. > > -Ray > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 30, 2004 Report Share Posted April 30, 2004 Sonja, I don't mean to be blunt, but you just have to stop. You married your husband and entered into vows with him that you are to hold sacred. You did not say I will love you until someone else comes along and wants me. Not to mention that what you are doing could do lasting harm to your children. If your children find out what you are doing that teaches them a lesson that no parent would ever want their children to learn. You are teaching them that you keep your word as long as it is easy. But as soon as there is temptation and things get a little hard to resist you just give in and go for it without thing caring that it will hurt everyone in your life. Be proud that you look good. Enjoy the complements and grow into your new self-esteem that you deserve, but don't think that because you are now thin and attractive to these men that it gives you the right to break the sanctity of your marriage. If you are a Christian pray about it. God will give you the strength to get through this and will give you and your husband the tools you will need to repair your marriage. If you are not a Christian and want to know what God has for you email me privately and I will share with you. But bottom line, you must stop and you must stop now. You are doing damage that you alone are not going to be able to fix. Being thin and attractive does not give you the right to be ugly and hateful to those who have stood beside you through the thick and the thin (literally). Dora Re: Funny things... Great !! I have been wanting to join this groupoi for sometime now, however I wasn't quite sure how to sign up. So it's great I'm finally here. I'm not sure where to begin. I would like to think that there are other men, women out there that has had bypass and has lost a large amount of weight have gone thru a simular situation that I have had and still have.....do I make any sense at all ?????? I guess is what I'm trying to say is that since my weight loss I have had many, many men approach me and that was something that I was not use to. I have had a number of affairs. I'm married with 2 boys. I want to stop, but being wanted by other men (good looking) feels so incredibly wonderful. I dont mean to be so blunt about this, I just know that there are people out there that know what I'm feeling and can help me thru this. Funny things... > > > > Over the past week I've really noticed a couple of things that have > struck me as funny. The reason is probably because being 418 lbs I > had forgotten how things really are. Things like; sitting in a > restaurant booth without having to move the table or hoping that the > table wasn't attached to the wall. Now I have at least two or three > inches between the table edge and my body, this hasn't happened for > maybe 12 years or more. Another thing is that I can now look straight > down and see my feet, not just my toes, but most of my feet (and some > unmentionables I haven't been able to see in quite a while). Then > today, I put on a pair of jeans that I probably couldn't have fit > into over 20 years ago. > > So when those of you that are considering the WLS. I want you to > think about where you are now, happiness wise. I believe, men (and > women) are on this earth to enjoy their lives. For those of us, for > one reason or another, aren't really living, we're just in survival > mode, I'm convinced that WLS is a tool by which we can break the > chains of depression, paranoia, and self-doubt. I am only 90+ days > post-op, but I am convinced that if I had not stuck with my decision > to follow through with the surgery, I would be in the same place > mentally and physically that I was just three months ago. I now have > a new start on life and being 47 years old, I am more than ready to > live my life as it was intended, with Joy. That joy includes my wife, > my children, and perhaps more importantly myself. > > Thanks for this group's support. This type of medium to convey and > converse is a great way to touch lives and show others that there are > many other souls in the very same or similar position in life. Thanks > again. > > -Ray > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 30, 2004 Report Share Posted April 30, 2004 Thank you Dora.....all that you said makes perfect sense. Believe me I know my husband has stuck with me through thick and thin...I think about this all the time. I never want to hurt him or my kids. I think I got very selfish in the begining and didn't think about anybody else but me....over the past few months my ugly behavior has toned down quite a bit. I almost think that I got it out of my system. I'm very grateful for this web site. It feels sooooooo good to be able to talk with people who have been through WLS or how are planning to have it. Funny things... > > > > Over the past week I've really noticed a couple of things that have > struck me as funny. The reason is probably because being 418 lbs I > had forgotten how things really are. Things like; sitting in a > restaurant booth without having to move the table or hoping that the > table wasn't attached to the wall. Now I have at least two or three > inches between the table edge and my body, this hasn't happened for > maybe 12 years or more. Another thing is that I can now look straight > down and see my feet, not just my toes, but most of my feet (and some > unmentionables I haven't been able to see in quite a while). Then > today, I put on a pair of jeans that I probably couldn't have fit > into over 20 years ago. > > So when those of you that are considering the WLS. I want you to > think about where you are now, happiness wise. I believe, men (and > women) are on this earth to enjoy their lives. For those of us, for > one reason or another, aren't really living, we're just in survival > mode, I'm convinced that WLS is a tool by which we can break the > chains of depression, paranoia, and self-doubt. I am only 90+ days > post-op, but I am convinced that if I had not stuck with my decision > to follow through with the surgery, I would be in the same place > mentally and physically that I was just three months ago. I now have > a new start on life and being 47 years old, I am more than ready to > live my life as it was intended, with Joy. That joy includes my wife, > my children, and perhaps more importantly myself. > > Thanks for this group's support. This type of medium to convey and > converse is a great way to touch lives and show others that there are > many other souls in the very same or similar position in life. Thanks > again. > > -Ray > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 1, 2004 Report Share Posted May 1, 2004 VERY WELL said!!! Thank you for putting that so nicely.... = ) When this topic came up (again), I cringed because of some of the harsh responses. I don't condone affairs but if someone comes to you for help or advice I don't think we should be harsh in delivering our answer otherwise, it could hurt someone or at the very least, make them tune us out. I am very happy to see your compassionate, yet *to-the-point* answer. Thank you, ICE (who is not flaming anyone - just making an observation) -- Re: Funny things... This is one side affect that the doctors don't warn you about, and I can see how it is all too common. Like the proverbial kid in a candy store, positive attention is a first to some, and can be just as addicting as any candy or drug. A lot of us have never had the wolf whistles from cars or the bad pick up lines when we were younger, and don't quite know what to do with them now. It is thrilling to have someone acknowledge us. Even now, after only 4 months, I get treated differently, but only by people who weren't interested in me as a person a hundred pounds ago. To get by in the world when we were bigger, a question we had to ask ourselves was what is more important, WHO we are, or HOW we appear to others. The question is no different now than it was a hundred pounds ago. A better question might be how good is your self esteem? The lower the self esteem, the more easily swayed by the thoughts and attitudes of others. You realize now what is happening, and it is up to you to do something about it. If you need to revamp your marriage, there are many ways. It can become almost, if not more, exciting as any affair. Plus added the benefits of strengthing your marriage and the lack of guilt that affairs can bring. It is all up to you. Good luck. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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