Re: My friends

[Guest guest]

I find women are catty, all women. ANyways, i think the thin ones defiantley

do NOT understand our excitement over losing weight. They never had to have

this problem. I am thinking I would be very tempted to tell them how I feel and

what your hubby told you. I think they need to know you are NOT bragging but

are HAPPY. Maybe they are just IGNORANT. But you ahev a right to feel great

about yourself and I know i do too. I LOVE seeing a smaller me in pics and in

the mirror. i still have more to go but I am still a happy girl. Good Luck

everything

God Bless,

Robin, NorthEastern, NY

EDD- July 27th, 2004

IT'S A BOY!!!!!!

Mommy to:

&

(twin boys 7 1/2),

Madison, daughter, 5 years and

Wife to Pup 15 years (October 31, 1988)

Gastric Bypass Surgery-

October 18th 2002

Start-378, current- 246(pregnant)

goal 170 after baby

[Guest guest]

LoriB,

That is a tough one. I have never lost the weight and had to deal with that,

but here is my two cents worth. One thing that you have to keep in mind is that

these people do not know the euphoria that you are feeling. They don't know

what it is like to not be able to live your life and now all of a sudden you

can. They have no reference point from where you have come. Another thing is

that even skinny people can have low self-esteem. And some people can be very

intimidated by people who have good self-esteem. That may also be a problem

that you are facing. These people may not feel good about themselves and they

don't understand or are jealous that you do. I have encountered that before.

You don't have to be fat to have low self-esteem. Now neither of these reasons

give them the right to be talking behind your back. You look to these people as

your friends and they should treat you as their friend. Now, what you do with

this is your call. You can ask them about it to try and reconcile your

friendship, because if you don't it will always be hanging over you. Or you can

move on and try and find people who are truly your friends and will except you

no matter what you look like or how you feel about yourself. I hope that some

of that helps, and that is just my two cents. But you continue to live your

life and enjoy every day of it and don't you dare let anyone get in the way of

that.

Dora

My " friends "

Here's a good one: Tell me how you really feel but please be kind!!!!

Okay, I've just dropped almost 80 pounds since October 3, 2003. I am

feeling proud of myself. I'm driving my husband nuts cuz I can't

stop looking at myself in mirrors, windows, anything that will show

me! I felt so horrible about myself for so many years and to see

this thin little face, blows my mind! Anyway, my co-workers are all

so happy for me. They compliment me constantly. It's embarrassing,

but I handle it graciously. Now my " friends " are another thing. I

belong to an organization that I am very active in. I thought most

of these people were really happy for me. I haven't been bragging

all that much with them even tho they are my " friends " . Immediately

after the surgery, I was asking the thin ladies how much they weighed

to gage what I would look like. I would say " How much do you

weigh? " They would smile and tell me maybe like - 135 and I

said " I'm going to be right down there with you someday!! " Then they

would smile and tell me how great that was... . A bunch of pictures

were taken of me and this group and I made a couple of comments about

how I couldn't believe it was actually " me " in those pix! People

seemed happy for me, were patting me on the back, etc.

Well that was a few months ago and now I'm finding these people are

throwing these things back in my face when I'm not around. My dh

went to a meeting that I didnt go to and he told me people were

saying nasty stuff like " Well, you should have heard Lori asking

people how much they weighed.... " or " You should have heard her when

she saw a picture of herself... " I feel like they have turned on

me. I thought cuz they were my friends and were all thin I could say

this stuff to them. I won't say anything around them about my weight

anymore I guess. By the way it's all women who are saying this stuff.

Can you all understand what I'm going through here? My Gosh, I was

so heavy and looked so awful for soooo many years. I am 49 and think

that I am just now finally really starting to like myself. I had

almost 48 years of extremely low self esteem.

That's it, just needed to vent. Has anyone else experienced mean-

ness from people they thought were their friends after weight loss?

Thanks

LoriB

LAPRNY 10/3/04 228/151/130

ft laud fl

dr. english

P.S. Just found out I can tolerate sugar. This is not good. We all

have to remember: We have a TOOL! That's all the pouch is, a tool!

[Guest guest]

Lori,

Congratulations on the great weight loss. I too know just what you are going

through. I am down 118lbs from 288. 10mos post op lap rny. Some of my friends

seem a little jealous, I guess thats what you would all it, see I have lost

weight and they have put on a few lbs, I mean they are by no means fat, but last

summer and the summers before that they were alll thinner than I was,and they

couldn't understand why I was so depressed from my weight. Well they are kind

of realizing it now. I have alot of people who say, wow you have really lost

weight, but the ones who are closest to me, don't even aknowledge my weight

loss. I guess I just feel that they should, selfish on my part ? maybe, but hey

I had to go through all of their happy summers, hearing about how they bought

new clothes and what not, well its my turn, I acctually weigh less than a few

of them now, i think that is the part that they hate, probebly because they

never thought I would acctually lose the weight. Oh well I hope I don't sound

terrible,But hey!! we feel good about ourselves right! its about damn time. So

in closing all I can say is you GO GIRL!!! take care and keep up the great

work. Sheryl

Sheryl MI.

LAP RNY

6-10-03

118 from 288 =118

gone forever!

[Guest guest]

Don't let those girls bother you, they are just jealous. I hope that I can

feel as good as you in that length of time. My surgery was 2 weeks ago and I

just don't think I have lost anything. I don't feel like I look any different.

I know I need to be patient but, it's frustrating.

in MI

308 post-op 4/2/04

[Guest guest]

,

I bet with the swelling and gas associated with the surgery it's tough to

notice physically. You should take a trip to your dr.'s office and check.

It just might make you feel better. I have a very hard time beleiving that

with this tool and following the dr.'s orders, you wouldn't lose any weight

in 2 weeks. Something just doesn't seem right to me about that. And feel

good about yourself regardless! You did something amazing for yourself, for

your health and for your life!

Take care!

Vandever

Lap/RNY 4-6-04

304-287-165

Re: Re: My " friends "

> Don't let those girls bother you, they are just jealous. I hope that I

can

> feel as good as you in that length of time. My surgery was 2 weeks ago

and I

> just don't think I have lost anything. I don't feel like I look any

different.

> I know I need to be patient but, it's frustrating.

>

> in MI

> 308 post-op 4/2/04

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I have to tell you that I was also skeptical about losing weight in

just two weeks. I had an Lap RNY on March 22, 2004. I also went

for my follow-up appointment on April 9, when I was surprised by a

30 lb weight loss!!! I've been following the diet and walking

everyday. I can drink nearly 52oz of water by sipping every 10-

15min. I couldn't tell right off that the weight was coming off,

but my sister noticed. I do not regret having this surgery for one

minute. I'm glad that I did it, it's a chance for me to live my

life to its fullest. There are a few of my family members who

weren't so supportive. They tho't I took the easy way out by having

surgery. I think if it was so easy to lose weight, I would've done

it years ago. I wish you all the best and want you to keep your

chin up. Just remember, we didn't get fat overnight it took years.

This surgery is a tool to help us along.

Verna in OK

Lap RNY 3/22/04

Post-op: 337...and losing.

> ,

>

> I bet with the swelling and gas associated with the surgery it's

tough to

> notice physically. You should take a trip to your dr.'s office

and check.

> It just might make you feel better. I have a very hard time

beleiving that

> with this tool and following the dr.'s orders, you wouldn't lose

any weight

> in 2 weeks. Something just doesn't seem right to me about that.

And feel

> good about yourself regardless! You did something amazing for

yourself, for

> your health and for your life!

>

> Take care!

>

> Vandever

> Lap/RNY 4-6-04

> 304-287-165

>

> Re: Re: My " friends "

>

>

> > Don't let those girls bother you, they are just jealous. I hope

that I

> can

> > feel as good as you in that length of time. My surgery was 2

weeks ago

> and I

> > just don't think I have lost anything. I don't feel like I look

any

> different.

> > I know I need to be patient but, it's frustrating.

> >

> > in MI

> > 308 post-op 4/2/04

> >

> >

> >