Guest guest Posted June 10, 2004 Report Share Posted June 10, 2004 In a message dated 6/10/2004 7:58:29 PM Pacific Daylight Time, MSUBeffy19@... writes: > MSUBeffy19@... Hi Bethany!!! My name is Scarlett and I'll be having surgery Sep 7th.. I wanted to congratulate you!!! great job!! I wish i could be in your shoes!! imagine 19 pounds in 2 weeks that's great!!!! Hopefully I'll be saying that soon!! Keep up the good work.. if you ever need someone to talk to I'm here!! Love, Scarlett Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 10, 2004 Report Share Posted June 10, 2004 Hi Bethany, I wouldn't count on just one support group to fit all your needs. I recommend joining several. I think you'll find that most people post privately when it's just to say " at a boy...good going...congrats, etc. " and that is the way it is supposed to work. Now another thing is that people on most lists will respond very quickly and in great volume when anyone posts needing immediate help. Spread yourself out and get involved in other people's problems and take your mind off your own. Another thing you might consider is this. After your name put your city and your surgeon and your type of surgery as well as your Pre-Op weight, current weight, and goal weight. These things will enable other list members to find out things about you to identify with. Don't get discouraged and congrats on your weight loss, it's great! Cathy NW Indiana Alverdy Pre-Opp RNY 7/26/04 285/???/150 > This morning I posted my two week update. The only responses I > received were about me getting sick. I know that we are supposed to > keep a positive attitude but that is kind of why I joined the group. > I don't expect someone to hold my hand the whole time, but I was > wanting some support. The fact that I lost 19 lbs in 13 days made me > happy. Am I not doing as well as all of you? I guess that I thought > when I checked the board that I would have had words of > encouragement or congrats. I am not meaning to sound self-centered, > in fact I have tried to help others on this website while trying to > receive support at the same time. Today has been a little depressing > and I guess that I look forward to checking the board everynight. > Well I am sorry for this message because I am trying to remain > positive. Hope that all of you are still doing great. We should all > keep up the good work and try to help one another. > > > > Bethany Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 11, 2004 Report Share Posted June 11, 2004 Bethany, Sorry that you are discouraged by the lack of response to the portion of the message you wanted a response to. Sometimes we get so caught up in our own lives and trying to help with problems that we miss the opportunity to congratulate or praise someone. I guess that everyone saw the question for help and overlooked the opportunity to encourage. Everyone on this site are great encouragers and I am sure that they would never and meant to overlook that and hurt your feelings. 19 pounds is great for 2 weeks and I can't wait to have the opportunity to do the same. You are doing great. Hang in there. We aren't always as sensitive as we should be I guess. Dora awaiting approval. Kind Of Discouraged This morning I posted my two week update. The only responses I received were about me getting sick. I know that we are supposed to keep a positive attitude but that is kind of why I joined the group. I don't expect someone to hold my hand the whole time, but I was wanting some support. The fact that I lost 19 lbs in 13 days made me happy. Am I not doing as well as all of you? I guess that I thought when I checked the board that I would have had words of encouragement or congrats. I am not meaning to sound self-centered, in fact I have tried to help others on this website while trying to receive support at the same time. Today has been a little depressing and I guess that I look forward to checking the board everynight. Well I am sorry for this message because I am trying to remain positive. Hope that all of you are still doing great. We should all keep up the good work and try to help one another. Bethany Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 11, 2004 Report Share Posted June 11, 2004 Hey Bethany, Don't get discouraged. Sometimes it takes a long time for messages that are posted to actually show up on the board and sometimes we all get busy and don't see messages right away. It sounds like you are doing good with your weightloss. Just don't get into the routine of comparing your progress with everyone else's. I know its hard to do and we want to compare our weightloss with others because then it gives you an idea of what to look forward to but remember everyones body is different and we all lose at different rates. Some people have regular plateaus and others have been losing at a steady rate and their over a year out. The most important thing is to feel good about yourself. No matter how much or how little you lose--be happy that you are losing! Remember how you were before surgery. I do that whenever I get a little frustrated and it makes me feel better. I am so much better off now than I was a year ago!! This is like a dream come true. Hang in there and keep us posted! Bridget Northam > This morning I posted my two week update. The only responses I > received were about me getting sick. I know that we are supposed to > keep a positive attitude but that is kind of why I joined the group. > I don't expect someone to hold my hand the whole time, but I was > wanting some support. The fact that I lost 19 lbs in 13 days made me > happy. Am I not doing as well as all of you? I guess that I thought > when I checked the board that I would have had words of > encouragement or congrats. I am not meaning to sound self- centered, > in fact I have tried to help others on this website while trying to > receive support at the same time. Today has been a little depressing > and I guess that I look forward to checking the board everynight. > Well I am sorry for this message because I am trying to remain > positive. Hope that all of you are still doing great. We should all > keep up the good work and try to help one another. > > > > Bethany Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 11, 2004 Report Share Posted June 11, 2004 Bethany, I feel awful that you didn't feel supported. We all support you. You have done a fabulous job. Sometimes I read these posts and feel like I'm not doing as well as others also, but then I realize that I am doing great and it's all about how I feel about myself, not what everyone else thinks. I am 3 months post-op and have lost almost 70 pounds. Couldn't have done that normally, so I'm very proud of myself and I've learn to not get discouraged. Congrats and I'm very proud of you. in Delaware Lap RNY 3/10/04 261/194/125 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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