Guest guest Posted July 13, 2003 Report Share Posted July 13, 2003 , You look just fine. I think you looked even healthier, however, in your January 15th picture--simply smashing! But, pictures can lie a bit, and maybe there is no need to put on that additional 10 pounds. HOWEVER, I would not lose any more weight if you could help it. Don't become anorexic on us. --Steve At 5:47 PM +0000 7/13/03, wrote: >... Am I in the same kind of denial >about my weight as I was when I was heavy? I'm so tired of other >people making me feel bad about my body. Does it ever end?? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 13, 2003 Report Share Posted July 13, 2003 , no matter what anyone says, if you feel comfortable where you are, then that's where you should be. But, also, at not quite 2 years, you may " fill out " a bit when your skin catches up with your weight loss. It usually starts at about 2 years out. The fast weight loss of the first couple of years often makes our skin look droopy and our faces look gaunt. This is perfectly normal, and your plastic surgeon should know this. But, people who knew you before are probably worried that you'll go the other direction, so they're comments are often just out of concern. Just explain to them that you don't plan on losing any more weight, your skin just needs a little time to play catch-up, and pretty soon, you'll have that healthy glow again. Meanwhile, be sure to take all your vitamins and protein to help it along. Good luck, in NJ ************************ > Hi folks, > I'm feeling confused and discouraged. Whereas people used to look > at me in scorn and disgust when I weighed 333 pounds, I'm still > getting negative comments at 128 pounds. The difference is that I > am now being told I look " gaunt " or " anorexic " . Even my plastic > surgeon told me he thought I should gain 10 pounds to fill out my > face and upper body a bit. These are all people who are close to me > (family and friends) making these comments. I am 5'5 " and do not > think 128 pounds is unreasonable. Am I in the same kind of denial > about my weight as I was when I was heavy? I'm so tired of other > people making me feel bad about my body. Does it ever end?? > from Washington > Lap RNY Sept 2001 > Minus 205 pounds > 333.5/128.5 > http://www.wworw.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 13, 2003 Report Share Posted July 13, 2003 I'm 5'1 " , and my " chart weight " was 122-129. Other charts use 5 ft = 100# add 5 lbs for every inch thereafter. So, at 5'1 " , I should be 105 by those stds, and then I'm now chunky at 109. Go figure. Everyone looks a lil gaunt when the wt is first gone. Hello? Poke a balloon with a pin, takes a few minutes for it to go down. Did the " gaunt statements begin about 30# from goal? Do you feel good at this wt? Can you maintain it by doing reasonable things, eating normal foods, using your supplements correctly? Too bad I didn't take pix at 14 months at 110# vs today at the same general wt. Those sharp clavicles are much softer now, the bones are less prominent. It just takes a lil while for everything to settle in, provided you are well nourished. Ask yourself this one: are you prepared to see the scale go back up? What would happen to your psyche if it did? Do you feel confident you can stop the ascent if you purposely try to add fatty tissue? I went thru this with a few people. My statement became, " Thank you for your concern. My doctor & I are working on this. " What is there to argue? Presumably you ARE working with your doctor on maintaining your goal wt, so that is true. You probably are not working with your doc to regain so your friends will feel more comfy, but they don't need to know that. Dr Fox always says " tincture of time " . And that's SO true. Don't forget there is yet to come: BUTT BE BACK. Thanks, Vitalady, Inc. T www.vitalady.com If you are interested in PayPal, please click here: https://www.paypal.com/affil/pal=orders%40vitalady.com Too thin???? > Hi folks, > I'm feeling confused and discouraged. Whereas people used to look > at me in scorn and disgust when I weighed 333 pounds, I'm still > getting negative comments at 128 pounds. The difference is that I > am now being told I look " gaunt " or " anorexic " . Even my plastic > surgeon told me he thought I should gain 10 pounds to fill out my > face and upper body a bit. These are all people who are close to me > (family and friends) making these comments. I am 5'5 " and do not > think 128 pounds is unreasonable. Am I in the same kind of denial > about my weight as I was when I was heavy? I'm so tired of other > people making me feel bad about my body. Does it ever end?? > from Washington > Lap RNY Sept 2001 > Minus 205 pounds > 333.5/128.5 > http://www.wworw.com > > > > Homepage: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-OSSG > > Unsubscribe: mailto:Graduate-OSSG-unsubscribe > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 13, 2003 Report Share Posted July 13, 2003 The " your gaunt you've lost too much weight appearance thing " is just a phase. Without changing weight we seem to fill out and get a more even body fat distribution a few months after our weight stabelizes. Butt cheeks and face cheeks that were MIA magically return taking away that too thin look. I looked at your pictures and you look fine and as long as you are healthy, your weight isn't unhealthy. I had my PCP tell me a year ago to stop losing and lucky for me my body found its happy place and maintaining has been effortless. Of course my old Cosmopolitan mentality takes over sometimes and I think I should lose more . . . ) Vicki > Hi folks, > I'm feeling confused and discouraged. Whereas people used to look > at me in scorn and disgust when I weighed 333 pounds, I'm still > getting negative comments at 128 pounds. The difference is that I > am now being told I look " gaunt " or " anorexic " . Even my plastic > surgeon told me he thought I should gain 10 pounds to fill out my > face and upper body a bit. These are all people who are close to me > (family and friends) making these comments. I am 5'5 " and do not > think 128 pounds is unreasonable. Am I in the same kind of denial > about my weight as I was when I was heavy? I'm so tired of other > people making me feel bad about my body. Does it ever end?? > from Washington > Lap RNY Sept 2001 > Minus 205 pounds > 333.5/128.5 > http://www.wworw.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 14, 2003 Report Share Posted July 14, 2003 Thank you all SO MUCH for the great feedback!!! I had not heard about the redistribution of tissue occuring around 2 years out and just assumed my butt was gone forever and my face would be gaunt forever too. It is great to know there will be additional shifting and filling out to look forward to. I also appreciate those of you who reminded me that this is about me being healthy and knowing what is best for my body. I need to stop worrying about what other people think. My family doctor thinks my weight is fine and the " ideal weight " charts show I'm where I should be. So, I am going to IGNORE the negative comments and thank people for their concern with a smile! Thanks again!! in Washington Lap RNY Sept 2001 Minus 205 pounds 333.5/128 http://www.wworw.com > Hi folks, > I'm feeling confused and discouraged. Whereas people used to look > at me in scorn and disgust when I weighed 333 pounds, I'm still > getting negative comments at 128 pounds. The difference is that I > am now being told I look " gaunt " or " anorexic " . Even my plastic > surgeon told me he thought I should gain 10 pounds to fill out my > face and upper body a bit. These are all people who are close to me(family and friends) making these comments. I am 5'5 " and do not > think 128 pounds is unreasonable. Am I in the same kind of denial > about my weight as I was when I was heavy? I'm so tired of other > people making me feel bad about my body. Does it ever end?? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 17, 2003 Report Share Posted July 17, 2003 > > you mean i might have an ass again someday?!! woohoo! ***Yeah but when am I gonna get my boobs back? <sigh> BTW, I think it is so funny about the no butt thing, at least for me, because my mom used to point out my rear looked like a table, as if I could put stuff on it and carry it around!! Now, flat butt, or as some call it, rhino butt, this is what I have now. (Not pretty when the fat leaves and the skin stays!) M Amarillo, Tx 2/28/02 > > ~stacey > Lap RNY 4/1/02 > Dr. Srungarum > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 19, 2003 Report Share Posted July 19, 2003 > > i've gone from a 44D to a 36B. don't think those suckers are comin' back > anytime soon! > > ~stacey > Lap RNY 4/1/02 Suckers. Is that a Freudian slip? LOL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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