Guest guest Posted June 14, 2004 Report Share Posted June 14, 2004 Just accept the fact that you are no longer in a caccon but have become a beautiful Butterfly ready to fly. Don't wear your big clothes to hide the beauty that you worked so hard to achive.. Ann Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 14, 2004 Report Share Posted June 14, 2004 That is wonderful Dawn! I can't wait till I'm close to my goal. If you don't mind, can you tell us how much you've lost and what your goal is. Do you ever feel like its hard to maintain or lose more weight now that you're over a year out? Take care and congrats on doing so well!! Bridget > Hello gang, > > It's been a while just living life. I have to say I am so happy since > surgery. Stairs used to be my nemesis and now I don't even blink > twice when I have to climb them. I have to say it's almost two years > since surgery and I feel fit. I'm not at my goal weight yet but I > feel by the second anniversary I will be which is Dec of this year. > I'm afraid to go clothes shopping. I don't know why I know I must > have dropped about four dress sizes. Sometimes I still see myself as > that fat girl and when I put on my clothes they are so big. When I go > to the gym everybody keeps telling me how good I look but I'm still > very negative toward my body image. It's that awful? but I still have > to work on my mindset. Even when men talk to me I'm looking behind me > because they can't be talking to me right? That's still something I'm > not comfortable with. I'm I the only one that still feels a little > shell shocked? > > Dawn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 14, 2004 Report Share Posted June 14, 2004 Dawn, What you are going through makes perfect sense. I was talking with my sister-in-law (who recently has lost a lot of weight) and some friends about this same issue recently. The thing is that when you are fat, your fat becomes your safety. You know you are safe because no one looks at you or talks to you. You can be a flirt and no one takes you serious, or you can just fade into the background. But without that layer of fat protecting you it is scary. Because the opposite sex do look at you now and they like what they see. She has assured me that it gets better with time. Give yourself time to get adjusted to the new you. You look good and now you need to get your mindset to where you feel like you look good. Hang in there. It will work itself out. Enjoy your new body and live!! Dora Awaiting approval in TN Long time no write! Hello gang, It's been a while just living life. I have to say I am so happy since surgery. Stairs used to be my nemesis and now I don't even blink twice when I have to climb them. I have to say it's almost two years since surgery and I feel fit. I'm not at my goal weight yet but I feel by the second anniversary I will be which is Dec of this year. I'm afraid to go clothes shopping. I don't know why I know I must have dropped about four dress sizes. Sometimes I still see myself as that fat girl and when I put on my clothes they are so big. When I go to the gym everybody keeps telling me how good I look but I'm still very negative toward my body image. It's that awful? but I still have to work on my mindset. Even when men talk to me I'm looking behind me because they can't be talking to me right? That's still something I'm not comfortable with. I'm I the only one that still feels a little shell shocked? Dawn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 15, 2004 Report Share Posted June 15, 2004 hi Bridget, Actually I have lost 110 pounds and trust me it aint easy because now that I can eat normally I find it still an adjustment to make the right choice in terms of food. I just keep saying to myself " self you worked too hard with working out and all to start fooling around now " and sometimes that works. I have to tell you working out will be something I have to do for the rest of my days. I would like to think of my goal rather in size then pounds. Right now I can wear an 18 I used to be a 28 so that's quite an achievement. I would like to be a comfortable 14. Dawn 355/240/???? That is wonderful Dawn! I can't wait till I'm close to my goal. If > you don't mind, can you tell us how much you've lost and what your > goal is. Do you ever feel like its hard to maintain or lose more > weight now that you're over a year out? > Take care and congrats on doing so well!! > Bridget > > > > Hello gang, > > > > It's been a while just living life. I have to say I am so happy > since > > surgery. Stairs used to be my nemesis and now I don't even blink > > twice when I have to climb them. I have to say it's almost two > years > > since surgery and I feel fit. I'm not at my goal weight yet but I > > feel by the second anniversary I will be which is Dec of this > year. > > I'm afraid to go clothes shopping. I don't know why I know I must > > have dropped about four dress sizes. Sometimes I still see myself > as > > that fat girl and when I put on my clothes they are so big. When I > go > > to the gym everybody keeps telling me how good I look but I'm > still > > very negative toward my body image. It's that awful? but I still > have > > to work on my mindset. Even when men talk to me I'm looking behind > me > > because they can't be talking to me right? That's still something > I'm > > not comfortable with. I'm I the only one that still feels a little > > shell shocked? > > > > Dawn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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