Re: Why we drift away from Amos

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Please don't criticize the happy dance too much. I found that was one of

my best exercises when I was a newbie on top of being just down right

excited I could do one more thing (ie tie my shoes) or I had lost just a

little more weight. I still happy dance in the shower every day.

I never did understand the appeal of the AMOS board. Of course, part of

my problem was that I didn't find it until I was about 15 months.

Lori Owen - Denton, Texas

SRVG 7/16/01

Dr. Ritter/Dr. Bryce

479/335/???

On Sat, 14 Jun 2003 15:11:55 EDT jacquemil@... writes:

> And the woohoo's and " happy dances " become a bit wearisome when the

> honeymoon

> phase is over, and the real work begins! Ah, the naiveté of

> newbies! But we

> were all there once, right? The grad list is the best, for reality

> checks,

> and understanding what we need to do to insure as much as possible

> that our

> futures will remain healthy, and that we WORK HARD to insure that

> our pounds are

> gone forever. It's a day to day thing....check that scale, and DO

> something

> about it. The automatic " gone forever " is definitely a fallacy if

> we don't

> learn how to do it right in the beginning. Oh yeah....a little

> woohoo and happy

> dance for the grad list!! hee hee!

>

>

> Regards~

> Jacque

> Distal RNY, 5/30/00

> Drs. Fox and Oh

> 310~126

> Beginning BMI 50.0

> Current BMI 20.3

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> > That, and not wanting to hear that the pounds are NOT gone

> " forever. "

> >

> > in NJ

> > ********************

> >

> > >

> > I get so annoyed at the AMOS board. They don't allow any postings

>

> > >that may cause some " thinking " to occur. I have finally realized

>

> > why grads drift away.

> > >

> > >Fay Bayuk

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 6/15/2003 8:17:21 AM Eastern Standard Time,

vt_rita@... writes:

> folks just don't wanna respond.

> Often I wondered if anyone read my messages

Rita, they do read. I put a counter on my profile, and found that when I

posted, most times I did not get a response but had a lot of activity on my

profile. Some people are just shy about posting. I have occasionally received

an

email telling me that they always read my posts and thanked me. It just took

time for them to get enough self-esteem to respond.

The chat room was always beyond me, I will no longer post on the message

board of AMOS, but I do send e-mails when I think I can help. I hope I will

never

forget the many posts that helped me during my journey. I did not respond

either in the beginning.

Fay Bayuk

**300/168

10/23/01

Dr.

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[Guest guest]

Boy, can I relate to that. I was one of the almost originals of a list here

in the Pacific NW, some of you here know what list I am talking about. It

got to be the same way. The farther out I got from my surgery, the more it

seems I was ignored. They didn't want to hear that I needed a revision. They

didn't want to hear that I was struggling with maintenance. It became a

click of RA RA cheerleaders. I TRIED to stay with it. Did for over 3 years

(I was on it BEFORE my surgery too). I shared in their Joy, but got no

response usually. So, I quit. They didn't want my experiences, suggestions,

my thrill for them and they didn't want to share in my joy either. It became

very cliquish.

This list, being as large as it is, if a newbie isn't persistent and

vocal....they can get lost too if they want to be an active part here. You

gotta be a little PUSHY. LOL The people on this list have also got lives.

(Funny the way that works) Lives that are no longer totally WLS controlled.

There are days I don't even think about it. Supplements have become habit

(mostly). Not something " special " or odd, just part of my life. Admittedly,

this list is also a part of my daily life, but some how it doesn't seem

particularly WLS dominated (even though it is) it just seems life as I live

it NOW dominated. I guess it is perspective. Wonder what it will be like 20

years from now?

Debbie in Gig Harbor (170cm medial)

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Re: Why we drift away from Amos

I want to add my 2cents. I agree, nothing wrong with

happy dance and celebrations. I used to share on a

regular basis on AMOS but found that I rarely got a

response or anything else...........................