Re: What to do when upset

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Not to discount your choices here but the stupidest thing I did

recently was eat way to many sugar free peanut butter cups. Talk about

dumping. The thing is I knew that this was a side effect of eating the

sugar free stuff. I have decided that if I want the peanut butter cups

that bad I'll get the real ones.

There have already been some good suggestions. I have started

keeping stuff like cashews, string cheese, and yogurt. These usually

satisfy my crunching desire as well as my sweet tooth.

Lori Owen - Denton, Texas

SRVG 7/16/01

Dr. Ritter/Dr. Bryce

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On Tue, 24 Jun 2003 21:35:56 -0000 " Lee Anne Krause "

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> This morning, I was dealt a very crushing blow... it's very off

> topic... but now in my stress... what do I snack on to bring me

> comfort... I already did the STUPID choice of Twix and Starburst.

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[Guest guest]

In a message dated 06/24/2003 5:41:35 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

romanstenseventeen@... writes:

> This morning, I was dealt a very crushing blow... it's very off

> topic... but now in my stress... what do I snack on to bring me

> comfort... I already did the STUPID choice of Twix and Starburst

It is not off topic at all. This is what we deal with after

surgery......life without the extra food. It is not easy to find other coping

mechanisms

when the food reaction is so second nature to us. Just throw away the stick you

are using to beat on yourself and get back to treating your self well.

To bring you comfort....talk to a friend...take a walk....pray...(I noticed

your screen name)

Acknowledge your feelings and then get on with life. ...and then save this

email so that you can send it to me when I am in a tough spot! Best of luck

with your journey.

O'Connell

Haverhill Ma

Open RNY 2/7/02

Pre op weight:248

Now: 136

[Guest guest]

> Failing that, for crying out loud, eat some junk if it really does make

> you feel better. We had this surgery to be NORMAL, not perfect, and most

> people do sometimes eat junk, many of them when life serves up evil

> surprises.

I think we tend to forget this, since as MO people we're so used to

thinking of our using food-as-soothing-medication as a really

pathological act--and it certainly is, when taken to the excess that

most of us did. But " normal " people *do* act this way on occasion! I

was reading a light mystery novel not long ago with a female main

character. Sorry, don't remember the title or author. The main

character wasn't heavy, nor was the author, but at one point in the

book the main character had a totally frustrating meeting in which her

new immediate boss royally screwed her in front of *his* boss. The

character drove home completely upset, angry, and frustrated, and the

author had her buying a box of chocolates and eating the whole thing

on the long car ride home. Just a tiny bit of background color in the

book, but it really struck me at the time; normal people do this too!

The problem is that, for many of us, it may (or maybe inevitably)

start the slippery slope that's so hard to get out of. It's like the

difference between a non-alcoholic having a few drinks after an

upsetting experience and an alcoholic doing the same thing, and ending

up losing sobriety for a long time. I guess we each just have to

decide how addictive we are and whether it can be an occasional

response or something we have to stay away from completely. The

answer may well vary for us depending on where we are in our

relationship with food at the moment. Hopefully we'll know in our

heart of hearts whether eating the junk can be temporary, or the start

of a disaster.

Celia