Re:Off Topic Daycare and Aggression/Long reply again

[Guest guest]

I think we are all saying the same thing but in different ways. If I

have given anyone the impression that agressive behavior is okay that

is not what I meant.

I accept the idea that there might be times when my children are

aggressive. I accept there might be times when my children receive

aggressive acts. I believe it is up to us as parents/care givers or

whoever to have a plan in place to deal with it. I accept that this

may happen I don't think it is appropriate or condoned it.

I believe that until my children (NT, ASD) understand how to deal

with anger, rejection, fear, and disappointment they may strike out.

How many of us have witnessed children ( generally preschool or

younger but sometimes older kids too)compete for the same toy and

this

degenerates in to something else iike hitting for the toy or hitting

cause they didn't get the toy. We should intervene, right? Teach

the

hitter something about sharing and dealing with others? Teach the

victim how to get adult help next time?

Or do we just kick the hitter out without giving them opportunities

to

learn how not to be aggressive and be part of the group? If it is

consistent problem by all means maybe that child isn't ready for that

group but I can not condone excluding a child because they acted out

and had a bad day.

I think there is a real difference in aggression in small children

and

aggression in older children. I also think there is a real

difference between even small children who injure others.

What I want to get through to folks here is I don't feel an

aggressive

child should be denied special education services particularly in

school and that's what's on the board in the Senate.

The fact is we don't know what 10-15 years will bring our children.

Do

we want NT or ASD kids being denied an education for a one time

event.

Who can predict what the future will hold for any of our children.

I am not talking about kids doing some Columbine thing here. I am

talking about small children acting on feelings and impulses they

don't understand. I am talking about adults needing to intervene

early to help these children regardless if it is homeschool, school

or

daycare. I am talking about aggressive behavior needing to put it on

IEPs if they are a problem.

I can predict what the future will hold for all of us if we don't

deal

with their behavior and education needs. We can pay for it now or

pay

later.

This issue before the Senate is the reason I continue to post about

this subject. I am concerned if it is enacted some kids aren't going

to get services they need.

This act will treat special needs kids like second class citizens

because it will deny them special services they need if they have

been

aggressive. Yet a NT kid who is aggressive will still have an

opportunity for a education because he or she will still received

general education services. While a ASD kid will receive general ed

services and not be able to to make use of what it being taught

because they are ASD.

For homeschoolers this still affects you because if we let special

needs kids fall into this, we will pay with our tax dollars for

services for young adults who can't help themselves, and didn't get

what they needed when they needed it. Don't forget about 30% of our

mentally ill and retarded are in our prisons. You gotta wonder.

Jeneane, Houston

Nick 5 (NT)

3 (PDD-NoS)

Beth 2 (NT)