Re: Diets, programs, supplements...towing the line...

[Guest guest]

If I were to say I didn't want a quick fix, I would definitely be

lying. I also know that doesn't make me bad. It is normal and even

healthy to want something wrong, fixed and fixed now. Is it that we

as MOs are not strong willed & unwilling to tow the line? Yeah,

maybe there are those times, but you show me someone who's MO & I'll

show you someone who has the strength & will to go on starvation diet

after starvation diet for months at a time - someone who has done

some kind of weightloss regime & stuck with it for long periods of

time. That takes a lot of strength of character.

Why can't we get it? Why can't we see that our bodies handle carbs &

sugars, & insulin & metabolism & all that kind of stuff differently -

in a way that leads us to MO? Society has brainwashed us well. We

have bought into the " bad, bad person " syndrome, feeling we are weak-

willed, undiscipline, etc.

My shrink once asked me how could I be weak-willed & undisciplined

when I worked 3 jobs to put myself though undergraduate school while

maintaining a good GPA & I had 5 year old twins when I started

graduate school & worked & maintained a 4.0 GPA. I am an excellent

professor, counseling intern supervisor, therapist, wife, mother. I

work hard at all these things going waaaayyy above & beyond the call

of duty. Look at how much many of us have learned about our bodies &

all the research we've done. Show me anyone who goes in for an

appendedctomy or any other procedure that is armed to gills like we

are.

Yet, I often feel like I am weak, a failure, undisciplined because of

my battle with weight. Even after surgeryk, when I stopped losing, I

knew I had failed. It took sooooo long for me to even consider that

maybe the surgery was failing me.

I will always hold myself accountable when I am messing up, I will

look at myself & fight my own denial system, but I AM NOT WEAK-WILLED

NOR UNDISCIPLINED.

Vicki, many of us feel your struggle for we are in it too. I could

not run the actual marathon because of an injury. Now that's a

hoot. Me, Lorraine, having a sports injury. LOL & yeah, myhubby

tells the kids, " watch out for your mom, she's gonna kill ya. She's

trying to make up for the last 20 yrs. " Yeah, I guess I am. But it

is more that I now have the mobility to climb ladders, & go on long

hikes, & train for marathons, that I have to get out there & try

things. & yep, me, too. I have a bunch of left feet. I have been

told I can trip over the air.

So, diet, exercise, supplements - all important but for some of us,

well....we got bodies that don't necessarily get the idea.

So, I think some of us have times of not towing the line, but if that

was it - I think none of us would have needed wls.

Stop beating yourself up, Vick. The world has done that to us

enough. Self abuse is no longer allowed. & keep going out on that

limb. That's what helps us all think & therefore, grow.

Lorraine

> OK, I am going to go out on a limb now. I will probably be

blasted

> big time.

>

> Calcium. protein, iron, blah blah blah.

>

> Almost everything is addressed by exercise or good diet.

>

> I have no sympathy for people who had this operation and are not

> willing to tow the line, I, myself, have not done so well. But I

> take full responsibily for it. Excuses never got anybody thin.

>

> I am asking myself this: Am I really committed or losing weight

and

> maintaining a healthy lifestyle or do I just want a quick fix?

Will

> I be able tomaintain my good lifestyle now that all

> the kudos are gone? How will I handle stress, adversity, death,...

>

> Bring it on

>

> !

> Smiles, Vicki A.