Re: So mad!!!

[Guest guest]

Well now, Jane, ... You're in a unique situation to give the rest of

us the straight poop, as it were...

Maybe I've been watching too much of Dr. 90210, or whatever that

thing is about the Beverly Hills plastic surgeons...

But does your husband suggest, that after you're all healed and over

this stuff, that he or some other doc could/should/would make more

amendments to your symmetry? (I was just amazed to see that one

woman on that program took her child to her husband's office and

commented that he was being passed around among five or six women,

herself included, all of whom had had breast enlargments in the

hands of her husband. Nothing wrong with it, of course, but sort of

a startling thought!)

Does he talk with you about the aftereffects of the steroids and

anesthesia (I was warned about the depressive and mood-altering

effects both can have; but by docs and laymen who were not having to

live with me while I went through it! My problems were there, but

were minimal, and I was neither wired nor banded.)

I don't expect to ever have perfect looks -- whatever they are --

and I have all sorts of lumps and bumps where I shouldn't. I do

really care about keeping my teeth until I exit, and I think the jaw

surgery maybe made that possible. Just wondering what your hubby

suggests.

I think he's really swuft in telling you that you're examining your

face more critically than anyone else ever would. (unless you wanna

be Vicki Blodgett in " A Star Is Born, " -- remember the scene with

the eyebrows?)

He sounds like a sane and most excellent doc, to me.

And honey, your nose may just be what makes your face the one he

loves the best!

C

>

> Dan, new to the sight but not new to unplanned breakdowns. I am

only

> 10 days post op. Look Your post op pictures looked much better.

I

> too had unrealistic expectations about my outcome. After a few

day I

> looked in the mirroe and asked my husband, Does my chin still tilt

to

> the right a little?? AFTER ALL THIS SUFFERING??? And I did suffer

the

> first week. On another message board everyone was saying how

perfect

> their surgery went no pain no fear perfect results and I just

> couldn't take it anymore. I posted some pretty negative messages

my

> first week post op. But back to our expectations of perfection.

I

> was a little furiuos when I saw that the problem was only lessened

> not corrected completely and my husband ( a 4th year med student

> going into general surgery then plastic surgery residency) said

your

> chin may be off a little to the right but your bite is perfect and

> furthermore no one would ever notice that but you. And for the

first

> time... He was right. We have looked and critiqued ourselves so

much

> and so harshly at times that we forget how badly we wantedthis

done

> and how badly we are looking forward to the results. I read in a

> packet from my dr's office that many people have other procedures

> done cosmetic ones after this. I thought to myself hmmm....

That

> didn't sit well with me. Wanting the perfect smile is not me

wanting

> to perfectly commercialize my face. My chin has always poked a

> little out and I was always self conscience about it but my

husband

> didn't notice my jaw was longer on one side until after being

married

> 2 years and my orthodontist pointed it out. And we dated for 6

years

> before that! So, I began thinking about my features and their

> imperfections...my nose has a slight hump and I was just told by

my

> OS that it slants to one side! Humph! I never even noticed that.

But

> I have my dads nose and generations of his family have this nose.

It

> is not so big that it makes me feel bad about myself although it

> isn't small and I kind of felt if I go changing all

> my " imperfections " what is my daughter going to think when she

grows

> up? Although I understand completely why people do it. Cheer up!

> You look better and so do I. We just need to step away from the

> mirror a few inched and try to see ourselves the way everyone else

> does! I hope you feel better. This has been the hardest thing

I've

> ever done including childbirth! And the most depressing. I know

> we'll see results, it just seems to take awhile.

> jane

[Guest guest]

Hey Jane,

I always used to joke with my husband that when I'm about 50 and done

having kids, I will be getting plastic surgery to fix my boobs and

belly, and a facelift. But I think this surgery will last me for a

while now . I've no desire to go under the knife anymore unless I'm

about to drop dead, lol.

Irene.

>

> No, My husband was a little nervous about this whole surgery on my

> jaw due to it changing my chin and face a little. Personally, the

> whole experience makes me question having anything else

> done. . .ever! I saw that episode of Dr. 90210. I'm obsessed

> with the show. I guess he seems like such a cheeseball it humors me

> more than anything. I saw the baby being passed among the boobjobs!

> That's my insecurity more than anything on my face!! After a child

> that breastfed and loosing all this weight my chest leaves " little "

> to be desired I think-literally! But lately I'm thinking beautiful

> is how a person feels so I'm going to work on feeling beautiful in

> that department rather than taking action.

>

> Honestly I think I'm through with altering my face. I liked it

> before with all its faults, but I have wanted straight teeth since I

> was young and had braces the first time at age 15. My husband and I

> dated in highschool so I guess we are rather use to each other's

> looks. Although I joke with him about how easy it must be for him to

> have the perfect face and physique and how I'll never be perfect

> enough (are women ever?).

>

> I have a huge opinion about beauty in women. I don't think it has

> totally to do with looks. And yes I'm referring to outer beauty. I

> think it has to do with....confidence! A woman that walks like she's

> gorgeous makes people think well she must be. Just take a look at

> Simpsons hump on her little nose. One woman had a nose job

> and then stated she wanted her hump back to look like !

>

> Anyhoo, this has been so intertaining in a really blah day!

> Thanks,

> Jane

>

[Guest guest]

Hey Irene,

I am definately cured from wanting cosmetic procedures. I just am

envious of the recovery getaways that the people on extreme makeover

go to. I bet they aren't changing poopy diapers and fighting their

one year old for their syringe! She thinks its mommy's baba. How

are your stitches feeling? Do you have stitches? How often do you

put hot cold pack on each day (my husband is pestering me that I

don't do it enough each day.)

Hang in there and try to relax! I will too especially since I go to

work week after next. I hope I am up to 3 classes of 28 5th

graders. I'll definately need more Boost!

Jane

> >

> > No, My husband was a little nervous about this whole surgery on

my

> > jaw due to it changing my chin and face a little. Personally,

the

> > whole experience makes me question having anything else

> > done. . .ever! I saw that episode of Dr. 90210. I'm obsessed

> > with the show. I guess he seems like such a cheeseball it humors

me

> > more than anything. I saw the baby being passed among the

boobjobs!

> > That's my insecurity more than anything on my face!! After a

child

> > that breastfed and loosing all this weight my chest

leaves " little "

> > to be desired I think-literally! But lately I'm thinking

beautiful

> > is how a person feels so I'm going to work on feeling beautiful

in

> > that department rather than taking action.

> >

> > Honestly I think I'm through with altering my face. I liked it

> > before with all its faults, but I have wanted straight teeth

since I

> > was young and had braces the first time at age 15. My husband

and I

> > dated in highschool so I guess we are rather use to each other's

> > looks. Although I joke with him about how easy it must be for

him to

> > have the perfect face and physique and how I'll never be perfect

> > enough (are women ever?).

> >

> > I have a huge opinion about beauty in women. I don't think it

has

> > totally to do with looks. And yes I'm referring to outer

beauty. I

> > think it has to do with....confidence! A woman that walks like

she's

> > gorgeous makes people think well she must be. Just take a look

at

> > Simpsons hump on her little nose. One woman had a nose

job

> > and then stated she wanted her hump back to look like !

> >

> > Anyhoo, this has been so intertaining in a really blah day!

> > Thanks,

> > Jane

> >

[Guest guest]

Hey Jane,

Actually, I'm not sure how my stiches feel. I'm too scared to touch

the one in the middle from the upper surgery, and the lower ones I

don't really feel . I've stopped putting cold packs a week ago,

they say that it only helps in the first 2-3 days, after that it

doesn't make much difference. I'm still swollen in my cheeks, but it

is definitely not as bad as before, and I can breathe pretty well. I

have pretty good feeling on my upper face (it feels weird though

because of the swelling), and I think I'm starting to regain feeling

in my lower lip and chin - my chin started feeling very heavy and

warm, and if before I could not feel the touch, I feel it now. It's

sort of like when you get novocaine at the dentist's, and it is

starting to wear off. I hope that means I'm regaining my feeling. It

kinda gets better everyday, but very slowly. How are you doing in

this regard? I've also read that the younger you are, the better you

will regain the feeling, and I'm 27, so I hope that means I'm young

enough . I'm also taking vitamin B supplement - it helps with nerve

regeneration.

So, you'll be back to work in a week? Wow, that seems like such a

short time! Are you going to be able to talk? I'm actually thinking

of returning to work as well, because I'm bored. Luckily, I have a

laptop, so I can work from home in the beginning.

Can't wait until this splint comes off!

Take care of yourself, and try to drink some vitamins. I used my

daughter's baby liquid multivitamins in the beginning mixed in a

carnation instant breakfast chocolate flavor.

Irene.

> >

> > Hey Jane,

> >

> > I always used to joke with my husband that when I'm about 50 and

> done

> > having kids, I will be getting plastic surgery to fix my boobs and

> > belly, and a facelift. But I think this surgery will last me for a

> > while now . I've no desire to go under the knife anymore unless

> I'm

> > about to drop dead, lol.

> >

> > Irene.

> >

[Guest guest]

Irene,

This is so funny, my favorite thing that I cannot go without is my

chocolate carnation instant breakfast. At first its the only thing I

would drink, but now I drink it in the morning and try to drink other

things as well. I definately have felt I need to start vitamins.

We will be standardized testing when I go back to work, so they have

someone to read for me and I will just monitor. I can't talk at all

with my upper stitches and this darn splint! It will be

interesting. I am going to be using a lot of power point, videos,

and writing on the board. The only thing I hope is that it makes

time go by faster. I will go for 2 weeks before spring break and am

supposed to get " unwired " the week of spring break or after.

I never bothered with my top lip, but at my 1 week check up my dr

used q tips to lift my lip to see how things were healing and it hurt

so bad! He said it shouldn't hurt everything should be numb, but it

did! Maybe I'm regaining feeling. Stitches scare me. I'm just

ready for them to dissolve. I'll be 26 March 26. I so wish I could

eat on my Birthday but I think it will be closer to April 2. Shoot

just missed it! Take Care!

Jane

> > >

> > > Hey Jane,

> > >

> > > I always used to joke with my husband that when I'm about 50

and

> > done

> > > having kids, I will be getting plastic surgery to fix my boobs

and

> > > belly, and a facelift. But I think this surgery will last me

for a

> > > while now . I've no desire to go under the knife anymore

unless

> > I'm

> > > about to drop dead, lol.

> > >

> > > Irene.

> > >