Husband nervous about tenotomy

January 10, 2006

My then-5 yr old was with us, so I stayed in the hall with him, but my husband

did go in with Everett for the tenotomy. If I was alone, I would have done it

instead if necessary.

Dh was quite facinated by it all and had this great conversation with the

doctor's during the procedure that almost made me jealous I wasn't in there to

hear the actual conversation! lol...

It could go either way - if your husband really isn't comfortable with the

idea, well...men aren't always the rock we want them to be...but if it's

anything like Everett's, then it's so fast and minor it's little more than

another casting. They brought him right out to me in the hall way and he was

crying but soon calmed down and that was the end of it.

Lucas' life is going to be full of thse awful things - getting a tooth pulled,

getting stitches...and as parents I think we ought to be there with them. A few

months ago I had to help hold down for stitches and wow, he screamed so

hard my ear hurt the next day - but it had to be done, kwim?

Dr. Ponseti's clinic will not insist he go in though.

s.

Husband nervous about tenotomy

Okay everyone, Lucas' tenotomy is scheduled for the 18th. The one he

had before (here) was done under anesthesia because the doc said it

was barbaric not to. No sense in traumatizes the baby....and so on.

So, as most of you know, my husband is in Iowa City with Lucas

(without me ) and he's worried about the tenotomy. Said he

wasn't going to be in there for it. I'm said I was pretty sure the

parents were there too, but I'd double check. So, were you in there

to hold and comfort? After I told him he may have to be there, he

said he didn't think he could do it, for his sake. I told him he

needed to be there for Lucas' sake. It's so hard, sometimes I want

to tell him to suck it up and be there!!! This is the first time

he's had to deal with everything- usually I've been the bad guy

putting on the brace, taking him to appts, etc.... He said he

didn't want Lucas to think he was the one hurting him. Any advice?

Some good news- we're going to the s! Apparently they took

molds of Lucas' feet last Friday in between casts and my

husband " forgot " to tell me until yesterday.

Just a week and a half!!! I can't wait. Lucas said hi to me on the

phone! I'm going to squeeze like crazy when I see him.

Jenn

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