Re: I just have to vent.....

February 21, 2005

Most people do not know much at all about orthognathic surgery.

Since it is not surgery on any major organ or limb, some just don't

understand that it qualifies as major surgery. They just figure

that if it's only your jaw, you should be able to continue your

regular schedule right away. Sometimes you may have to remind them

about the difficult time you'll be going through after surgery.

I've been speaking to a close friend of mine about preparing for

surgery for months, and the other day she asked " Will you need to be

put asleep? " Patience is key...

>

> When it comes to jaw surgery what part of major surgery do people

not

> get? I am scheduled for upper/lower surgery March 28th (very

excited)

> and the softball league I play on every summer starts April 14th.

> When I told the " team caption " I wouldn't be able to play this

summer

> because of the surgery, her statement was " Well that gives you two

> weeks between the surgery and when softball starts that is not

enough

> time " and " You will be out the whole season " . What part of I am

> having my jaw broken do you not understand. She is not the first

one

> to make such dumb statements. My boss was taken back when I told

him

> I'm taking three weeks off. But when I told him I wanted to take

a

> lap top home with me so I could work a couple hours a day, he all

the

> sudden became more understanding. Okay I feel much better thanks

for

> letting me vent. Thanks so much for all the great information I

have

> received from this website the last year. Good luck to all.

February 21, 2005

You go right ahead and vent all you need to!! This is the place to

do it as we understand what you are going through.

Like you said, some people just don't get it, this is MAJOR surgery.

And also a majorly consuming recovery, not from a pain side as much

as an emotional side. You have to deal with a possible change in

appearence, not being able to fully participate in social functions

because so many of them evolve around food that you can't yet eat,

and even trying to watch TV gets tiring when you come to realize that

most commercials are about food!

And for your team captain and her comments, I bet you wouldn't find

her playing ball two weeks after even having wisdom teeth pulled.

Would she expect you to play two weeks after giving birth? No, and

that is a much more natural event to recover from!!

You will go great and vent here as often as you need to!

a

>

> When it comes to jaw surgery what part of major surgery do people

not

> get? I am scheduled for upper/lower surgery March 28th (very

excited)

> and the softball league I play on every summer starts April 14th.

> When I told the " team caption " I wouldn't be able to play this

summer

> because of the surgery, her statement was " Well that gives you two

> weeks between the surgery and when softball starts that is not

enough

> time " and " You will be out the whole season " . What part of I am

> having my jaw broken do you not understand. She is not the first

one

> to make such dumb statements. My boss was taken back when I told

him

> I'm taking three weeks off. But when I told him I wanted to take a

> lap top home with me so I could work a couple hours a day, he all

the

> sudden became more understanding. Okay I feel much better thanks

for

> letting me vent. Thanks so much for all the great information I

have

> received from this website the last year. Good luck to all.

February 22, 2005

a,

Thanks so much for your reply it made me feel a lot better. It's nice

to have people to talk to who understand what you are going through.

Aliesha

> >

> > When it comes to jaw surgery what part of major surgery do people

> not

> > get? I am scheduled for upper/lower surgery March 28th (very

> excited)

> > and the softball league I play on every summer starts April

14th.

> > When I told the " team caption " I wouldn't be able to play this

> summer

> > because of the surgery, her statement was " Well that gives you

two

> > weeks between the surgery and when softball starts that is not

> enough

> > time " and " You will be out the whole season " . What part of I am

> > having my jaw broken do you not understand. She is not the first

> one

> > to make such dumb statements. My boss was taken back when I told

> him

> > I'm taking three weeks off. But when I told him I wanted to take

a

> > lap top home with me so I could work a couple hours a day, he all

> the

> > sudden became more understanding. Okay I feel much better thanks

> for

> > letting me vent. Thanks so much for all the great information I

> have

> > received from this website the last year. Good luck to all.

February 22, 2005

I know how you feel. I am a dance teacher and am having double jaw

surgery in the summer. I do not have a date set yet but i am hoping

for early june. The owner of the studio asked me about 4 days in a

row if I could teach at our dance camp over the summer. She was like

well cant you just wait till after the camp to have the

surgery...umm..no considering it will take about 2 months to maybe

feel back to myself again and I would like to maybe enjoy a week of

my summer!!!

> > >

> > > When it comes to jaw surgery what part of major surgery do

people

> > not

> > > get? I am scheduled for upper/lower surgery March 28th (very

> > excited)

> > > and the softball league I play on every summer starts April

> 14th.

> > > When I told the " team caption " I wouldn't be able to play this

> > summer

> > > because of the surgery, her statement was " Well that gives you

> two

> > > weeks between the surgery and when softball starts that is not

> > enough

> > > time " and " You will be out the whole season " . What part of I

am

> > > having my jaw broken do you not understand. She is not the

first

> > one

> > > to make such dumb statements. My boss was taken back when I

told

> > him

> > > I'm taking three weeks off. But when I told him I wanted to

take

> a

> > > lap top home with me so I could work a couple hours a day, he

all

> > the

> > > sudden became more understanding. Okay I feel much better

thanks

> > for

> > > letting me vent. Thanks so much for all the great information

I

> > have

> > > received from this website the last year. Good luck to all.

February 22, 2005

I encountered some similar attitudes while I was getting ready for

surgery earlier this winter. It's not necessarily any consolation,

but I think that some of this comes from people who don't get that

orthognathic surgery is serious, MAJOR surgery that many of us

undergo because it is medically necessary. Some people, I've come to

realize, just believe that it must not be that serious because A)

it's elective and they associate it with " merely " having

plastic/cosmetic surgery.

You can try to educate some people about the realities of the

surgery, and some will be open-minded -- but be prepared, some people

just don't (or can't, or won't) hear what you're saying. I found

that out the hard way with a few people who I expected to be more

sympathetic or supportive following my surgery, and they just didn't

get why things were so hard because after all, I " just " got my jaw

worked on. It's definitey frustrating, but seems to go with the

territory at times. I found that if I could tell myself that it was

*their* problem and not mine, sometimes that helped.

Sara

> > > >

> > > > When it comes to jaw surgery what part of major surgery do

> people

> > > not

> > > > get? I am scheduled for upper/lower surgery March 28th (very

> > > excited)

> > > > and the softball league I play on every summer starts April

> > 14th.

> > > > When I told the " team caption " I wouldn't be able to play

this

> > > summer

> > > > because of the surgery, her statement was " Well that gives

you

> > two

> > > > weeks between the surgery and when softball starts that is

not

> > > enough

> > > > time " and " You will be out the whole season " . What part of I

> am

> > > > having my jaw broken do you not understand. She is not the

> first

> > > one

> > > > to make such dumb statements. My boss was taken back when I

> told

> > > him

> > > > I'm taking three weeks off. But when I told him I wanted to

> take

> > a

> > > > lap top home with me so I could work a couple hours a day, he

> all

> > > the

> > > > sudden became more understanding. Okay I feel much better

> thanks

> > > for

> > > > letting me vent. Thanks so much for all the great

information

> I

> > > have

> > > > received from this website the last year. Good luck to all.

February 22, 2005