Re: 4 days later... and still struggling

[Guest guest]

se:

I'm a bit behind in e-mail, so I'm not sure what others wrote, but your

e-mail really reached out to me. You sound like I feel when I get

overwhelmed by trying to do too many things at once and make too many

changes at once. I want to be perfect right NOW. HA! Ain't never gonna

happen! ;-)

When I get overwhelmed and have too much to work on at once, I get paralyzed

and don't accomplish anything but getting frustrated. It's an evil circle.

What works for me is to attack one small part. I've started exercising again

regularly. I tend to be the kind that doesn't exercise for six months and

then hops on the treadmill for five hours. Heck, no one would want to go

back to that! ;-) Soooo.....I'm doing 10 minutes a day right now and

working my way up. It's a small accomplishment that is making me feel good.

When I've been doing that consistently, I'm going to walk for a few more

minutes (15..and then 20..and then 25...and then 30). Once I feel very good

about that, I'll move to the next task (probably improving my food

choices....at night). One small step at a time.

se, be kind to yourself. You're overwhelmed, stressed out, and it sounds

like you're hurting on the inside from all this. And now you're sick to

boot! Take your vitamins. Exercise, but take it easy when you have a cold.

Rest.

And....be kind to yourself. I see/hear your words, and they make me want to

give you a big hug. It's so hard to accomplish everything at once, but if

you take little steps, you can do it.

Did I mention to be kind to yourself? =)

*HUGs*

Staci

Message: 22

Date: Tue, 20 May 2003 07:06:34 EDT

From: SheDreamz@...

Subject: 4 days later... and still struggling

I thought maybe posting would somehow get me back on track. And I

especially

thought so when I sat reading your responses (all of which were very

uplifting and filled with great advice) but that has not been the case.

During these last 4 days it has been just as bad as before. Nothing has

changed.

[Guest guest]

I miss the old se. A lot. I don't know what's happened to her.

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se,

SNAP OUT OF IT!!! What in the hell's wrong with you.... People change (Yes even

you), thing's change, shit happens...DEAL WITH IT!!!! Get your ass in gear, do

what you know you have to do... Ben and Jerry's Ice cream? What in the hell's

wrong with you? Throw that crap out the window.....

Sorry to seem so brutal but extreme cases call for extreme replies....

Please let me know how things come along, if you need someone to talk with hit

me up on Yahoo IM'er at rogle32 or on AIM at rlogleeln....

Move past this, get on with this new life...

Randy

4 days later... and still struggling

> I thought maybe posting would somehow get me back on track. And I especially

> thought so when I sat reading your responses (all of which were very

> uplifting and filled with great advice) but that has not been the case.

> During these last 4 days it has been just as bad as before. Nothing has

> changed.

>

> Work is still so stressful.

>

> I am still eating things that are terrible for me. Ben and Jerry's ice

> cream!!! A pint!!!

>

> I am still not taking all my vitamins like I should. Can't seem to make it

> to the store to buy the new ones the doctor wants me to take.

>

> I am still not exercising the way I should.

>

> I miss the old se. A lot. I don't know what's happened to her.

>

> I am going to the gym tonight and staying until I am covered with sweat. It

> is like the only thing I can think of doing to relieve the intense stress I

> am feeling.

>

> And I now have a cold.

>

> se

> Baltimore, MD

> Open RNY 11/22/99, Dr. Sweet, Reading, PA

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> 11/22/99 324, BMI 51

> 12/6/99 301, BMI 47

> 1/27/00 280, BMI 44

> 2/22/00 270, BMI 42

> 3/16/00 262, BMI 41

> 5/31/00 244, BMI 38 (no longer extremely obese... just plain obese)

> 7/22/00 224, BMI 35

> 9/23/00 220, BMI 34 (and still obese)

> 10/16/00 216, BMI 34

> 11/7/00 210, BMI 33 (65 pounds from goal!!!)

> 5/8/01 196, BMI 31 (new goal 157; I am 5'7 " that would give me a BMI

> of 24.6; 39 pounds to go)

> 9/13/01 196, BMI 31 (Stuck!)

> 4/2/02 200, ARGH! Very frightening moment. Hopefully I can lose back

> down to 190 quickly!

> 4/28/02 201 (started a starch-free, 4 hours a week of exercise

> program...weighed in at the gym)

> 9/22/02 Tummy Tuck, Thigh Lift, and Lower Back Lift, Dr. Shermack, s

> Hopkins, Bayview,

> Baltimore, MD -- 12 pounds of skin removed!!

> 5/15/03 208!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Ouch.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Is there a possibility that you could change your daily routine a little?

Sometimes we get stuck in ruts...doing the same thing at the same time every

day. With those ruts...we end up eating the same wrong things day after day.

Are there any jobs around the house that you have been wanting to get done?

Tackle them bit by bit on a daily basis. The more we occupy ourselves with

other tasks.....the less we think about food. Just some thoughts....things

that

have worked for me.

O'Connell

Open RNY 2/7/02

Pre op: 248 lbs

Now: 136 lbs

[Guest guest]

Staci, this is such great advice, whatever the task or challenge. It

makes it seem that much less overwhelming. In fact, it's great

advice for all of us.

in NJ

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> What works for me is to attack one small part. I've started

exercising again regularly. I tend to be the kind that doesn't

exercise for six months and then hops on the treadmill for five

hours. Heck, no one would want to go back to that! ;-) Soooo.....I'm

doing 10 minutes a day right now and working my way up. It's a small

accomplishment that is making me feel good. When I've been doing

that consistently, I'm going to walk for a few more minutes (15..and

then 20..and then 25...and then 30). Once I feel very good about

that, I'll move to the next task (probably improving my food

choices....at night). One small step at a time.