To oighrig77

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" find it difficult to communicate clearly, so I am not

> very good at interviews! "

, honey, there's nothing wrong with the way you communicate.

You may certainly be having some trouble getting the words through

your mouth and out so others can understand (especially if you're in

a lot of appliances at the moment), but your thoughts are clear, and

well expressed, so don't worry on that count!

(I'm in the business of communication... have been for 30 years, so

I'm entitled to an opinion, right?)

C.

>

> Hi Sandy ~ I can tell you that this surgery is certainly NOT

> cosmetic because where I live (in Canada) it is covered by

> healthcare ~ I'm sure the government would never consider paying

for

> a cosmetic procedure!=) Your boyfriend is basically insulting

> orthognathic surgeons the world over by saying this ~ they are

> highly skilled medical surgeons! I'm sure there are a lot of

> cosmetic surgeons who are very good at what they do, but implants

> and 'quick fixes' are very different.

>

> May I ask what type of surgery you're having done? I will be

having

> upper and lower on Feb 16th. I won't lie and say that I am not

> interested in the cosmetic enhancement this should have on my

face,

> but the major underlying reason for having this done is to have a

> normal bite. Being able to speak easily and freely, being able to

> chew properly and digest my food better, as well as having a

> comfortable smile. Then there are the added benefits of not

> constantly having tension in my jaws and headaches etc.

>

> You mentioned the job market ~ ever since I graduated from

> University I have been doing temp jobs because I lack confidence

in

> myself and find it difficult to communicate clearly, so I am not

> very good at interviews! It's your life and you only get one, so

you

> need to go after your dreams and not waste your time worrying

about

> what other ppl want you to do. This surgery is a BIG DEAL, it

isn't

> a nose job, you will need support and understanding not only in

the

> hospital but in the months following while you recover. It's

better

> to have no one around you than to have someone who is stressing

you

> out and making the process more difficult.

>

> I would suggest getting your boyfriend to look at some sites on

the

> internet about this kind of surgery. Most ppl don't understand

how

> much your bite has an effect on the rest of your health in the

long

> run. Both physically and emotionally. And ppl with normal bites

> have no right to judge anyone for wanting a chance to be normal!

>

> Good luck with everything, and remember we are all here for you ~

I

> think most of us have dealt with similar situations.

>

>