How much to tell and say

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I think you chart the safest course, Vhurgo, although not many of us

can manage to keep this stuff to ourselves, as it is something that

seems to sort of take over our thoughts for a while pre-op.

As for telling someone else what to do -- I'm with you. I'm very

reluctant to make ANY personal remarks about anyone else, unless it's

something that will definitely be perceived as a positive

compliment. " That's a gorgeous new hairdo, isn't it? " or " That

necktie is so handsome! "

I guess I, too, have been on the receiving end of too

many " helpful " " constructive criticism " that were unsolicited.

Cammie

> I guess it depends on whether you want people to know about your

full situation as to whether you tell them. I suppose I am just

happier to keep this to myself. Everyone is obviously fully aware of

the braces but I just want to get through the surgery in private.

When I had my nose job, NO ONE noticed, not even my own mother!! I

had mentioned it to a handful of people to start with so they

wouldn't be shocked or surprised but no one noticed anyway. I

shouldn't have bothered! But I did get some opinions I didn't want or

ask for - you know the people who don't believe any type of cosmetic

surgery is necessary.

> If someone is willing to share with me their concerns about their

jaw or seem to want it fixed I would possibly mention the possibility

of them having surgery especially if they already have braces.

Depends on who they are. Most likely I wouldn't say anything in most

cases. That's just me.