finding out about clubfoot or any other issues....

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Hello all...

I haven't been able to read many of the posts lately but this one did catch

me...

I was at a bible study back in the summer and there was a mom there speaking and

she had given her story on having children and all ... and to make this short,

basically she had 2 children back to back and didn't realize there were any

complications with the first that she had another soon after ... she had then

found out that the first one did have some complications and then soon after

that she realized that her second child had complications also... so needless to

say she questioned why she had had children and why God would do this .... but

she found the answer and this is what I think all parents of any child with any

type of disability and such should remember....

God makes all things beautiful... like a forest... from afar it is so beautiful,

but as you walk into that same forest you see many broken branches and so many

different shapes (and crooked branches!!~like our babies sweet crooked feet~)...

it doesn't always seem so beautiful until you stand back and look at it as God

sees it!!

This put everything in perspective for me... we DO have perfect children....and

I can say that having a child born with a clubfoot has made me a much stronger

better person!!! No matter what any of our situations are all of our children

are a gift from God and they are perfect to him and we just need to be able to

step back and see it the way he does...

I hope you all find this as interesting as I did...

Hugs to all...

Moss wrote:

Dear Lost,

When was a newborn nearly 3 years ago, I used to take him for his

weekly checkups at the same clinic where I'd done my pre-natal classes.

There were all the same moms I knew from the classes, but I was the only one

with a baby in plaster casts - these were the short casts, pre-Ponseti

treatment. It was peak summer so I'd take there in just a vest and

nappy otherwise he'd get too hot. Of course his casts were very visible and

at first I felt embarrassed and guilty that there was something 'wrong' with

my baby. I was pretty much an over-achiever and perfectionist with most of

my life and it was difficult for me to deal with.

It was horrible the first time going in with my not 'perfect' baby that I

had dreamed of having. I felt so bad that he wasn't the same as all the

others. I also felt very protective over him and wanted everyone to see my

beautiful child the way I did and not just his feet, but of course everyone

was interested in the plaster casts and I had to answer all the questions.

That day the nursing sister took me one side and talked softly so that

nobody else could hear. She said that my baby had something visible that

everyone could see, but that didn't mean that all the others were perfect,

she pointed them out. One had an undescended testicle, another had asthma,

another had milk allergies, another had colic, another had bad eczema.

I realised then that it wasn't just us - every single baby in the room had

an 'imperfection' - but they were all perfect in their own way, just like

. It made me feel so much better to think about it that way.

If I am lucky to fall pregnant again (it took a few years the first time),

I'd pray for a healthy baby, but not worry too much about another clubfoot

baby, because after you get over the initial shock and feelings associated

with having a child with clubfoot, you realise it is a relatively simple

thing to fix - with the right doctor.

I went through the mourning for that perfect child that I didn't have, but

then it became a positive experience.

's clubfeet have changed my life on many levels. They have made me more

understanding of birth defects...after meeting Dr Ponseti I have helped many

other people through the information on my website...the new charity I have

started in South Africa will bring help to even more people...and best of

all, every day brings me joy and pride when I see how well he is doing.

Your feelings are natural, I went through them too. I hope this helps and

that you find peace of mind soon and wish you and your family well.

and

Born 24 Jan 2003, bilateral clubfoot, treated by Dr Ponseti in April 2003

Moss

Steps Charity

www.steps.org.za

Cell:

>

> Does anyone know what the chances of having a second child with

> Clubfoot?

> I'm really not taking it very well and I'm scared if my husband and

I

> have another child it will have the same problem.I've already told

him

> I dont want any more children because of this reason

>