About that o.s., Jane

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Heavens, this guy sounds like a real prize!

Two suggestions:

1. Can your husband go with you to your next appointment -- with the

list of questions? Sometimes a male can get more respect from another

male, and in this case, the fact that your husband is a physician

could be an ace in the hole. And I daresay he will not refer to you

as " Baby " with your husband in the room.

(Should you have to do that? Hell no. And if any of my physicians

ever dared call me " Baby " he would have discovered that he'd backed

into a buzz saw. That is WAY out of line, in my book. Not to mention

the additional comment, which was also out of line. I would have been

inclined to give him a very cool reply, along the lines of: " No, Dr.

X, you did not. But I certainly chose to use your services because I

believed that you had the necessary skills and concern for my

wellbeing to give me an informed procedure and help me to cooperate

with the work you've done. And I would prefer to be Mrs. Butterfly to

you, just as I speak to you as Dr. Name. " And I would be very icy and

formal with him. It's better if you don't have to do that, but he

sounds like a true creep.)

2. Can you make a separate appointment (for which you pay) with the

surgeon to get your questions answered? I asked for that once with my

ortho, and at my very next appointment he made sure he took the time

to discuss with me everything I wanted to know. I didn't get the

extra appointment, but I did get his attention to my questions.

And one more suggestion: Fax or mail the questions to him not long

before whatever appointment he's supposed to talk with you about

them. I think that's unforgivable to " dodge " your questions. I can

understand whenever a caregiver has an emergency, or no time at that

moment to discuss something. I cannot abide that patronizing

attitude, though, nor an unwillingness to supply information he

should have available to you. (You wouldn't do that to his son, if

his son were one of your students, would you?)

And try not to worry too much about the position of your jaw. Ask

about it, but it's way soon, still. You don't know yet where it's

going to wind up. Ask your ortho, if he's more receptive to

questions. And I wouldn't be beyond asking for an appointment with

him to discuss it, either.

Cammie

>

> Pam!! I am sooo excited to move to Tennessee. We found something

in

> an area developing rapidly The Shallowford area? East Brainard

> part. I am just adjusting to being cut free. It feels weird like

my

> jaw wants to weeble wobble around. I am wearing rubberbands but

they

> still feel weak. I am feeling better though its weird. I forget I

> can open my mouth to breathe and cough and drink. I would say that

> is an improvement. And I did suck those mashed potatoes up in a

> jiffy. I had to ask my husband if I ate the whole bowl or was I

> wearing it?? Turns out I actually ate most of it! That makes me

feel

> so much better having a bit of food in me. As for my questions I

> wrote them down last appointment and gave them to my doctor. He

took

> a look read them to hisself and then handed them back to me and

said

> we'll go over all that next time and walked out!! The resident was

> left with me in there and he gave me an apologetic look. This

> appointment once again he dodged around my questions. I don't

> complain and I try to be very positive but he just makes me feel

> irrational for questionsand concerns. He told me today, I didn't

> pull you off the street and make you do this baby. Sigh.... Oh

well,

> hopefully I heal fine and the results are ok and I never have to go

> back to him again! My stitches are all still in tact too. He said

> he could cut them out or I could brush them real hard and

eventually

> they would fall out. I'll try brushing them. But they are still

> soar. Thanks for checking in on me I'll be searching for more

things

> to eat!

>

> Jane