Re: Blame, fault, choices, etc.............

[Guest guest]

As usual, it's not all black and white. There are elements of both sides that

enter into the obesity equation. Yes, many of us have strikes against us that

our " normal " sisters don't have. And also, yes, most of us make choices that

make those strikes against us even worse. The important thing is not so much

the cause, but addressing the problem " from here. " Where do I go from here?

What can I do/change to be successful this time? Whether it's genes or poor

choices or emotional abuse that got us here or a combination of all, plus

others, is less important than what we do to get BEYOND what put us here in

the first place. Here's to lasting success for us all.

Carol A

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In a message dated 5/17/2003 10:59:39 AM Central Daylight Time,

kateseidel@... writes:

>

> In a message dated 5/17/2003 1:40:46 AM Pacific Standard Time,

> loriem@... writes:

>

> >I recognize the accountability factor in our situation is a controversial

> >topic-in my opinion it only goes so far because of factors beyond our

> >control. But lets face it, we do make choices that help or hinder those

> >factors. (not exercising prior to when we just plain couldn't, not eating

> >sugar, etc).

> >

>

> Lorie - just wanted to let you know I agree with you completely on this

> score. In my own experience, the obese people I know (and I know a lot!),

> make poor choices. Perhaps there is a small minority who are eating the

> right # of calories for their bodies, exercising regularly, and eating

> healthy foods who still are morbidly obese, but the majority of us don't

> fall

> into that category. This opinion does make me distinctly unpopular among

> my

> obese circles - after all, we live in a " it's not my fault " society.

>

> There were certainly mitigating factors in my own situation that

> contributed

> to my obesity, but I absolutely chose not to exercise, and to continue

> eating

> unhealthy foods. As far as I can recall, no one ever showed up on my door

> step from Mcs and force fed me......

>

> Kate

>