Jane Butterfly

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You do not have to put up with all these visiting firemen who want

you to put out their fires. Would you insist on inserting yourself

in a situation where your friends found it a taxing experience? Of

course not!

Tell your husband, your kids, whoever might be around and trying to

help you that what you really need is some rest, which I am sure you

do. That nobody who's just had surgery is likely to be up to

entertaining, and that even if most they've known have been, you are

NOT. If there's something helpful, like looking after the kiddo for

you, invite them to take that on!

Nothing wrong with that. If they really want to help you, they will

either try to find out what they might be able to offer, or back

off. If they don't really want to help you, this isn't the time for

you to accommodate/ entertain them!

I can't say that enough times.

I don't go to hospitals to visit people who are post-op for just

that reason. I do sometimes try to help their families get through

the post-op period with food delivered, books to be enjoyed, etc.

But right now, it's the time for you to stamp your little skinny

foot, and say thanks, but leave me alone!!! Lock the door, if need

be.

Do, however, find out from your docs, husband, whoever, what the

heck is going on with your jawbone and throat. You may be ready for

some antibiotics/steroids/whatever...

Red bmps could also be that acne sort of reaction to the

diet/steroids/etc. Get somebody to call your surgeon's office to ask

for help.

C.

> Well, I guess I'm just having a hard time. My throat is so soar

and

> I haven't taken anything. It hurts to swallow and I tried

gargling

> with salt water but just swallowed it. I may take some of my

> daughter's liquid caugh syrup...I don't know. I'm not getting

much

> help right now and feel very overwhelmed. Last night my husband

> wanted me to get everything in order for a Tennessee Teaching

> certificate. The school board has somehow " lost " my current

> certificate thatI paid 50$ for and I can't exactly call them and

get

> it straightened out. One more thing and I don't know what I'll

do.

> I cried myself to sleep last night (which only made my sinuses

> clogged). And I have relatives over that want constant

entertainment

> (we'll see if I'm up for put put). I am still in bed right now

> afraid to get up....if only I could sleep the next two weeks off.

> And last but least...I have tiny red bumps all over my faace as of

> this morning.

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