carol A and other Brave Souls

[Guest guest]

Dear Brave Souls: Carol A., first of all, angels are coming in droves as we

speak, please lean on my prayers for your hubby and you. Hopefully, the cancer

will be encapsulated and his surgery will go well. I pray for your fear to be

removed from you, and from your DH. Hang in there... help is coming.

Just my two cent's worth re stress; to my way of thinking stress is made up

almost 100% of FEAR. Fears that I wont or will or can't or will not, or be late

or be early, or not be enough or be too much, or be repulsive or overwhelmed.

And etcetera. Blaggggghhhh.

Proposal for eating and living during higher stress than usual:

1. Exercise first thing in morning-for five minutes, step in place, walk. You

will have an accomplishment under your belt all day long. Do this every

morning. Five minutes. Every morning. Let your kids come with, or climb all over

you while you do, but do it.

2. Drink protein or eat protein for breakfast. You will have that

accomplishment and sense of routine followed then, all day long.

3. Take your meddies and morning supps before you comb your hair. You will

have the accomplishment of following a morning supp and meddie routine all day

long.

4. Fill up on dense protein during day and evening; meat, cheese, whatever

you like and can eat that has density to it.

5. Drink 8 oz of water every time you raise the cup or bottle. You need do

this only 8 times a day. About every two hours.

6. Stay away from the processed carbs, chips, candy, pasta, bread, etc. You

want them because they act as tiny tranquilizers. Take a deep breath and center

yourself instead. There is a glowing divine heart inside each person where it

is ALWAYS calm, no matter what else is occurring.

7. Dont be so afraid to ask others for help, touch, kind words, instead of

self-comforting with crappy food.

8. If you feel you will bite your arm off if you don't eat some trash right

this minute, eat it. Be done with it. Go right back to your routine immediately

after. No regrets, no flagellation, just get back on. No whining.

9. At night, say your prayers as you know them, thank for this day of

learning and seeing, ask Creator to watch over you, to calm you, to help you

remember

that with G-d there can be no fear. Ask for strength. Fear and G-d cannot

exist in the same place.

10. Sleep as much close to 8 hours as you can, every night, going to bed at

the same time at night, as much as possible. If not possible, do your best by

yourself. Sleep and dreams really do help, as Shakespeare put it, to mend up

the raveled sleeve of care.

11. Remember you are loved by those you know, and also by this crowd of

saintly, weary, weird and funny strangers, us. And that we want the very best

for

you, and care very much that you care about us in return.

12. Remember, whatever you do in the morning gives you the sense that you got

off on the right foot, this day. What you do in the morning, small, or big,

gives a sense of continuity and accomplishment all day long. What is stress?

Loss of continuity, loss of sense of mastery over anything. Mostly fear of being

out of control.

Apply yourself to some of what is under your control and you will feel better

and stronger and less afraid. Unless you live under a Palm leaf in the middle

of the Mojave, we all have stress. (maybe even then, there are scorpions you

know) The point isn't the stress. The point is reducing the parts we have

control over.

This comes with love,

ceep g-mom