Guest guest Posted June 21, 2004 Report Share Posted June 21, 2004 Dawn, My opinion is that it really isn't anyone's business how you lost weight. Personally, I have only told a few friends that I am planning on doing it. They have all been very supportive in my decision to lose weight through this method. If your high school classmates say it as a compliment, say thank you for noticing. If they asked for more details, just say... what does it matter. I am fit and healthy. Does it make you a bad person? Of course not! It makes you smart because you've done something to make yourself healthy. Eileen Are you ashamed??? Hey folks, Quick question, for those of us that have had surgery do you ever feel like not telling people that you had surgery? Do they look at you like you made a deal with the Devil? Like you couldn't do it on your own? I met a guy and he is really nice and I saw someone from school and she was like you really lost a lot of weight. I said yeah but for some reason I was reluctant to say I had surgery does that make me a bad person? I really don't think I would be where I am if I hadn't had surgery I would not feel and look as great as I do! All I can say is that I don't want the guy who just happened to be the bus driver to know that I had surgery when I bumped into my high school friend. Dawn 355/240/160 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 21, 2004 Report Share Posted June 21, 2004 never, i do not feel asamed..i feel great and look great....nora dawn200111238 wrote:Hey folks, Quick question, for those of us that have had surgery do you ever feel like not telling people that you had surgery? Do they look at you like you made a deal with the Devil? Like you couldn't do it on your own? I met a guy and he is really nice and I saw someone from school and she was like you really lost a lot of weight. I said yeah but for some reason I was reluctant to say I had surgery does that make me a bad person? I really don't think I would be where I am if I hadn't had surgery I would not feel and look as great as I do! All I can say is that I don't want the guy who just happened to be the bus driver to know that I had surgery when I bumped into my high school friend. Dawn 355/240/160 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 21, 2004 Report Share Posted June 21, 2004 Ashamed? No... Discreet? Yes. Here's my take on this question. I know my self. I know how many hundreds of times that I've tried to lose weight. I know how many promises I've made to my self to do what ever it took to lose the weight. It just never happened. Now, at 47 years of age with 3 children under 13, knowing myself, I needed the intervention and tool that WLS provides in order for me to live life as it was meant to be, with JOY. I am now 148 days post op, down 106 pounds with about 80 more to go for my ultimate goal. Yes, people are noticing and giving me compliments, but, I simply thank them for noticing and let them know that I still have a ways to go. I have had a few ask me what I was doing to lose the weight, I honestly answer, " I'm eating alot less... " and that's all I say. Unless I feel I know the person enough to share more detail that's all people really need to know. Ashamed, I quess you could say to some degree that I felt some shame when I weighed 418 pounds and had the problems that go with carrying around that much weight. Now, I'm 312 and find myself wanting to reach out to folks who are struggling, but know that they have to do it for themselves, I just am here for support and cheering them on. Oh, one last thing... for the first time in probably 20 years, I was able to wrap a regular bath towel around my waist this morning... See, even as a guy, I recognize the little things. -Ray > Hey folks, > > Quick question, for those of us that have had surgery do you ever > feel like not telling people that you had surgery? Do they look at > you like you made a deal with the Devil? Like you couldn't do it on > your own? I met a guy and he is really nice and I saw someone from > school and she was like you really lost a lot of weight. I said yeah > but for some reason I was reluctant to say I had surgery does that > make me a bad person? I really don't think I would be where I am if I > hadn't had surgery I would not feel and look as great as I do! All I > can say is that I don't want the guy who just happened to be the bus > driver to know that I had surgery when I bumped into my high school > friend. > > Dawn > > 355/240/160 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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