Guest guest Posted May 13, 2006 Report Share Posted May 13, 2006 , I have not had the surgery but I was having second and third thoughts too. Then I sat down just me, myself and I, and had a good old heart to heart. I felt the same way. What would I do on holidays and get togethers etc. Then I thought about how much I hate being so preoccupied with food that seemingly everything pales in comparison. I am to the point now that I only want to feel better about myself, and have come to the conclusion that I am NOT going to always gauge my self worth on what I can or cannot eat. My relationships are more important to me than being able to eat stuff that is not healthy for me anyway. At the age of 54 I am just now learning a lot that is just more important than food. I have 4 wonderful grandsons I plan on being able to have the energy to take them to the park and do things I have not been able to do up to now. I hope I haven't hurt you feelings, I just feel very strongly in my decision and think we all need to be there before we make the final decision. I pray peace over you. Eleanor Oster wrote: NOT ME!!! Deciding to have my weight loss surgery was the second best decision I ever made, second only to marrying . It has given me a whole new life. For the first time I can remember, I feel like I'm actually a participant in my own life, instead of just a spectator.It is NORMAL to be scared before surgery! You are on the verge of a whole new life, and that can be very scary. I compare it to any other new beginning. Have you ever gotten married, or left your childhood home to go to college in a distant city, or left a job you've been at for years? You know it's the right thing to do, but OH MY GOSH! What am I doing?!? Same sort of thing.If it helps, I ended up on anti-anxiety medication for the last couple of weeks before my own surgery, just so I could sleep at night.At 18:59 05/12/2006, you wrote:>Is anyone sorry that they had the surgery?>>I feel like I will never enjoy food again.>I'm going to miss my Thanksgivings Dinner.>I'm having 2nd thoughts.>>I don't know what to do. I haven't slept, since I got my surgery date.>>Thank You,>Eleanor Ostereleanor@... (personal address)www.smallboxes.com/gastricbypass.htmSan , CAOpen RNY (100 cm bypassed) 07/15/2003 P. Fisher, M.D., Kaiser Richmond (CA)~5'9" tall05/09/2003 319 Orientation07/15/2003 ~290 SurgeryCurrent 157±2 Goal until plastics? New Yahoo! Messenger with Voice. Call regular phones from your PC and save big. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 14, 2006 Report Share Posted May 14, 2006 ... I just got home from having a fabulous Vietnamese dinner...and yes, I still enjoy food. There are things that are more difficult for me to eat...rice, noodles, bread. These things seem to swell up in my gut, and are uncomfortable. That's not to say I never eat them...I just recognize that unless I eat very very little of it, I probalby won't feel comfortable. But I have gone to many many fancy restaurants, parties, foreign countries....shoot, I had Christmas in France in a part of France where they eat extraordinarily well...and lots of it is hearty, tasty peasant food. (i.e. the good, rich and fattening stuff). I have enjoyed every meal. The difference is that I savor the flavours, and I just can't eat very much. I have pieces of chocolate occasionally, and other sweets. I drink wine sometimes. I eat lots of the things that I ate before the surgery. here's the difference: I don't eat very much. I really taste stuff instead of shoveling it in my gullet. Most of the times at restaurants, I don't eat dessert...because I'm full. I've eaten enough, and I know that if I have even one more bite, i won't be comfortable...and so I don't. But I enjoy food, and I enjoy life. in fact, I enjoy food even more now, because I don't feel guilty, like some fat glutton...and I don't worry about what people think of me anymore, I don't worry about them judging me...because I am of a normal weight now. I weigh myself everyday...and as a result, there are some days when I go up a lb., and I watch what I eat (and my exercise and water intake) a bit more strenously for a day or two, until I'm back down where I belong. But, I didn't give up food...I didn't give up loving flavorful well-prepared food. i think more about nutrition now (i.e. if I eat a bunch of mashed potatoes, I'll be too full to eat protein, which I know i need for my body). Otherwise, I'm pretty much the same.... Robynn RNY 6-08-05 Orientation Weight 261.5 Surgery Weight 235.5 Height 5;'6 " Current Weight 155 (and i don't need to lose any more, so I'm holding steady...although I may decide to go down another ten...) --- Rhinehart wrote: > , I have not had the surgery but I was having > second and third thoughts too. Then I sat down just > me, myself and I, and had a good old heart to heart. > I felt the same way. What would I do on holidays > and get togethers etc. Then I thought about how > much I hate being so preoccupied with food that > seemingly everything pales in comparison. I am to > the point now that I only want to feel better about > myself, and have come to the conclusion that I am > NOT going to always gauge my self worth on what I > can or cannot eat. My relationships are more > important to me than being able to eat stuff that is > not healthy for me anyway. At the age of 54 I am > just now learning a lot that is just more important > than food. I have 4 wonderful grandsons I plan on > being able to have the energy to take them to the > park and do things I have not been able to do up to > now. I hope I haven't hurt you feelings, I just > feel very strongly in my decision and think we all > need to be there before > we make the final decision. I pray peace over you. > > > Eleanor Oster wrote: NOT ME!!! > Deciding to have my weight loss surgery > was the second best decision I ever made, second > only to marrying . It has given me a whole > new life. For the first time I can remember, I > feel like I'm actually a participant in my own > life, instead of just a spectator. > > It is NORMAL to be scared before surgery! You are > on the verge of a whole new life, and that can be > very scary. I compare it to any other new > beginning. Have you ever gotten married, or left > your childhood home to go to college in a distant > city, or left a job you've been at for years? You > know it's the right thing to do, but OH MY GOSH! > What am I doing?!? Same sort of thing. > > If it helps, I ended up on anti-anxiety > medication for the last couple of weeks before my > own surgery, just so I could sleep at night. > > At 18:59 05/12/2006, you wrote: > >Is anyone sorry that they had the surgery? > > > >I feel like I will never enjoy food again. > >I'm going to miss my Thanksgivings Dinner. > >I'm having 2nd thoughts. > > > >I don't know what to do. I haven't slept, since I > got my surgery date. > > > >Thank You, > > > > Eleanor Oster > eleanor@... (personal address) > www.smallboxes.com/gastricbypass.htm > San , CA > Open RNY (100 cm bypassed) 07/15/2003 > P. Fisher, M.D., Kaiser Richmond (CA) > ~5'9 " tall > 05/09/2003 319 Orientation > 07/15/2003 ~290 Surgery > Current 157±2 Goal until plastics? > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 15, 2006 Report Share Posted May 15, 2006 100 pounds down, that's great. You go girl! Take care. Donna J.da6bearz wrote: To tell you the truth I was scared out of my witts. I new what I was about to do was for the better. I new it was going to help out in the long run. Then I had the surgery and I thinking oh my what have I done. Did I really do the right thing? Apparently most people say this to themselves after they have the surgery. Well I had my surgery in December I was 257 pounds when I started I am now 157 pounds and thrilled to death that I had the surgery. You will still be able to enjoy food it just takes you a little while to get use to your new pouch. I am now 5 1/2 months out and I enjoy most foods. There are days certain foods don't agree but try them again because the next time your pouch will be fine with them. > > Is anyone sorry that they had the surgery? > > I feel like I will never enjoy food again. > I'm going to miss my Thanksgivings Dinner. > I'm having 2nd thoughts. > > I don't know what to do. I haven't slept, since I got my surgery date. > > Thank You, > > Donna JordonDSJordon@... Get amazing travel prices for air and hotel in one click on Yahoo! FareChase Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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