OT-moderator other group-venting-long

[Guest guest]

I read previously here about the non-DS WLS support groups moderators

monitoring everything pro-DS/non-RNY. I think they are on a power

kick and monitor everything! Following is an " incident " that happened

to me yesterday, after a really, really, terrible day.

Someone had written in a response to an exercise question, saying " So

Diane bought me a tread-mill but that was a near tragedy. I had it in

the slowest speed walking along while I watched TV in the background.

Then suddenly, as before, I got so tired I could not put one foot in

front of the other. And the treadmill, without mercy, would throw me

off the back and if I did not fall clear of the walking service the

belt would try to beat me up and gave me some nasty rub burns!

So now my hunting dog sleeps on it when she is in the house. And of

course I do not want to disturb her. So I don't do the treadmill

thing anymore. I have even been tempted to turn it on while she

sleeps and watch her get thrown off the back like I did. But I don't

want her to get hurt. I think it is just the devil tempting me with

evil...He He ! "

I had had a rotten day, and when I read this I just cracked up. I

had to tell the guy how he lightened my mood and helped brighten my

day with this image. So I replied " I don't usually find myself

laughing alone, especially when reading these posts, but I just have

to say you were hilarious. I am sorry to say I laughed when you

described you treadmill experiences! I could just see this

happening. I am really sorry that you got hurt. I thought that

would be all the laughing, but I was wrong! That poor pup of yours,

if only she knew what you were thinking! I could imagine one of my

sons doing that when they were younger. How old did you say you

were (his name)? Thanks for the laughs. "

I get a response from the moderator saying " Since this note seems

intended for (his name) alone, could I ask you to resend it directly

to him instead of to the entire list? " At the end of a bad day, this

was just the icing on the cake for me.

I replied to the moderator, " Hi (So and so), my message was in

response to a posting (his name) had made, and will probably be

echoed by the group. I have seen many messages that were actually

personal to other people on the group that don't seem to cause

problems. I am very offended that one of the few times I respond to

something written I am rebuked. I could understand if I were asking

him to dinner, or talking to him about something that was unrelated

to what had been previously posted, but this was only a response to a

posting about exercising and treadmills! "

The moderator replied, " I'm sorry you're offended.Although the

sentiments expressed in your note to (his name) are likely felt by

many in the group, your comments were directed only to him. You are

correct that notes that are personal replies appear on OSSG, but as a

rule those notes also convey information to the rest of the group,

ask for support, or otherwise advance the group's discussion. On my

reading, your note didn't do that. (his name) will be glad to have

it, but I'm not sure what the other 4400 members of the group are

supposed to make of it.If you care to resubmit it, we'll look at it

again. But the question for us is how it relates to OSSG as a group. "

I thought these were support groups for individuals in a group

setting. I guess the fact that I was " supported " , and so responded

to let the person know, is not sufficient in their setting. I was

really upset by this whole scenario.

Then some one was looking for a ketchup recipe. I replied " I had a

recipe for ketchup. I will look for it when I get home from work

tonight if you still would like one. I hope that this is of interest

to enough people in this group not to get rejected by the moderators

like my other response to a story told did. If it does get sent back

to me as being inappropriate, just remove my name from the list. "

Apparently they rejected it, because I haven't received any more

postings.

I am feeling rejected by a group I joined as a support group. I am

glad that this DS site is more open minded, and hope I haven't

offended anyone by posting this, but I felt that I really had to vent

to get it off my chest. Hopefully our moderators won't reject this,

hopefully people who don't have time to read OT subjects won't have

read it as they were forwarned, and hopefully I won't have offended

any of the good readers here by posting this. I am getting paranoid

about opening my mouth (actually running my fingers.) Please be kind

in responding, my feelings have been hurt and need to mend before I

get slammed again. Am I being too sensitive?

Pam

[Guest guest]

I used to be on that list myself..but left for the same reasons. Apparently if

you are friendly with the moderators your posts go thru...no matter what mine

said they didnt go..and I dont think I need to be moderated...anything I have to

say is just as important as the next person...support is the key here...not

censorship!

AJ

pbl4him@... wrote:

>I read previously here about the non-DS WLS support groups moderators

>monitoring everything pro-DS/non-RNY. I think they are on a power

>kick and monitor everything! Following is an " incident " that happened

>to me yesterday, after a really, really, terrible day.

>

>Someone had written in a response to an exercise question, saying " So

>Diane bought me a tread-mill but that was a near tragedy. I had it in

>the slowest speed walking along while I watched TV in the background.

>Then suddenly, as before, I got so tired I could not put one foot in

>front of the other. And the treadmill, without mercy, would throw me

>off the back and if I did not fall clear of the walking service the

>belt would try to beat me up and gave me some nasty rub burns!

>

>So now my hunting dog sleeps on it when she is in the house. And of

>course I do not want to disturb her. So I don't do the treadmill

>thing anymore. I have even been tempted to turn it on while she

>sleeps and watch her get thrown off the back like I did. But I don't

>want her to get hurt. I think it is just the devil tempting me with

>evil...He He ! "

>

> I had had a rotten day, and when I read this I just cracked up. I

>had to tell the guy how he lightened my mood and helped brighten my

>day with this image. So I replied " I don't usually find myself

>laughing alone, especially when reading these posts, but I just have

>to say you were hilarious. I am sorry to say I laughed when you

>described you treadmill experiences! I could just see this

>happening. I am really sorry that you got hurt. I thought that

>would be all the laughing, but I was wrong! That poor pup of yours,

>if only she knew what you were thinking! I could imagine one of my

>sons doing that when they were younger. How old did you say you

>were (his name)? Thanks for the laughs. "

>

>I get a response from the moderator saying " Since this note seems

>intended for (his name) alone, could I ask you to resend it directly

>to him instead of to the entire list? " At the end of a bad day, this

>was just the icing on the cake for me.

>

>I replied to the moderator, " Hi (So and so), my message was in

>response to a posting (his name) had made, and will probably be

>echoed by the group. I have seen many messages that were actually

>personal to other people on the group that don't seem to cause

>problems. I am very offended that one of the few times I respond to

>something written I am rebuked. I could understand if I were asking

>him to dinner, or talking to him about something that was unrelated

>to what had been previously posted, but this was only a response to a

>posting about exercising and treadmills! "

>

>The moderator replied, " I'm sorry you're offended.Although the

>sentiments expressed in your note to (his name) are likely felt by

>many in the group, your comments were directed only to him. You are

>correct that notes that are personal replies appear on OSSG, but as a

>rule those notes also convey information to the rest of the group,

>ask for support, or otherwise advance the group's discussion. On my

>reading, your note didn't do that. (his name) will be glad to have

>it, but I'm not sure what the other 4400 members of the group are

>supposed to make of it.If you care to resubmit it, we'll look at it

>again. But the question for us is how it relates to OSSG as a group. "

>

>I thought these were support groups for individuals in a group

>setting. I guess the fact that I was " supported " , and so responded

>to let the person know, is not sufficient in their setting. I was

>really upset by this whole scenario.

>

> Then some one was looking for a ketchup recipe. I replied " I had a

>recipe for ketchup. I will look for it when I get home from work

>tonight if you still would like one. I hope that this is of interest

>to enough people in this group not to get rejected by the moderators

>like my other response to a story told did. If it does get sent back

>to me as being inappropriate, just remove my name from the list. "

>Apparently they rejected it, because I haven't received any more

>postings.

>

>I am feeling rejected by a group I joined as a support group. I am

>glad that this DS site is more open minded, and hope I haven't

>offended anyone by posting this, but I felt that I really had to vent

>to get it off my chest. Hopefully our moderators won't reject this,

>hopefully people who don't have time to read OT subjects won't have

>read it as they were forwarned, and hopefully I won't have offended

>any of the good readers here by posting this. I am getting paranoid

>about opening my mouth (actually running my fingers.) Please be kind

>in responding, my feelings have been hurt and need to mend before I

>get slammed again. Am I being too sensitive?

>Pam

>

>

>

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>

[Guest guest]

> I used to be on that list myself..but left for the same reasons.

Apparently if you are friendly with the moderators your posts go thru...no

matter what mine said they didnt go..and I dont think I need to be

moderated...anything I have to say is just as important as the next

person...support is the key here...not censorship!

>

> AJ

>

I concure with AJ!!!!!

Judie