Re: How much should you tell?

[Guest guest]

I really like Zulu's post, it's honest and sounds like what I would have thought

of a guy's perspective. Some more guy's perspectives would be interesting!

My opinion is that you obviously can't hide the fact you're having braces put

on, so tell him about that.

However since the surgery will likely be a year or so away I would avoid

mentioning that at all until you know him better of you are close to surgery and

all is going well with your relationship.

You can't regret what you haven't told anyone.

I am the type of person who is not even telling friends about this and hope to

get through the surgery phase without having to explain it to anyone. Depends on

what you are normally like.

I am single anyway and it is hard to know what I would do in your situation but

most likely what I have said above.

I am also (silly or not) not looking for any relationship at the moment as

surgery is mid year(ish) and I would rather not deal with anyone but myself.

I hope this helps.

zulu1967 wrote:

Here's a guy's perspective:

1. if the guy faults you for trying to better yourself, he's not

worth your efforts...

2. you're probably going to be more attractive when your ortho

surgery journey is complete... you may find yourself dating better

looking guys in the future ... i'm not implying that you're going

for looks exclusively, but you'd be surprised what braces and

surgery can do for your looks...

i was dating a girl for about 3 weeks before i was to get my

braces... i told her 2 days before...i waited a while to tell her

because i didn't think it was a big deal... she thought it was

great that i was doing it; however, some guys think

differently....this may be hypocritical, but I really wouldnt want a

gf to be in braces... (yeah, i know that sounds bad!!) ... i look

for someone with already good teeth, since i have nice teeth now....

having said all this, i would avoid telling him till you're more

comfortable with each other...

Disclaimer; i'm not relationship expert... I'm just giving my

opinion as a guy ...

ps. let us know what happens....

>

> I have a personal question to ask related to this entire process.

I

> will be getting my braces on in a month or so and then eventually

> having upper and lower surgery to correct an underbite. I was

hoping

> to already have the braces on, but had to delay it a little bit

due

> to needing dental work first.

>

> Here's where my question comes in...I just recently started dating

> someone I was set up with. We don't know each other very well

yet,

> but so far we have hit it off and have a lot in common. Because

we

> have not known each other very long, I have not told him anything

> about the braces/surgery. I am actually a little nervous about

> telling him because I am afraid it will overwhelm him. It would

be

> different if we had been friends for awhile first or something.

When

> I get my braces on in a month, he is obviously going to

notice.

> My question is, How much should I tell him or not tell him? Also,

> has anyone else been in a situation similar to mine and how did

you

> handle it?

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[Guest guest]

I concur completely with your comments about teeth. Mine were a bit

crooked when I started this process and look much nicer now. I was

always fairly concious of them so its a real positive from the

experiance to date.

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > I have a personal question to ask related to this

> entire

> > > > > > process. 

> > > > > > > I

> > > > > > > > will be getting my braces on in a month or so and

then

> > > > > eventually

> > > > > > > > having upper and lower surgery to correct an

> underbite.  I

> > > > was

> > > > > > > hoping

> > > > > > > > to already have the braces on, but had to delay it a

> > > little

> > > > > bit

> > > > > > > due

> > > > > > > > to needing dental work first. 

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > Here's where my question comes in...I just recently

> > > started

> > > > > > dating

> > > > > > > > someone I was set up with.  We don't know each

other

> very

> > > > well

> > > > > > > yet,

> > > > > > > > but so far we have hit it off and have a lot in

> common. 

> > > > > Because

> > > > > > > we

> > > > > > > > have not known each other very long, I have not

told

> him

> > > > > anything

> > > > > > > > about the braces/surgery.  I am actually a little

> nervous

> > > > > about

> > > > > > > > telling him because I am afraid it will overwhelm

> him.  It

> > > > > would

> > > > > > > be

> > > > > > > > different if we had been friends for awhile first or

> > > > > something. 

> > > > > > > When

> > > > > > > > I get my braces on in a month, he is obviously

going

> to

> > > > > > > notice.  

> > > > > > > > My question is, How much should I tell him or not

tell

> > > him? 

> > > > > > Also,

> > > > > > > > has anyone else been in a situation similar to mine

> and

> > > how

> > > > > did

> > > > > > > you

> > > > > > > > handle it?

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >