Re: Husband nervous about tenotomy

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They did not let us in with my granddaughter.

DeeDee

California

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I'm lucky my dh grew up in a family of boys/men, very few girls. I grew up with

only girls...and while we got hurt, nothing compared to a family of rough

boys...so he is good about the blood spills around here. If I'm alone I handle

it, but if he's here I immediately delegate!

Putting the baby to sleep would worry me ten times more also.

s.

Husband nervous about tenotomy

Okay everyone, Lucas' tenotomy is scheduled for the 18th. The one he

had before (here) was done under anesthesia because the doc said it

was barbaric not to. No sense in traumatizes the baby....and so on.

So, as most of you know, my husband is in Iowa City with Lucas

(without me ) and he's worried about the tenotomy. Said he

wasn't going to be in there for it. I'm said I was pretty sure the

parents were there too, but I'd double check. So, were you in there

to hold and comfort? After I told him he may have to be there, he

said he didn't think he could do it, for his sake. I told him he

needed to be there for Lucas' sake. It's so hard, sometimes I want

to tell him to suck it up and be there!!! This is the first time

he's had to deal with everything- usually I've been the bad guy

putting on the brace, taking him to appts, etc.... He said he

didn't want Lucas to think he was the one hurting him. Any advice?

Some good news- we're going to the s! Apparently they took

molds of Lucas' feet last Friday in between casts and my

husband " forgot " to tell me until yesterday.

Just a week and a half!!! I can't wait. Lucas said hi to me on the

phone! I'm going to squeeze like crazy when I see him.

Jenn

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Dr. Ponseti was so non-commital about it. We could stay in the room...or not.

He put no pressure on us whatsoever either direction.

s.

I don't know what it's

like in Iowa though, maybe they want the parents to

stay anyway?

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My husband and I were both in the room for the tenotomy. At first,

my husband said there was no way he would stay in there. But he did

and the procedure was over so fast, he didn't even have time to

squirm. In fact he even admitted afterwards that it wasn't so bad.

It really only takes all of 5 minutes - a couple of minutes for the

anesthetic to take effect, about a minute to get the setup ready and

2 minutes (if even that) for the actual tenotomy.

>

> Okay everyone, Lucas' tenotomy is scheduled for the 18th. The one

he

> had before (here) was done under anesthesia because the doc said

it

> was barbaric not to. No sense in traumatizes the baby....and so

on.

>

> So, as most of you know, my husband is in Iowa City with Lucas

> (without me ) and he's worried about the tenotomy. Said he

> wasn't going to be in there for it. I'm said I was pretty sure the

> parents were there too, but I'd double check. So, were you in

there

> to hold and comfort? After I told him he may have to be there, he

> said he didn't think he could do it, for his sake. I told him he

> needed to be there for Lucas' sake. It's so hard, sometimes I want

> to tell him to suck it up and be there!!! This is the first time

> he's had to deal with everything- usually I've been the bad guy

> putting on the brace, taking him to appts, etc.... He said he

> didn't want Lucas to think he was the one hurting him. Any advice?

>

> Some good news- we're going to the s! Apparently they took

> molds of Lucas' feet last Friday in between casts and my

> husband " forgot " to tell me until yesterday.

>

> Just a week and a half!!! I can't wait. Lucas said hi to me on the

> phone! I'm going to squeeze like crazy when I see him.

>

> Jenn

>