Re: Hi Randy

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Hi Lilka, I hope you don't mind my answering this but it's so relevant to me right now. I am a recovering drug addict (13 years clean) and I have to say everything you said is true. The thing about addiction is you can be addicted to anything. Let's see now, I've gone through drugs, sex, work, alcohol and I've always used food for more than sustanance. Food for me is the hardest and although I can only speak for myself, I believe it's the most difficult for everyone who admits their addicted to food - and those who don't. It's not something you can just stop - you have to eat to live. That's the truth --- you don't have to "live to eat" like alot of us do. Just the thought of giving up my "comfort" foods for the rest of my life stopped me from taking this journey a year and a half ago. Now I get to see my daughter-in-law, Kay, and she's lost 170 lbs. now. It's

amazing. I know I can do it this time, although it's still a struggle. Randy, you are in my prayers. Love to you all, SherriLilka wrote: Hi there, Randy. This procedure will be no fun. I send you all my good wishes and hope for the future. Did you ever get my message to you after we met? To repeat, it was so wonderful to meet you. You wrote a message about addiction after that and I never addressed it. I did my dissertation on fat and sex and I had to address this subject myself.You said you did not think that overeating was an addiction because we have to eat. But anything can be an addiction if you have a dependency on it that is tied to your feelings. We need sex but some people are compulsive about it. Some of us are compulsive about our eating. We are not

hungry, we are just wanting to pleasure ourselves with the taste of food. And sometimes no amount is enough. It may not be a chemical addiction but it acts on us the same. I used to go to OA and although I was an overeater, we used and found completely relevant the AA stuff. I even decided in the last few years that I was not a compulsive overeater and I have to say that for about 10 years, I did not gain weight.(Of course i almost weighed 300 LBS) But now that my food has been diminished and my stomach is so limited, I find myself grazing a bit which is not a good thing. I am wondering why I do this. I keep cherry tomatoes on the counter and I grab one as I go by. Why? I keep shaved almonds in a drawer and I grab a small amount as I go by. Why? I keep rye crackers in the same drawer and grab a few as I go by. Why? Am I hungry? Maybe. Maybe not, hard to tell. Is this an addiction? I think so. Today I put

everything away and told myself, "3 meals a day." I know there is an empty part of me that wants to be filled up or titilated. Is it an addiction? I wanted to share these thoughts with you because you are so elequent and thoughtful. I hope you can read this long paragraph. You can answer me whenever you feel better. Love to you, Randy. Lilka

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