Re: Darn

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Jackie sorry to hear about the shingles. I know that is always a real possiblity for all of us being on the immunosup. Buggers.

As for the husband issue-- a 3yr drunk is a bad deal. This guy is going to need some milk thistle-- and lots of it. His liver has to be blown out, and I'm sure with sobriety being a new concept-- that life does suck for him. Oh well.

Sounds like you both need AA. You need some support, and to keep hanging on to a relationship that is based on quicksand sucks for you.

You know, we can't change someone else's stuff-- we can only change ours. Adding this stress to your already sick body isn't doing anyone any good. You know that.

There is a wonderfful book-- THE KNIGHT IN RUSTY ARMOR-- that I absolutely love. It is about the need to go off, rescueing everything and everyone around you-- and losing your identity in the meantime.

The other book that saved my butt a few years back is Melody Beattie's THE LANGUAGE OF LETTING GO. It is an excellant book for learning to live with change. Regardless of whether it's alcoholism or a crummy relationship or living with chronic illness- this book is a true Godsend.

You know, what I read here is that you don't feel that you're worthy of a relationship built on love and respect. That my dear, is not the case-- yep, you're sick, needy, and have your stuff too-- but those things don't make us less lovable. They don't make us less.

This is a hard issue, I know that-- been there, got the shirt--yada yada....

Even when we love someone, to give them a place where they can stay dysfunctional is only hurting you.

Check out these books, and look in the mirror, remind yourself that you are worthy of goodness-- and do it until you start believing it-- and then keep on keeping on.

Compassionately,

Tracie

NS Co-owner/moderator

Subject: DarnTo: Neurosarcoidosis Date: Monday, April 6, 2009, 5:21 PM

Hi everyone.

I don't know if this is considered a flare or not but it is crappy, itchy and painful.

I have my FIRST EVER bout with shingles. I don't know how it started the doctors seem to think it is the stress I have been under lately. My other half was on a 3 year drunk and it almost killed him. The he decides to go to Texas and I have to make all the arrangements. He has been sober for about a month now but he has turned into a jerk. Nothing I do makes him happy and he finds everything wrong with the world. waa waa waa I know. I am bitching. Sorry. If I complain to my family they want me to leave him. ly I have thought of that but he is really a good man and I love him. He stuck with me through all of this when he could have just walked out. We are not married. We were 10 years ago for 9 years. I left somewhat for the same reasons. He waited for me all those years. Just before I got the monster we got back

together. He should have run like a rabbit. I know I told you all this before. I am just so confused right now. I wonder if it would be better for both of us If I did leave. I don't know I think I need to talk to someone.

well anyway the reason I am really posting is I want to know if anyone has any suggestions for this shingles. I am on a virus killer big time and I am up to 40 mg of prednisone, 3 days, 20, 3 days then my reg. I hope it works. I am using calamine lotion to help stop the itching and hydrocodine for the pain. Makes me sleep. The darn thing started on my back and is almost all the way around my waist. It has only been since Friday.

anyway can anyone help????

hope everyone else is doing fine. hoping for a pain free dayS for you all. Still in my prayers.

Scratchly yours.

Jackie

[Guest guest]

I checked out both books and our Lib. doesn't have or know of either. Are you sure about the names?

Jackie

DarnTo: Neurosarcoidosis Date: Monday, April 6, 2009, 5:21 PM

Hi everyone.

I don't know if this is considered a flare or not but it is crappy, itchy and painful.

I have my FIRST EVER bout with shingles. I don't know how it started the doctors seem to think it is the stress I have been under lately. My other half was on a 3 year drunk and it almost killed him. The he decides to go to Texas and I have to make all the arrangements. He has been sober for about a month now but he has turned into a jerk. Nothing I do makes him happy and he finds everything wrong with the world. waa waa waa I know. I am bitching. Sorry. If I complain to my family they want me to leave him. ly I have thought of that but he is really a good man and I love him. He stuck with me through all of this when he could have just walked out. We are not married. We were 10 years ago for 9 years. I left somewhat for the same reasons. He waited for me all those years. Just before I got the monster we got back together. He should have run like a rabbit. I know I told you all this before. I am just so confused right now. I wonder if it would be better for both of us If I did leave. I don't know I think I need to talk to someone.

well anyway the reason I am really posting is I want to know if anyone has any suggestions for this shingles. I am on a virus killer big time and I am up to 40 mg of prednisone, 3 days, 20, 3 days then my reg. I hope it works. I am using calamine lotion to help stop the itching and hydrocodine for the pain. Makes me sleep. The darn thing started on my back and is almost all the way around my waist. It has only been since Friday.

anyway can anyone help????

hope everyone else is doing fine. hoping for a pain free dayS for you all. Still in my prayers.

Scratchly yours.

Jackie

[Guest guest]

Yep, you'll find them in the self-help dept of and Noble or where ever. The Language of Letting Go is a daily reader that teaches a 12 step approach to letting go of whatever you may be carrying that you shouldn't.

The Knight in Rusty Armor is by Fisher-- and runs about $7.00 for a paperback.

From: jackie <shadowme810@ verizon.net>Subject: DarnTo: Neurosarcoidosis@ yahoogroups. comDate: Monday, April 6, 2009, 5:21 PM

Hi everyone.

I don't know if this is considered a flare or not but it is crappy, itchy and painful.

I have my FIRST EVER bout with shingles. I don't know how it started the doctors seem to think it is the stress I have been under lately. My other half was on a 3 year drunk and it almost killed him. The he decides to go to Texas and I have to make all the arrangements. He has been sober for about a month now but he has turned into a jerk. Nothing I do makes him happy and he finds everything wrong with the world. waa waa waa I know. I am bitching. Sorry. If I complain to my family they want me to leave him. ly I have thought of that but he is really a good man and I love him. He stuck with me through all of this when he could have just walked out. We are not married. We were 10 years ago for 9 years. I left somewhat for the same reasons. He waited for me all those years. Just before I got the monster we got back

together. He should have run like a rabbit. I know I told you all this before. I am just so confused right now. I wonder if it would be better for both of us If I did leave. I don't know I think I need to talk to someone.

well anyway the reason I am really posting is I want to know if anyone has any suggestions for this shingles. I am on a virus killer big time and I am up to 40 mg of prednisone, 3 days, 20, 3 days then my reg. I hope it works. I am using calamine lotion to help stop the itching and hydrocodine for the pain. Makes me sleep. The darn thing started on my back and is almost all the way around my waist. It has only been since Friday.

anyway can anyone help????

hope everyone else is doing fine. hoping for a pain free dayS for you all. Still in my prayers.

Scratchly yours.

Jackie

[Guest guest]

Thank you for your reply. The shingles are as everyone has said rough. the itching has slowed down thanks to Benadryl and cal. lotion. The burning to the touch is still there but my pain meds are helping. I am just plain uncomfortable. However this too shall pass. I take the generic of Valtrex so I hope that is going to help and I hope soon.

Take care and be pain free and happy.

Jackie

Darn

Hi everyone.

I don't know if this is considered a flare or not but it is crappy, itchy and painful.

I have my FIRST EVER bout with shingles. I don't know how it started the doctors seem to think it is the stress I have been under lately. My other half was on a 3 year drunk and it almost killed him. The he decides to go to Texas and I have to make all the arrangements. He has been sober for about a month now but he has turned into a jerk. Nothing I do makes him happy and he finds everything wrong with the world. waa waa waa I know. I am bitching. Sorry. If I complain to my family they want me to leave him. ly I have thought of that but he is really a good man and I love him. He stuck with me through all of this when he could have just walked out. We are not married. We were 10 years ago for 9 years. I left somewhat for the same reasons. He waited for me all those years. Just before I got the monster we got back together. He should have run like a rabbit. I know I told you all this before. I am just so confused right now. I wonder if it would be better for both of us If I did leave. I don't know I think I need to talk to someone.

well anyway the reason I am really posting is I want to know if anyone has any suggestions for this shingles. I am on a virus killer big time and I am up to 40 mg of prednisone, 3 days, 20, 3 days then my reg. I hope it works. I am using calamine lotion to help stop the itching and hydrocodine for the pain. Makes me sleep. The darn thing started on my back and is almost all the way around my waist. It has only been since Friday.

anyway can anyone help????

hope everyone else is doing fine. hoping for a pain free dayS for you all. Still in my prayers.

Scratchly yours.

Jackie

[Guest guest]

Terri

Thank you for your concern. I am feeling better with the exception of I try not to lay on the shingles thus my back is really killing me. I cried because I had no shoes then I saw the man who had no feet. I just got to keep remembering that.

Prayers and blessings to all.

Jackie

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Jackie,Sorry you are having such a bad time. I had shingles on my face and allI can say is just do what the doc suggested for relief. There is not awhole lot more you can do but try to get comfortable. The more stressthe worse it is for you. Do your best to try to relax.Praying for you.Terri G.>> Hi everyone.> I don't know if this is considered a flare or not but it is crappy,itchy and painful.> I have my FIRST EVER bout with shingles. I don't know how it startedthe doctors seem to think it is the stress I have been under lately. Myother half was on a 3 year drunk and it almost killed him. The hedecides to go to Texas and I have to make all the arrangements. He hasbeen sober for about a month now but he has turned into a jerk. NothingI do makes him happy and he finds everything wrong with the world. waawaa waa I know. I am bitching. Sorry. If I complain to my family theywant me to leave him. ly I have thought of that but he is really agood man and I love him. He stuck with me through all of this when hecould have just walked out. We are not married. We were 10 years ago for9 years. I left somewhat for the same reasons. He waited for me allthose years. Just before I got the monster we got back together. Heshould have run like a rabbit. I know I told you all this before. I amjust so confused right now. I wonder if it would be better for both ofus If I did leave. I don't know I think I need to talk to someone.> well anyway the reason I am really posting is I want to know if anyonehas any suggestions for this shingles. I am on a virus killer big timeand I am up to 40 mg of prednisone, 3 days, 20, 3 days then my reg. Ihope it works. I am using calamine lotion to help stop the itching andhydrocodine for the pain. Makes me sleep. The darn thing started on myback and is almost all the way around my waist. It has only been sinceFriday.> anyway can anyone help????> hope everyone else is doing fine. hoping for a pain free dayS for youall. Still in my prayers.> Scratchly yours.> Jackie>