Guest guest Posted April 30, 2004 Report Share Posted April 30, 2004 I'm pre op and what you describe is exactly what I want for my life. Way to go Ray and thank you for sharing your experiences with up pre ops!! in CO Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 30, 2004 Report Share Posted April 30, 2004 Haven't we heard this same post before??????? My advice....grow up and be mature enough to admit to your husband that you've done this and accept the consequences. Seek counseling as well! Sounds to me (my personal opinion only) that your trading one addiction (food) for another (sex). T. Lap RNY 6/20/03 432/246/170 Houston, Dr. Adam Naaman Visit my homepage at http://users3.ev1.net/~leeds/ " I will find my way, I can go the distance. I'll be there someday if I can be strong, I know every mile will be worth my while, I would go most anywhere to feel like I belong. " Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 30, 2004 Report Share Posted April 30, 2004 This is one side affect that the doctors don't warn you about, and I can see how it is all too common. Like the proverbial kid in a candy store, positive attention is a first to some, and can be just as addicting as any candy or drug. A lot of us have never had the wolf whistles from cars or the bad pick up lines when we were younger, and don't quite know what to do with them now. It is thrilling to have someone acknowledge us. Even now, after only 4 months, I get treated differently, but only by people who weren't interested in me as a person a hundred pounds ago. To get by in the world when we were bigger, a question we had to ask ourselves was what is more important, WHO we are, or HOW we appear to others. The question is no different now than it was a hundred pounds ago. A better question might be how good is your self esteem? The lower the self esteem, the more easily swayed by the thoughts and attitudes of others. You realize now what is happening, and it is up to you to do something about it. If you need to revamp your marriage, there are many ways. It can become almost, if not more, exciting as any affair. Plus added the benefits of strengthing your marriage and the lack of guilt that affairs can bring. It is all up to you. Good luck. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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