Guest guest Posted June 15, 2003 Report Share Posted June 15, 2003 I don't post often, but something happened yesterday that I needed to share... I was invited to attend a " graduation party " (which was really just the official reason for all of the adults to have a cookout lol) hosted by a friend of my best friend. Several people at the party hadn't seen me since my surgery, and were amazed at the changes they saw in me, not only physically but emotionally as well. I was then introduced to the ex-wife of the host. When my surgery and weight loss was brought up by my best friend, she asked me who was my surgeon. When I told her it was Dr. Harrington, she told me I was lucky to be alive, because " that man is a butcher " . It turns out that her mother had RNY with Dr. Harrington, about six months before I did, and had numerous complications, including a nicked bowel that caused massive infection. She ended up going into surgery a total of 10 times (several of these being with a different surgeon), almost died twice, and at one point was in a coma for 5 days. Shortly after this, her mother arrived and we were introduced. During our discussion (which quickly emptied the room lol) we never became adversarial, but there were several things that really stood out and had me biting my tongue. 1. She told me that repeated attempts to reach Dr. Harrington while she was in the hospital went unanswered. This from the same man who left a cocktail party early on his night off to come back to the hospital and check up on me. (I had no real complications during my surgery... I was in ICU for a day, but this had been planned due to my sleep apnea and the need to monitor my oxygen levels). 2. She stated that she ended up needing counseling to help her deal with the fact that she had so many complications as the result of " what was supposed to be such a basic and simple procedure " . From my initial consultation with Dr. Harrington to the last post I've read today, this was the first time I've ever heard the RNY described as anything other than major surgery. 3. When asked if she took her vitamins, she shrugged and said " I do whenever I think about it, but I stay pretty busy most of the time. " 4. When asked about water, she responded " I don't drink much water...95% of what I drink is either diet coke or coffee " (both of which are on the " taboo " list my surgeon provides). 5. When I asked her about protein, she said that she doesn't use supplements, but does try to eat mainly protein when she eats. While she said this, I watched her make a plate of food consisting of potato salad and batter dipped onion rings. I found myself eventually at a loss for words, and couldn't understand how someone who had so many complications and issues with her surgery could be so lackadaisical about her future health. I felt the need to admonish her for not making much of an effort to follow the post-op guidelines, and also to defend the man who literally saved my life, but did not want to confront her about something that was obviously such a sore subject with her. So I kept my mouth shut... Well, thanks to all who read this... I guess I just needed to vent. The more I think about our conversation, the more frustrated I've become, and I'm at a loss for whether or not I should have handled it differently. Monte in VA LAP RNY 1/30/02 Dr. Harrington/Commonwealth Surgeons 01/30/02 Wt. - 660 05/09/02 Wt. - 298 (-362) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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