Re: Y'all are probably tired of this by now..........

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 6/26/03 11:16:06 AM, Tuesdynite writes:

<< I know it's selfish to complain about how all the bad news affects ME, but

I just can't seem to crawl out from under the burden just now. Mom's doc

called yesterday from the nursing home and said her latest chest x-ray would

seem

to indicate she probably has lung cancer--at least there seems to be a

" shadow " or " mass " or some kind of tumor/growth on the upper right lobe. Only

way to

know for sure is wait a month, and re-xray, see if it's grown or what. Waiting

seems really hard.

Due to her age, she's not really eligible for surgery, or any other kind of

treatment, for that matter. I also took the opportunity to ask the doc if she

holds out any hope that Mom might at least at some point be able to transfer

from bed to wheelchair to toilet on her own (walking ever again has already been

ruled out from just about day one after she broke her hip). Doc said she

hates to be negative, but she really doesn't ever see that as being possible.

Haven't told Mom either of these developments.

Meantime, DH (Wase) has appts next week with 2 oncologists: one from

Northwest Community Hosp/ ian Bros Med Ctr; one from Univ of Chicago Hosp.

Expecting to start chemo within a week or so after that. So far, he does very

little

and while he gives lip service to " beating it, " his inaction belies what he's

saying; I think he's scared and depressed. Leila has done some additional

research and come up with far different (much less optimistic) prognosis figures

on colon cancer than what the first oncologist told us. Have not conveyed this

to W, of course. It's hard to know just WHAT to believe. I keep holding onto

the belief that whatever is in store for any of us is just pre-determined and I

will just keep putting one foot in front of the other and doing what needs to

be done, and God will take care of the rest.

Those of you who are praying people can say a prayer for ME, selfish as that

request may seem. It's hard to be strong in the face of so much adversity. It

could be worse, of course. I know that. Just need a little support to keep on

track.

Carol A >>

My dear girl: You are not selfish, you are the other s word, scared. I pray

for peace to come over you, for your fear to be lifted, for you to have the

signs you need, to see them, to follow...

Please see about a temporary anti-depressent for your Dh. He may not want to

take it, but it is important for him not to suffer this way when he already

faces a great deal. For you not t suffer more ovr his suffering--also.

If you have the energy, see about a second opinion for your mother. When I

cared for my father and mother in their end days, it required finding doctors

who were active instead of passive with the outdated idea of " they're just old,

what can you do? "

Give whatever is left to God. You are right, let God work through you.

I am sorry you are suffering so. This comes with a big and long and soothing

mommy hug for you. Smoothing back your hair. There, there, dear child. I am

always thinking of you. And the One Greater is most definitely with you..will

come to you through others.... you will see...

no lack of love,

ceep g-mom

[Guest guest]

Carol,

I am so sorry to hear about your Mom and DH. You are not being

selfish. You are actually taking care of yourself. I would much rather

you tell us this stuff then to hold it in and get sick or to eat over it.

Besides, that is what we are here for.

Lori Owen - Denton, Texas

SRVG 7/16/01

Dr. Ritter/Dr. Bryce

479/335/???

[Guest guest]

Dear Carol,

My heart goes out to you. Please don't ever think we don't want to

hear from you about this or anything else. I will say prayers for

you which you will need to support your DH and Mom. I would look

into a second opinion on your Mom only because of my own Mothers

experience. She passed away while " waiting " for treatment for

breast cancer. After they waited, they found it had matastisized

(sp) to her lungs. She died in her sleep very peacefully before any

pain from the cancer for which I am very grateful. I do, however,

often wonder if it had been treated immediately, maybe we could have

had her longer. Nonetheless, whatever you decide, I wish you peace

and hope you can/will take care of yourself.

Sincerely,

Diane

LAP RNY 9/99

> I know it's selfish to complain about how all the bad news affects

ME, but I

> just can't seem to crawl out from under the burden just now. Mom's

doc called

> yesterday from the nursing home and said her latest chest x-ray

would seem to

> indicate she probably has lung cancer--at least there seems to be

a " shadow "

> or " mass " or some kind of tumor/growth on the upper right lobe.

Only way to

> know for sure is wait a month, and re-xray, see if it's grown or

what. Waiting

> seems really hard.

>

> Due to her age, she's not really eligible for surgery, or any

other kind of

> treatment, for that matter. I also took the opportunity to ask the

doc if she

> holds out any hope that Mom might at least at some point be able

to transfer

> from bed to wheelchair to toilet on her own (walking ever again

has already been

> ruled out from just about day one after she broke her hip). Doc

said she

> hates to be negative, but she really doesn't ever see that as

being possible.

> Haven't told Mom either of these developments.

>

> Meantime, DH (Wase) has appts next week with 2 oncologists: one

from

> Northwest Community Hosp/ ian Bros Med Ctr; one from Univ of

Chicago Hosp.

> Expecting to start chemo within a week or so after that. So far,

he does very little

> and while he gives lip service to " beating it, " his inaction

belies what he's

> saying; I think he's scared and depressed. Leila has done some

additional

> research and come up with far different (much less optimistic)

prognosis figures

> on colon cancer than what the first oncologist told us. Have not

conveyed this

> to W, of course. It's hard to know just WHAT to believe. I keep

holding onto

> the belief that whatever is in store for any of us is just pre-

determined and I

> will just keep putting one foot in front of the other and doing

what needs to

> be done, and God will take care of the rest.

>

> Those of you who are praying people can say a prayer for ME,

selfish as that

> request may seem. It's hard to be strong in the face of so much

adversity. It

> could be worse, of course. I know that. Just need a little support

to keep on

> track.

>

> Carol A

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Well I don't know what city you are in, but if you were in the

Dallas area and needed any little favors, like your lawn mowed, or

other little jobs you don't have time for. I would be glad to try

and help out if I could. But I imagine you are 1/2 a world away from

me. In any case I will still offer my prayers for you and your loved

ones.

My parents are getting up there in years and are just a little more

fragile every time I see them. I know I don't have much more time to

enjoy thier company.

>

> In a message dated 6/26/03 11:16:06 AM, Tuesdynite writes:

>

> << I know it's selfish to complain about how all the bad news

affects ME, but

> I just can't seem to crawl out from under the burden just now.

Mom's doc

> called yesterday from the nursing home and said her latest chest x-

ray would seem

> to indicate she probably has lung cancer--at least there seems to

be a

> " shadow " or " mass " or some kind of tumor/growth on the upper right

lobe. Only way to

> know for sure is wait a month, and re-xray, see if it's grown or

what. Waiting

> seems really hard.

>

> Due to her age, she's not really eligible for surgery, or any

other kind of

> treatment, for that matter. I also took the opportunity to ask the

doc if she

> holds out any hope that Mom might at least at some point be able

to transfer

> from bed to wheelchair to toilet on her own (walking ever again

has already been

> ruled out from just about day one after she broke her hip). Doc

said she

> hates to be negative, but she really doesn't ever see that as

being possible.

> Haven't told Mom either of these developments.

>

> Meantime, DH (Wase) has appts next week with 2 oncologists: one

from

> Northwest Community Hosp/ ian Bros Med Ctr; one from Univ of

Chicago Hosp.

> Expecting to start chemo within a week or so after that. So far,

he does very little

> and while he gives lip service to " beating it, " his inaction

belies what he's

> saying; I think he's scared and depressed. Leila has done some

additional

> research and come up with far different (much less optimistic)

prognosis figures

> on colon cancer than what the first oncologist told us. Have not

conveyed this

> to W, of course. It's hard to know just WHAT to believe. I keep

holding onto

> the belief that whatever is in store for any of us is just pre-

determined and I

> will just keep putting one foot in front of the other and doing

what needs to

> be done, and God will take care of the rest.

>

> Those of you who are praying people can say a prayer for ME,

selfish as that

> request may seem. It's hard to be strong in the face of so much

adversity. It

> could be worse, of course. I know that. Just need a little support

to keep on

> track.

>

> Carol A >>

>

> My dear girl: You are not selfish, you are the other s word,

scared. I pray

> for peace to come over you, for your fear to be lifted, for you to

have the

> signs you need, to see them, to follow...

>

> Please see about a temporary anti-depressent for your Dh. He may

not want to

> take it, but it is important for him not to suffer this way when

he already

> faces a great deal. For you not t suffer more ovr his suffering--

also.

>

> If you have the energy, see about a second opinion for your

mother. When I

> cared for my father and mother in their end days, it required

finding doctors

> who were active instead of passive with the outdated idea

of " they're just old,

> what can you do? "

>

> Give whatever is left to God. You are right, let God work through

you.

> I am sorry you are suffering so. This comes with a big and long

and soothing

> mommy hug for you. Smoothing back your hair. There, there, dear

child. I am

> always thinking of you. And the One Greater is most definitely

with you..will

> come to you through others.... you will see...

> no lack of love,

> ceep g-mom

[Guest guest]

Carol you and your family are in my prayers.

I think your holding up extremly well under the all this stress.

Asking for prayers is not selfish.

Keep asking and try to take care of you. Try to find some time

for Carol.

Debby R (wa)

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>Subject: Y'all are probably tired of this by now..........

>Date: Thu, 26 Jun 2003 13:16:06 EDT

>

>I know it's selfish to complain about how all the bad news affects ME, but

>I

>just can't seem to crawl out from under the burden just now. Mom's doc

>called

>yesterday from the nursing home and said her latest chest x-ray would seem

>to

>indicate she probably has lung cancer--at least there seems to be a

> " shadow "

>or " mass " or some kind of tumor/growth on the upper right lobe. Only way to

>know for sure is wait a month, and re-xray, see if it's grown or what.

>Waiting

>seems really hard.

>

>Due to her age, she's not really eligible for surgery, or any other kind of

>treatment, for that matter. I also took the opportunity to ask the doc if

>she

>holds out any hope that Mom might at least at some point be able to

>transfer

>from bed to wheelchair to toilet on her own (walking ever again has already

>been

>ruled out from just about day one after she broke her hip). Doc said she

>hates to be negative, but she really doesn't ever see that as being

>possible.

>Haven't told Mom either of these developments.

>

>Meantime, DH (Wase) has appts next week with 2 oncologists: one from

>Northwest Community Hosp/ ian Bros Med Ctr; one from Univ of Chicago

>Hosp.

>Expecting to start chemo within a week or so after that. So far, he does

>very little

>and while he gives lip service to " beating it, " his inaction belies what

>he's

>saying; I think he's scared and depressed. Leila has done some additional

>research and come up with far different (much less optimistic) prognosis

>figures

>on colon cancer than what the first oncologist told us. Have not conveyed

>this

>to W, of course. It's hard to know just WHAT to believe. I keep holding

>onto

>the belief that whatever is in store for any of us is just pre-determined

>and I

>will just keep putting one foot in front of the other and doing what needs

>to

>be done, and God will take care of the rest.

>

>Those of you who are praying people can say a prayer for ME, selfish as

>that

>request may seem. It's hard to be strong in the face of so much adversity.

>It

>could be worse, of course. I know that. Just need a little support to keep

>on

>track.

>

>Carol A

>

>

>