To Sara

[Guest guest]

Hi Sara,

I know exactly how you feel about not being able to wait to get

everything over with. I felt the same way before my surgery. My teeth

seemed totally misaligned before surgery too.... as they say the pre

surgery bite gets worse so the post surgery bite can be correct. But

before my surgery I was only biting on on one tooth unless I moved my

jaw over a little to get more teeth to be able to touch. It's hard to

let go and trust the doctors! I had a really hard time doing that...

so far everything has been ok. But tomorrow is " showtime " when I will

see how well my teeth match up after the surgery now that I am

finally getting my splint removed. I am a little nervous but am

trying to not worry about it!

I had upper/lower/genio/one wisdom tooth removed.

About your question about your boyfriend.... My boyfriend was present

when I was finally transferred to my room after recovery. He saw me

every day for the first week or ten days. He wasn't with me every

minute of every day. He saw me at my worst pretty much, except he

didn't get to witness me vomitting the blood. (Only my dad had that

pleasure!!) My boyfriend said I looked like a dead person lying on

the bed in the hospital, but I don't think he was worried or

terrified for me. I think he knew I would be fine ultimately. He just

seemed to feel badly for me. My surgeon made me foreworn everyone

that would see me in the first few days after surgery that I would

look horrible and that they would wonder what the surgeon had done to

me and wonder what I was thinking having this done to myself. Since

your boyfriend is skeptical about you having this surgery, it might

not be helpful to him to see you that way, but it also provides a

real visual to him to imagine what you are going through. I guess his

stance on you having the surgery might affect things. My boyfriend

was fine with me having the surgery or not. He was supportive either

way and didnt really have a huge opinion about my having it. Whatever

I wanted was what he wanted, so that is a different mindframe to

start out with. If your boyfriend knows what to expect... about your

appearance and limitations about eating and speaking and everything,

it might be ok. I don't know what to tell you! Right after surgery

is NOT a time you want to hear from anyone about how you shouldn't

have had it done or anything negative like your results aren't very

good- afterall you are very swollen and it is impossible to tell what

the outcome will be two days afterwards. At that time, what you need

is morale support and encouragement.... so it would all depend on

what you thought your boyfriend would be giving you (Support? or

discouragement?) at that time right after surgery whether you would

have him with you right away or not. Regardless of how you look... it

is still you! It's not so bad that you need to cloister yourself away

from him, I don't think. But I also know personally that I wouldn't

want to subject myself to negativity and skepticism from people when

I was going through my initial recovery. Anyway, my boyfriend was

concerned for me and was really sweet... he brought me things and

kept me company which was really nice. So I was glad to have him

there in those days right after the surgery. He wasn't terrified or

anything at all. He knew I was going to be fine. I definitely told

him and my family what to expect so that there weren't surprises and

so that they were prepared... I know my boyfriend felt very sorry for

me!! I looked pretty pathetic!! One of the biggest surprises was

that I didn't look at all as bruised and swollen as my surgeon

expected I would be. He was shocked when he saw me at my one week

post- surgery check up. Ok, I've been very long winded... but I hope

this is helpful. Let me know what you decide to do! and I'm sorry it

has taken me so long to get back to you. Take care, Katja

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > > Katja,

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > > I think her cutness will take her far (with my

> patience )

> > > She

> > > > > is

> > > > > > > somuch funnow. She has all the toys she could want and

> she

> > > is

> > > > > > more

> > > > > > > concerned with the toilette paper, knobs and buttons on

> the

> > > tv,

> > > > > > and

> > > > > > > tupperware! I just want all this to be over because I

> was

> > so

> > > > > > woriied

> > > > > > > my stress and suffering would " change " her

personality.

> > But

> > > > she

> > > > > > > seems to be the same despite my face looking swollen

and

> > > > balloon

> > > > > > like

> > > > > > > and voice changing every so many weeks to muffled, less

> > > > muffled,

> > > > > > > normal. 4.5 weeks is a long time! It seems at that

> point

> > > for

> > > > me

> > > > > > is

> > > > > > > when things started moving a lot faster.

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > > Jane

> > > > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > > _____

> > > > >

> > > > >