Re: scared for my kids

[Guest guest]

Hi,

You don't need to worry about your kids. My daughters were 1 and 2 at

the time of my first surgery and 3 and 4 when I had my most recent

surgery. They were never afraid of me even when I had catheters and

screws hanging out of my jaw. They just looked at me funny for a

minute and then climbed all over me, happy to see Mommy no matter what

she looked like.

You will need some help though taking care of them for the first week

or two, especially the six month old. I was very weak and dizzy the

first two weeks so there was no way I could carry them around. I was

pretty much limited to cuddling on the couch with them. I also had to

very careful with " head butts " . They hurt but with all the screws and

plates in they couldn't do much damage.

Good luck with your surgery.

> Hello, I haven't posted in a while. I constantly have the surgery

on

> my mind although I try not to think about it. I keep telling myself

> and everyone around me that it will be a great way to lose weight.

> Anyting to lighten the thoughts of surgery. I am mostly worried

about

> my children because I have a three year old and a six month old both

> girls. I worry they will be afraid of me post op. My orthodontist

> will be puting my surgical wires on June 17 or 19 I forget, then he

> said after that my surgery can be any time. It will not be very

long.

[Guest guest]

Yes, let me second that. You're kids will do fine and be thrilled to

see you.

Our kids were a bit older so we could explain to them what was going

on, but they were fine with it.

One thing that I did when I came home from the hospital for the

first time, since I had huge swelling and black and blue bruises on

my face and neck, was to take the facial ice pack wrap that they had

given me, and I put that around my face. It worked really good to

mask the swelling and the bruising. Then once the kids got a look at

me with that on, later I took it off and they got to see everything.

Another thing that I think really helped was that I told them I was

doing really well and that it didn't hurt much and I tried to spend

a few minutes talking to them and acting cheerful, even when I was

kinda hurting after getting home.

And good luck with your surgery! -Ed

> > Hello, I haven't posted in a while. I constantly have the

surgery

> on

> > my mind although I try not to think about it. I keep telling

myself

> > and everyone around me that it will be a great way to lose

weight.

> > Anyting to lighten the thoughts of surgery. I am mostly worried

> about

> > my children because I have a three year old and a six month old

both

> > girls. I worry they will be afraid of me post op. My

orthodontist

> > will be puting my surgical wires on June 17 or 19 I forget, then

he

> > said after that my surgery can be any time. It will not be very

> long.