Guest guest Posted May 1, 2006 Report Share Posted May 1, 2006 Whoooooooowwwwwweeeee!! This chat group offers EVERYTHING!! Talk about support!! Thanks Jenn! ;-) in Cupertino Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 1, 2006 Report Share Posted May 1, 2006 I have to agree with what Robynn is saying here. I've had my own issues at work around my 153 lb weight loss. The bottom line is this: my weight and body are NOBODY'S business but my own. I tell who deserves to know. Most people are not worth the effort because I refuse to spend (waste) my time defending this surgery. It worked for me so I know it works (for me) 100%. I have no idea if it's a good idea for anyone else, and I really can't handle anyone else's problems but my own. I've got enough to deal with with just me. I also have trained people at work NOT to comment on what I'm eating. Either I eat away from them, or I simply say, " I'd prefer not to discuss what I'm eating. " And I leave it at that. If they persist, I simply repeat, " I'd prefer not to discuss what I'm eating. " When you repeat that (or something like that) very matter-of-factly people get the message really quickly. And remember, it's easier to keep the cat in the bag, but once the cat is out, it is IMPOSSIBLE to put it back in. Best of luck with this issue. I hope you are happy with the choices you make. Francisco > Sherri - your comments brings to mind the " controversy " over Star (The View) drastic weight loss and Rose O'Donnell's comments about Star keeping it secret. Big deal! So you have a gastric bypass. I'm having one too because, frankly, I CANNOT lose all this weight (160 pounds+) without it! I'm 50 (almost), outgoing, friendly and have a great life, except that I'm watching everyone else have the fun (I'm also single which is the pits at 300 pounds!!) I'm constantly on the side lines and need to get in the game, so to speak. > > Giving Star a little credit - she doesn't want to be a poster child for gastric bypass surgery, and I can understand her wanting her privacy, but whose life is it, anyway? Whether you keep it secret or let it all out - you're doing what is best for you. > > From my standpoint - when I have the surgery and get below a size 20, I'm going to shout from the mountain tops!! But then again, I'm not worried about being 50 either!! I'm embracing both GBP and 50 all at once! > > So I say - don't be ashamed or afraid to " come out " (so-to-speak) about surgery. It's not taboo any longer and definitely NOT the easy way out!! > > in Cupertino > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 1, 2006 Report Share Posted May 1, 2006 , we are gonna get you Married (if that's what you want)! We are here for you! Great post! Thanks! Love, Jennvalkrey1@... wrote: Sherri - your comments brings to mind the "controversy" over Star (The View) drastic weight loss and Rose O'Donnell's comments about Star keeping it secret. Big deal! So you have a gastric bypass. I'm having one too because, frankly, I CANNOT lose all this weight (160 pounds+) without it! I'm 50 (almost), outgoing, friendly and have a great life, except that I'm watching everyone else have the fun (I'm also single which is the pits at 300 pounds!!) I'm constantly on the side lines and need to get in the game, so to speak. Giving Star a little credit - she doesn't want to be a poster child for gastric bypass surgery, and I can understand her wanting her privacy, but whose life is it, anyway? Whether you keep it secret or let it all out - you're doing what is best for you. From my standpoint - when I have the surgery and get below a size 20, I'm going to shout from the mountain tops!! But then again, I'm not worried about being 50 either!! I'm embracing both GBP and 50 all at once! So I say - don't be ashamed or afraid to "come out" (so-to-speak) about surgery. It's not taboo any longer and definitely NOT the easy way out!! in Cupertino Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 1, 2006 Report Share Posted May 1, 2006 Well, I was going to add my 2 cents in too but Robynn said it all. I tell who I want to tell. And my choice was to tell no one at work. I did have my gallbadder out during my surgery and for those at work, that's all they know. I aggree, it's not a secret thing but it is private. PEGGY > > I don't know...I think that everyone has the right to privacy with regard to medical procedures. I don't want people watching everything I eat, judging me, taking bets on whether I maintain or not...nor do I want people thinking that they have the right to comment about whether the surgery is a good solution, a " cheater's way out " or whatever. > > It's no one's business but my own. I tell who I want to tell. I had some other health things that were discovered as a result of this process, and that made it even more essential that I get rid of this part of my intestine...but at the same time, that I've elected to have my innards rearranged or whether I HAD to have them rearranged...all of that is MY business. Period. > > I don't want people to make decisions about me one way or the other based upon my health decisions for my own body. > > So, the people who need to know (lovers, family, close friends) know. I didn't feel compelled to tell right away. I met him a couple of months before my surgery. I told him I had to have surgery, he was supportive during my recovery...but I didn't tell him all of the nuance of the surgery. It wasn't his business. > > On the other hand, I've had overweight people in clothing stores comment on my figure, and I tell them honestly that I've lost over 100 lbs., and how I've done it. I think they deserve to have some hope and enlightenment. > > Everyone that I've told has been supportive. But, I don't need people at work giving me their opinions. (: actually, I'd prefer if you were a bit more discrete about discussing this with me at work in front of people. This is not a rebuke in any way, but you may not know what my preference is on this subject.) > > As an attorney, I don't want my body to be a topic of discussion. It's not relevent to my job. > > So...the bottom line: do what feels comfortable to you, and tell the people you want to tell. As for your acquaintance...if she is able to control her weight by employing some of the tools that you are using (watching your decreased portion size, and your choice of foods), great. If she gets stuck, or doesn't lose as fast, and starts to get discouraged...you can tell her, " You know, you've had great success so far in your weight loss and I applaud you for it. I've used the same techniques you have...I eat smaller portions, I exercise. I don't drink and eat at the same time. All of that is important and critically vital to achieving your weightloss goals. But, I want to let you know that I have an additional tool in my arsenal that you don't have, and so I am sharing this with you now, because I don't want you to beat yourself up about the fact that you aren't being as successful as I am. I had a medical procedure done, which I think is my private business and I > don't share this with others because I don't want people to judge me or to know the ins and outs of my private medical history. I am sharing this with you now: I had gastric bypass. It helps keep my appetite at bay, and it will continue to do that until or unless I overeat and I stretch out my stomach, which has been made surgically smaller. Additionally, I do not fully absorb all of the calories nor the nutrition that I consume. As a result, I can lose weight faster, at least until my body readjusts and adapts to the diminished absorption. I take vitamins every day of my life to make up for the nutritional deficiency. This was a difficult decision to make, but I made it because I was having health problems, and I had not been successful in doing it without this additional tool. Some people. although not many, are able to successfully lose and keep weight off without the surgery. But, I realized that after a lifetime of struggle, that just wasn't happening for me. " > > " I'm telling you this because I care about you. I don't know if you are a candidate for this surgery, if you qualify, or if you are even interested. But, I am sharing this very private thing with you because I see that you are trying hard to lose the weight, I am proud of you for that...and I don't want you to get discouraged about the fact that I'm losing weight faster than you are. I have this tool, you can choose for yourself (along with your medical doctor) whether you want to do this too, whether it will benefit you. If you have any questions, I'm happy to answer them. I just ask that you respect my privacy and not share this information with anybody unless you ask my permission first. " > > That's how I would handle it. > > Robynn > > > > Visit your group " gastric-bypass-support-kaiser-patients " on the web. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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