Re: So mad!!!

[Guest guest]

No, My husband was a little nervous about this whole surgery on my

jaw due to it changing my chin and face a little. Personally, the

whole experience makes me question having anything else

done. . .ever! I saw that episode of Dr. 90210. I'm obsessed

with the show. I guess he seems like such a cheeseball it humors me

more than anything. I saw the baby being passed among the boobjobs!

That's my insecurity more than anything on my face!! After a child

that breastfed and loosing all this weight my chest leaves " little "

to be desired I think-literally! But lately I'm thinking beautiful

is how a person feels so I'm going to work on feeling beautiful in

that department rather than taking action.

Honestly I think I'm through with altering my face. I liked it

before with all its faults, but I have wanted straight teeth since I

was young and had braces the first time at age 15. My husband and I

dated in highschool so I guess we are rather use to each other's

looks. Although I joke with him about how easy it must be for him to

have the perfect face and physique and how I'll never be perfect

enough (are women ever?).

I have a huge opinion about beauty in women. I don't think it has

totally to do with looks. And yes I'm referring to outer beauty. I

think it has to do with....confidence! A woman that walks like she's

gorgeous makes people think well she must be. Just take a look at

Simpsons hump on her little nose. One woman had a nose job

and then stated she wanted her hump back to look like !

Anyhoo, this has been so intertaining in a really blah day!

Thanks,

Jane

> >

> > Dan, new to the sight but not new to unplanned breakdowns. I am

> only

> > 10 days post op. Look Your post op pictures looked much better.

> I

> > too had unrealistic expectations about my outcome. After a few

> day I

> > looked in the mirroe and asked my husband, Does my chin still

tilt

> to

> > the right a little?? AFTER ALL THIS SUFFERING??? And I did suffer

> the

> > first week. On another message board everyone was saying how

> perfect

> > their surgery went no pain no fear perfect results and I just

> > couldn't take it anymore. I posted some pretty negative messages

> my

> > first week post op. But back to our expectations of perfection.

> I

> > was a little furiuos when I saw that the problem was only

lessened

> > not corrected completely and my husband ( a 4th year med student

> > going into general surgery then plastic surgery residency) said

> your

> > chin may be off a little to the right but your bite is perfect

and

> > furthermore no one would ever notice that but you. And for the

> first

> > time... He was right. We have looked and critiqued ourselves so

> much

> > and so harshly at times that we forget how badly we wantedthis

> done

> > and how badly we are looking forward to the results. I read in a

> > packet from my dr's office that many people have other procedures

> > done cosmetic ones after this. I thought to myself hmmm....

> That

> > didn't sit well with me. Wanting the perfect smile is not me

> wanting

> > to perfectly commercialize my face. My chin has always poked a

> > little out and I was always self conscience about it but my

> husband

> > didn't notice my jaw was longer on one side until after being

> married

> > 2 years and my orthodontist pointed it out. And we dated for 6

> years

> > before that! So, I began thinking about my features and their

> > imperfections...my nose has a slight hump and I was just told by

> my

> > OS that it slants to one side! Humph! I never even noticed that.

> But

> > I have my dads nose and generations of his family have this

nose.

> It

> > is not so big that it makes me feel bad about myself although it

> > isn't small and I kind of felt if I go changing all

> > my " imperfections " what is my daughter going to think when she

> grows

> > up? Although I understand completely why people do it. Cheer

up!

> > You look better and so do I. We just need to step away from the

> > mirror a few inched and try to see ourselves the way everyone

else

> > does! I hope you feel better. This has been the hardest thing

> I've

> > ever done including childbirth! And the most depressing. I know

> > we'll see results, it just seems to take awhile.

> > jane