Guest guest Posted October 15, 2001 Report Share Posted October 15, 2001 When I read your post I felt like you had crawled into my head. I am a bit younger than you but I am hoping that after surgery you can share with me how you are coping with the intimacy issues Lisbeth Amy wrote: This topic really struck a cord, while as I really really really look forward to breaking down this wall of fat that surrounds me, I also know I'm going to have to deal with the attention that will start to come my way again. The main thought that keeps me positive on this topic is that I'm far better equipped to handle attention from the opposite sex now that I'm in my (cough) late 30s. In my 20s, that's when I really head- tripped. But, just to be sure, I will get some counselling as my body changes. Looking forward to a) being switched and breaking down the walls fat and living with gusto again! Amy Pre-op w/ Dr. Rabkin 5'11 " BMI 49 > Remember, that fat issues often include a fear of intimacy-- and > the fat acts as an insulator which keeps other folks at a distance. **snip** ---------------------------------------------------------------------- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 15, 2001 Report Share Posted October 15, 2001 What you said in your orignal posts and what I hear echoed in this post is something I have heard in the past and something I think I am going to experience which is: Just because we lose the weight doesnt mean there is a fairy tale ending and there is no shame in talking to a professional aobut the issues that incubated during our MO period of our lives. You have given me quite a bit of " food " for thought! Thanks Amy Lisbeth Amy wrote: Lisbeth, You got it - I'll keep you filled in. I'm not sure that I fear intimacy as I did when I was younger, nor do I fear rejection or hurt...I think it's going to be a new evolution and learning experience keeping all of this in mind. I've embraced the " BBW " experience, dated men who prefer larger woman (and there are as many freaks in that arena as there are in the " normal " dating community). I think I'm just ready to take this shell off and do those things I've held myself back from. Love and intimacy will come - of this I am certain. But so too shall the trips to Europe (in one seat without an extender), cute clothes, movie seats that my butt will fit in, and an overall sense of health and well-being. Not to mention my plan to take tap dance lessons again (as I really loved to dance as a child)! Look out world - look out I say - HERE COMES AMY!!!! (grin) A. > > When I read your post I felt like you had crawled into my head. I am a bit younger than you but I am hoping that after surgery you can share with me how you are coping with the intimacy issues > Lisbeth > > ---------------------------------------------------------------------- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 15, 2001 Report Share Posted October 15, 2001 In a message dated 10/15/01 3:23:04 PM Pacific Daylight Time, aimtall@... writes: << know I'm going to have to deal with the attention that will start to come my way again. >> Its so hard! I have a new boyfriend who is the best guy I've ever met. He is considerate, my family and friends ALL love him and I want this to go somewhere as we get to know each other more and more...but I'm finding that after hiding for so long, I'm very hesitate with him. I used to be a touchy feely person, which he is, and I find that I am afraid to just grab his hand when we're walking, something he does to me all the time! I guess now that I'm getting my life back I need to start addressing the rest of this stuff!!! AJ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 16, 2001 Report Share Posted October 16, 2001 Thanks Amy *hugs* Lisbeth Amy wrote: Hugs to you Lisbeth! > > > > When I read your post I felt like you had crawled into my head. I > am a bit younger than you but I am hoping that after surgery you can > share with me how you are coping with the intimacy issues > > Lisbeth > > > > > > > -------------------------------------------------------------------- -- > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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