Guest guest Posted October 16, 2001 Report Share Posted October 16, 2001 My husband was (is) this way.. he refused to discuss issues that were a problem.. I would try to communicate however I could.. including lashing out at him verbally.. he'd just clam right up when 'interferrance' arose. We are now getting divorced. Maybe some counseling is called for here. I know it helped me. > > In a message dated 10/16/01 2:36:27 AM, duodenalswitch@y... writes: > > << > 2) Communicate, communicate, communicate. > > >> > > Amy: This is so true but I would also add: Communication is a TWO WAY > STREET. If your partner is NOT interested in communicating, then all the > communication in the world and love won't make things better! > > In fact, I've discovered that there are people out there (my husband being > one of them) who do NOT like to communicate -- it is extremely uncomfortable > for them and they would rather have things unsaid, unclear and swept under > the rug. At least then there's a modicum of propriety and normality whereas > communication involves being honest, listening, compromise and adjustment. > It is extremely dynamic (as relationship should be). Some people are just > too afraid to move ahead and would prefer to have things stay stagnant and > the same. > > So, communicate -- but if it isn't being reciprocated, then this is a serious > red flag! > > all the best, > > lap ds with gallbladder removal > January 25, 2001 > Dr. Gagner/Mt. Sinai/NYC > > almost 9 months post-op and still feelin' fabu! > > preop: 307 lbs/bmi 45 > now: 213 lbs ???? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 16, 2001 Report Share Posted October 16, 2001 Sounds like a difficult situation Soozy...I wish you well as you move forward. You'll meet someone better equipped to communicate, I'd wager! Cheers, Amy > > > > In a message dated 10/16/01 2:36:27 AM, duodenalswitch@y... writes: > > > > << > > 2) Communicate, communicate, communicate. > > > > >> > > > > Amy: This is so true but I would also add: Communication is a TWO > WAY > > STREET. If your partner is NOT interested in communicating, then > all the > > communication in the world and love won't make things better! > > > > In fact, I've discovered that there are people out there (my husband > being > > one of them) who do NOT like to communicate -- it is extremely > uncomfortable > > for them and they would rather have things unsaid, unclear and swept > under > > the rug. At least then there's a modicum of propriety and normality > whereas > > communication involves being honest, listening, compromise and > adjustment. > > It is extremely dynamic (as relationship should be). Some people > are just > > too afraid to move ahead and would prefer to have things stay > stagnant and > > the same. > > > > So, communicate -- but if it isn't being reciprocated, then this is > a serious > > red flag! > > > > all the best, > > > > lap ds with gallbladder removal > > January 25, 2001 > > Dr. Gagner/Mt. Sinai/NYC > > > > almost 9 months post-op and still feelin' fabu! > > > > preop: 307 lbs/bmi 45 > > now: 213 lbs ???? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 16, 2001 Report Share Posted October 16, 2001 Thank you, Amy.. I hope so too.. ) > > > > > > In a message dated 10/16/01 2:36:27 AM, duodenalswitch@y... > writes: > > > > > > << > > > 2) Communicate, communicate, communicate. > > > > > > >> > > > > > > Amy: This is so true but I would also add: Communication is a > TWO > > WAY > > > STREET. If your partner is NOT interested in communicating, then > > all the > > > communication in the world and love won't make things better! > > > > > > In fact, I've discovered that there are people out there (my > husband > > being > > > one of them) who do NOT like to communicate -- it is extremely > > uncomfortable > > > for them and they would rather have things unsaid, unclear and > swept > > under > > > the rug. At least then there's a modicum of propriety and > normality > > whereas > > > communication involves being honest, listening, compromise and > > adjustment. > > > It is extremely dynamic (as relationship should be). Some people > > are just > > > too afraid to move ahead and would prefer to have things stay > > stagnant and > > > the same. > > > > > > So, communicate -- but if it isn't being reciprocated, then this > is > > a serious > > > red flag! > > > > > > all the best, > > > > > > lap ds with gallbladder removal > > > January 25, 2001 > > > Dr. Gagner/Mt. Sinai/NYC > > > > > > almost 9 months post-op and still feelin' fabu! > > > > > > preop: 307 lbs/bmi 45 > > > now: 213 lbs ???? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Recommended Posts
Join the conversation
You are posting as a guest. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account.
Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible.