Re: Family support and SCD

[Guest guest]

I have told family and friends that I am starting a " medical food plan " . This

is being accepted better than if I use the word diet - that gives everyone the

idea that you are doing it to lose weight instead of healing your body.

Sandy

UC 5/84

Crohns 7/09

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> > Hi everyone. I'm new to the diet (just started my first homemade batch of

yogurt this afternoon). While making my first yogurt, my oldest sibling called

me, (in the middle of completing my dinners for the week). I told her about the

diet, to which she responded that I was " too obsessed with my diet. " Eating SCD

also caused a huge argument with my parents on Easter Sunday.

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> > I have little to know family support on this diet. It's not a complaint, I

just wonder if other SCD'ers have faced similar odds and how do you manage to

keep your wits about you, and stick to the diet in the face of opposition from

those closest to you, whose support you need the most?

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[Guest guest]

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> > Hi everyone. I'm new to the diet (just started my first homemade batch of

yogurt this afternoon). While making my first yogurt, my oldest sibling called

me, (in the middle of completing my dinners for the week). I told her about the

diet, to which she responded that I was " too obsessed with my diet. " Eating SCD

also caused a huge argument with my parents on Easter Sunday.

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> > I have little to know family support on this diet. It's not a complaint, I

just wonder if other SCD'ers have faced similar odds and how do you manage to

keep your wits about you, and stick to the diet in the face of opposition from

those closest to you, whose support you need the most?

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Hi-its very difficult having your confidence eroded by those closest to you -

those who should be most supportive and concerned about your health! 4-plus

years in, my family has a bit of an idea what a difference SCD has made to my

health (if I'd been a lot sicker for a lot longer, their appreciation would be

equal to mine), but my mother feels Very Sorry for me that I have to suffer on

such a restricted diet, and is there possibly some hope for me that some day I

might be able to go back to eating all those delicious foods that I have to

deprive myself of now?

I'm sure there are many who've had to go through what you're experiencing now.

Some people lose a number of friends, and the added stress from family is very

hurtful, both physically and emotionally. Perhaps you could see which of your

friends might be supportive, and rely on them for awhile.

Your family may be more supportive in future, when they see your improved

health. SCD is nominally a diet (we're all on a " diet " - but its a word that's

often associated with weight loss), but more than that, its a very healthy

lifestyle. Why would your family want you to continue in an unhealthy fashion,

eating foods that only make you sick and cause you pain? (Yes, you may have to

turn the tables and lay the guilt-trip on them!)

Hope you find some support, manage to continue on SCD and make great strides

towards feeling better,

Licia

colitis/SCD feb 2006

no meds since july 2006

[Guest guest]

I try to keep it to myself. I cook SCD at home, but still make my family's

favorites for them. My husband misses taking me out to different restaurants,

but he does not gripe about it too much, and we have found a " safe " place to go

out to eat. My mom bugs me about it, but here is the irony: she has terrible IBS

and is miserable a lot of the time, and thinks trying to help with diet is

ridiculous.

In the end, it's my body, my health, and I chose to feel well regardless of what

other people may say. My family would much rather have mom feel better and eat

SCD than anything else. It is hard in the beginning, but stick to your guns!!

PJ

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> > Hi everyone. I'm new to the diet (just started my first homemade batch of

yogurt this afternoon). While making my first yogurt, my oldest sibling called

me, (in the middle of completing my dinners for the week). I told her about the

diet, to which she responded that I was " too obsessed with my diet. " Eating SCD

also caused a huge argument with my parents on Easter Sunday.

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> > I have little to know family support on this diet. It's not a complaint, I

just wonder if other SCD'ers have faced similar odds and how do you manage to

keep your wits about you, and stick to the diet in the face of opposition from

those closest to you, whose support you need the most?

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[Guest guest]

I plan too. My family (whether its this or other things) doesn't tend to be

supportive, but critical of anything I do. My willpower has been lax in the

past, and I gave in. This time, I don't want to.

It feels empowering though, fixing my own food and knowing what's on food labels

and the like.

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> > > Hi everyone. I'm new to the diet (just started my first homemade batch of

yogurt this afternoon). While making my first yogurt, my oldest sibling called

me, (in the middle of completing my dinners for the week). I told her about the

diet, to which she responded that I was " too obsessed with my diet. " Eating SCD

also caused a huge argument with my parents on Easter Sunday.

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> > > I have little to know family support on this diet. It's not a complaint, I

just wonder if other SCD'ers have faced similar odds and how do you manage to

keep your wits about you, and stick to the diet in the face of opposition from

those closest to you, whose support you need the most?

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[Guest guest]

It really is empowering. I'm the mama, the wife.. I take care of everyone in my

family. I do SCD for me. Ironically, before I started SCD, I was so sick for a

while that I could barely do for my family. I'm better off for it, and they are

better off for it now too.

I have learned so much about cooking and healthy foods. I am a much better cook

because of it, and that benefits them too. My youngest daughter now prefers SCD

food, and even though she can eat everything, she wants what I eat. My husband

is not on SCD, but he has a very sensitive gut, and is now happier being gluten

free. My family now feels better because of a healthier diet even though they

are not fully on SCD.

I do feel a bit weird around my in laws, but they will have to get over it

because it's my health.

Hang in there and when you feel better, they will come around. They may actually

prefer SCD food.

I am actually working on finding places to eat out so I can be more social on

SCD. One local restaurant knows I order off the dinner menu for lunch so I can

get a plain steak and steamed veggies, while everyone else eats sandwiches or

pasta if they want. I justify the extra cost because I almost never eat out. Now

my hubby can take me out for lunch again.

PJ

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> > > > Hi everyone. I'm new to the diet (just started my first homemade batch

of yogurt this afternoon). While making my first yogurt, my oldest sibling

called me, (in the middle of completing my dinners for the week). I told her

about the diet, to which she responded that I was " too obsessed with my diet. "

Eating SCD also caused a huge argument with my parents on Easter Sunday.

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> > > > I have little to know family support on this diet. It's not a complaint,

I just wonder if other SCD'ers have faced similar odds and how do you manage to

keep your wits about you, and stick to the diet in the face of opposition from

those closest to you, whose support you need the most?

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