How to handle comments about size?

[Guest guest]

How do you handle peoples comments about size/stature? Today at a

couple of baby/toddler groups, i was talking to other mums, who when

told how old he was (nearly 7mths) first assumed he was premature, i

then got the comments of 'never mind he'll catch-up' and 'they all

even out in the end'. I had to explain he has a growth disorder and

he will always be small, but TBH i don't always feel comfortable

explaining details to strangers.

Another one I got a couple of times today eas about 'how lucky i was

to still have a little baby as they grow up so fast' I know they

mean well, but i felt a bit down afterwards, being reminded my child

is 'different'

on the other hand, he is always being complimented on how cute and

smiley he is !

i'm still new to this and not sure what to do. Apologies if it

sounds like a whinge1

T

(Shar 3 Non-RSS, Stirling 7mths RSS)

[Guest guest]

I have struggled with this also. A good friend told me to put a

positive spin on it. She said any time you say " condition "

or " disorder " they automatically think bad..so wehn someone says how

old...but he is so small I have been saying- " Yes he is, he has

Silver Syndrome but he is doing great and we are so

excited. " If they want to know more they will ask what is

Silver...95% they don't and just smile and say that's good.

In my opinion fielding the questions from family and friends can be

much more difficult..there was a discussion once and someone asked a

mom on this list serve " Why don't you let your kid be a normal kid " .

THis happened to me recently at a very good friend of my husband's

kids birthday party and everyone looked at me to see my answer. I

cringed and said " Well if we don't do all of the therapies,

medication, etc. he will never be a " normal " kid. " The subject was

then dropped..it stung though..people are ignorant. I asked a mom

with a downs child if it ever got easier dealing with the questions.

She said my situation was different because everyone could look at

her daughter and tell what was wrong so there were no questions. I

never thought of it that way...besides our kids are amazing and have

gone through so much in their short lives that they truly are an

inspiration to all of us!

Don't worry about it bothering you....It took me 15 months to be

OK..you will get there.

> How do you handle peoples comments about size/stature? Today at a

> couple of baby/toddler groups, i was talking to other mums, who

when

> told how old he was (nearly 7mths) first assumed he was premature,

i

> then got the comments of 'never mind he'll catch-up' and 'they all

> even out in the end'. I had to explain he has a growth disorder

and

> he will always be small, but TBH i don't always feel comfortable

> explaining details to strangers.

>

> Another one I got a couple of times today eas about 'how lucky i

was

> to still have a little baby as they grow up so fast' I know they

> mean well, but i felt a bit down afterwards, being reminded my

child

> is 'different'

>

> on the other hand, he is always being complimented on how cute and

> smiley he is !

>

> i'm still new to this and not sure what to do. Apologies if it

> sounds like a whinge1

>

> T

> (Shar 3 Non-RSS, Stirling 7mths RSS)

[Guest guest]

I always get the premature question. I simply say no she was born at 38 weeks

and is ok.If they ask why she was so small I say because she is special and will

never have a weight problem. Most are shocked and just stair at me, but after 5

years I did get use to it, because i do remember a time were I said just no.

Well I think life will never be dull with our little ones but I truly belive

that we would not have them if we could not handle the pressure that comes along

with them.

Re: How to handle comments about size?

I have struggled with this also. A good friend told me to put a

positive spin on it. She said any time you say " condition "

or " disorder " they automatically think bad..so wehn someone says how

old...but he is so small I have been saying- " Yes he is, he has

Silver Syndrome but he is doing great and we are so

excited. " If they want to know more they will ask what is

Silver...95% they don't and just smile and say that's good.

In my opinion fielding the questions from family and friends can be

much more difficult..there was a discussion once and someone asked a

mom on this list serve " Why don't you let your kid be a normal kid " .

THis happened to me recently at a very good friend of my husband's

kids birthday party and everyone looked at me to see my answer. I

cringed and said " Well if we don't do all of the therapies,

medication, etc. he will never be a " normal " kid. " The subject was

then dropped..it stung though..people are ignorant. I asked a mom

with a downs child if it ever got easier dealing with the questions.

She said my situation was different because everyone could look at

her daughter and tell what was wrong so there were no questions. I

never thought of it that way...besides our kids are amazing and have

gone through so much in their short lives that they truly are an

inspiration to all of us!

Don't worry about it bothering you....It took me 15 months to be

OK..you will get there.

> How do you handle peoples comments about size/stature? Today at a

> couple of baby/toddler groups, i was talking to other mums, who

when

> told how old he was (nearly 7mths) first assumed he was premature,

i

> then got the comments of 'never mind he'll catch-up' and 'they all

> even out in the end'. I had to explain he has a growth disorder

and

> he will always be small, but TBH i don't always feel comfortable

> explaining details to strangers.

>

> Another one I got a couple of times today eas about 'how lucky i

was

> to still have a little baby as they grow up so fast' I know they

> mean well, but i felt a bit down afterwards, being reminded my

child

> is 'different'

>

> on the other hand, he is always being complimented on how cute and

> smiley he is !

>

> i'm still new to this and not sure what to do. Apologies if it

> sounds like a whinge1

>

> T

> (Shar 3 Non-RSS, Stirling 7mths RSS)

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

Unfortunately there are always going to be ignorant people in the world who tend

to stick

their foot in their mouth. I didn't know my son had RSS until he was older, but

he was also

a preemie. Sometimes I got tired of explaining him to others & answering all

sorts of

questions. When was a year old, he weighed 8 lbs. One time when I was

tired of

explaining why he was so small, when another patient in a doctor's office asked

me how

old he was, I said 2 weeks old. Then, a few minutes later, I took some colored

blocks out

& asked him to hand me various colors. You should have seen the look on the

woman's

face. I thought she was going to pass out! It was so funny!

Kim C.

> How do you handle peoples comments about size/stature? Today at a

> couple of baby/toddler groups, i was talking to other mums, who when

> told how old he was (nearly 7mths) first assumed he was premature, i

> then got the comments of 'never mind he'll catch-up' and 'they all

> even out in the end'. I had to explain he has a growth disorder and

> he will always be small, but TBH i don't always feel comfortable

> explaining details to strangers.

>

> Another one I got a couple of times today eas about 'how lucky i was

> to still have a little baby as they grow up so fast' I know they

> mean well, but i felt a bit down afterwards, being reminded my child

> is 'different'

>

> on the other hand, he is always being complimented on how cute and

> smiley he is !

>

> i'm still new to this and not sure what to do. Apologies if it

> sounds like a whinge1

>

> T

> (Shar 3 Non-RSS, Stirling 7mths RSS)

[Guest guest]

Ha Kim, that is funny!

mom to Autumn RSS 15.5 mos, 2 boys and baby due in July

> Hi ,

>

> Unfortunately there are always going to be ignorant people in the

world who tend to stick

> their foot in their mouth. I didn't know my son had RSS until he

was older, but he was also

> a preemie. Sometimes I got tired of explaining him to others &

answering all sorts of

> questions. When was a year old, he weighed 8 lbs. One time

when I was tired of

> explaining why he was so small, when another patient in a doctor's

office asked me how

> old he was, I said 2 weeks old. Then, a few minutes later, I took

some colored blocks out

> & asked him to hand me various colors. You should have seen the

look on the woman's

> face. I thought she was going to pass out! It was so funny!

>

> Kim C.

>

>

>

>

> > How do you handle peoples comments about size/stature? Today

at a

> > couple of baby/toddler groups, i was talking to other mums, who

when

> > told how old he was (nearly 7mths) first assumed he was

premature, i

> > then got the comments of 'never mind he'll catch-up' and 'they

all

> > even out in the end'. I had to explain he has a growth disorder

and

> > he will always be small, but TBH i don't always feel comfortable

> > explaining details to strangers.

> >

> > Another one I got a couple of times today eas about 'how lucky i

was

> > to still have a little baby as they grow up so fast' I know they

> > mean well, but i felt a bit down afterwards, being reminded my

child

> > is 'different'

> >

> > on the other hand, he is always being complimented on how cute

and

> > smiley he is !

> >

> > i'm still new to this and not sure what to do. Apologies if it

> > sounds like a whinge1

> >

> > T

> > (Shar 3 Non-RSS, Stirling 7mths RSS)

[Guest guest]

Hi . I know it's difficult dealing with people. Autumn was 7

mos old when we found out about her RSS and I just got so many

comments about how tiny she was and how I need to feed her more, was

she a preemie (I said no, then disbelief) etc....it got very

frustrating. People also like to compare her to their big babies as

in wow, my sons only 2mos and hes so much bigger then her! Then as

she got older and began to sit and crawl I would get so many amazed

stares from parents that this tiny little girl..how could she do that

when she's so little? She would crawl around and my son's soccer

games and people couldn't get over it. Then over the winter after

not really being out much, the comments slimmed down until now! I

took her out to my son's t-ball last week and peoples heads turned

and mouths opened when I put her down and she ran around. She fell

(she's clumsy!)and then someone said " She's too little to walk! "

then I had some mothers come up and ask me how old she was, I told

them 15 mos and they just said she was so tiny! Not just once, I

usually get it 3 times per person... " shes sooo tiny " then a few

moments later after more stares " wow, she is really so tiny! " then

again in shock " she is really tiny for 15 months! " By that time I

just laughed yes she is and my husband who hasn't really experienced

the comments yet is now hearing them too. Hang in there..people just

don't understand and these comments will never end unfortunatly. I

just try to enjoy the flipside, she gets endless compliments about

how adorable and cute she is. Also, if I ever mention anything about

Silver Syndrome, most people feel bad, especially because

they have no clue what it is but they know it must be something

important. Just prepare yourself for the comments and come up with

an answer or reaction you are comfortable with so you are not caught

off guard, it will become much easier although still annoying.

mom to Autumn 15.5 mos RSS, 2 boys, baby girl due in July

> How do you handle peoples comments about size/stature? Today at a

> couple of baby/toddler groups, i was talking to other mums, who

when

> told how old he was (nearly 7mths) first assumed he was premature,

i

> then got the comments of 'never mind he'll catch-up' and 'they all

> even out in the end'. I had to explain he has a growth disorder

and

> he will always be small, but TBH i don't always feel comfortable

> explaining details to strangers.

>

> Another one I got a couple of times today eas about 'how lucky i

was

> to still have a little baby as they grow up so fast' I know they

> mean well, but i felt a bit down afterwards, being reminded my

child

> is 'different'

>

> on the other hand, he is always being complimented on how cute and

> smiley he is !

>

> i'm still new to this and not sure what to do. Apologies if it

> sounds like a whinge1

>

> T

> (Shar 3 Non-RSS, Stirling 7mths RSS)

[Guest guest]

Kim,

Oh my that had to be the funniest answer I' ve heard. I would of loved to see

her expression. Good for you.

na's mom

Kacey171 wrote:

Hi ,

Unfortunately there are always going to be ignorant people in the world who tend

to stick

their foot in their mouth. I didn't know my son had RSS until he was older, but

he was also

a preemie. Sometimes I got tired of explaining him to others & answering all

sorts of

questions. When was a year old, he weighed 8 lbs. One time when I was

tired of

explaining why he was so small, when another patient in a doctor's office asked

me how

old he was, I said 2 weeks old. Then, a few minutes later, I took some colored

blocks out

& asked him to hand me various colors. You should have seen the look on the

woman's

face. I thought she was going to pass out! It was so funny!

Kim C.

> How do you handle peoples comments about size/stature? Today at a

> couple of baby/toddler groups, i was talking to other mums, who when

> told how old he was (nearly 7mths) first assumed he was premature, i

> then got the comments of 'never mind he'll catch-up' and 'they all

> even out in the end'. I had to explain he has a growth disorder and

> he will always be small, but TBH i don't always feel comfortable

> explaining details to strangers.

>

> Another one I got a couple of times today eas about 'how lucky i was

> to still have a little baby as they grow up so fast' I know they

> mean well, but i felt a bit down afterwards, being reminded my child

> is 'different'

>

> on the other hand, he is always being complimented on how cute and

> smiley he is !

>

> i'm still new to this and not sure what to do. Apologies if it

> sounds like a whinge1

>

> T

> (Shar 3 Non-RSS, Stirling 7mths RSS)

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[Guest guest]

I would love to get more input on this. I find it very annoying and though I

know these people aren't trying to be rude, it really bothers me. My son is 20

months and about 19 pounds (I hope). People are amazed that he can walk, run,

do all the things kids his age do, but I dread the attention because I know

they'll ask his age and follow up with a comment on his size. Please let me

know how you deal with this!

Audra, mom to Quinn, possible RSS

Marcy Conley wrote:

Kim,

Oh my that had to be the funniest answer I' ve heard. I would of loved to see

her expression. Good for you.

na's mom

Kacey171 wrote:

Hi ,

Unfortunately there are always going to be ignorant people in the world who tend

to stick

their foot in their mouth. I didn't know my son had RSS until he was older, but

he was also

a preemie. Sometimes I got tired of explaining him to others & answering all

sorts of

questions. When was a year old, he weighed 8 lbs. One time when I was

tired of

explaining why he was so small, when another patient in a doctor's office asked

me how

old he was, I said 2 weeks old. Then, a few minutes later, I took some colored

blocks out

& asked him to hand me various colors. You should have seen the look on the

woman's

face. I thought she was going to pass out! It was so funny!

Kim C.

> How do you handle peoples comments about size/stature? Today at a

> couple of baby/toddler groups, i was talking to other mums, who when

> told how old he was (nearly 7mths) first assumed he was premature, i

> then got the comments of 'never mind he'll catch-up' and 'they all

> even out in the end'. I had to explain he has a growth disorder and

> he will always be small, but TBH i don't always feel comfortable

> explaining details to strangers.

>

> Another one I got a couple of times today eas about 'how lucky i was

> to still have a little baby as they grow up so fast' I know they

> mean well, but i felt a bit down afterwards, being reminded my child

> is 'different'

>

> on the other hand, he is always being complimented on how cute and

> smiley he is !

>

> i'm still new to this and not sure what to do. Apologies if it

> sounds like a whinge1

>

> T

> (Shar 3 Non-RSS, Stirling 7mths RSS)

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[Guest guest]

hi

i have benn getting comments on averys size more often now. he is years old and

strangers asl me if he 2yrs. i just smile and say no he's 4yrs. he's my big guy.

and avery says i'm a big guy. i have to say it is a little sad when i watch him

play with the boys his age and

he is so small, but it makes me so proud because he asks so big.

avery is also noticing the size difference so i tryed to explain it to him. so

now he says when i'm big and still little i'm going to be a super hero. that's

my little cowboy.

jamie xxxx wrote:

I always get the premature question. I simply say no she was born at 38 weeks

and is ok.If they ask why she was so small I say because she is special and will

never have a weight problem. Most are shocked and just stair at me, but after 5

years I did get use to it, because i do remember a time were I said just no.

Well I think life will never be dull with our little ones but I truly belive

that we would not have them if we could not handle the pressure that comes along

with them.

Re: How to handle comments about size?

I have struggled with this also. A good friend told me to put a

positive spin on it. She said any time you say " condition "

or " disorder " they automatically think bad..so wehn someone says how

old...but he is so small I have been saying- " Yes he is, he has

Silver Syndrome but he is doing great and we are so

excited. " If they want to know more they will ask what is

Silver...95% they don't and just smile and say that's good.

In my opinion fielding the questions from family and friends can be

much more difficult..there was a discussion once and someone asked a

mom on this list serve " Why don't you let your kid be a normal kid " .

THis happened to me recently at a very good friend of my husband's

kids birthday party and everyone looked at me to see my answer. I

cringed and said " Well if we don't do all of the therapies,

medication, etc. he will never be a " normal " kid. " The subject was

then dropped..it stung though..people are ignorant. I asked a mom

with a downs child if it ever got easier dealing with the questions.

She said my situation was different because everyone could look at

her daughter and tell what was wrong so there were no questions. I

never thought of it that way...besides our kids are amazing and have

gone through so much in their short lives that they truly are an

inspiration to all of us!

Don't worry about it bothering you....It took me 15 months to be

OK..you will get there.

> How do you handle peoples comments about size/stature? Today at a

> couple of baby/toddler groups, i was talking to other mums, who

when

> told how old he was (nearly 7mths) first assumed he was premature,

i

> then got the comments of 'never mind he'll catch-up' and 'they all

> even out in the end'. I had to explain he has a growth disorder

and

> he will always be small, but TBH i don't always feel comfortable

> explaining details to strangers.

>

> Another one I got a couple of times today eas about 'how lucky i

was

> to still have a little baby as they grow up so fast' I know they

> mean well, but i felt a bit down afterwards, being reminded my

child

> is 'different'

>

> on the other hand, he is always being complimented on how cute and

> smiley he is !

>

> i'm still new to this and not sure what to do. Apologies if it

> sounds like a whinge1

>

> T

> (Shar 3 Non-RSS, Stirling 7mths RSS)

[Guest guest]

Kim...your story about the blocks made me laugh out loud...that was

good!!!

Sheryl (mommy to Dalia, 17mos, SGA)

> Hi ,

>

> Unfortunately there are always going to be ignorant people in the

world who tend to stick

> their foot in their mouth. I didn't know my son had RSS until he

was older, but he was also

> a preemie. Sometimes I got tired of explaining him to others &

answering all sorts of

> questions. When was a year old, he weighed 8 lbs. One

time when I was tired of

> explaining why he was so small, when another patient in a doctor's

office asked me how

> old he was, I said 2 weeks old. Then, a few minutes later, I took

some colored blocks out

> & asked him to hand me various colors. You should have seen the

look on the woman's

> face. I thought she was going to pass out! It was so funny!

>

> Kim C.

>

>

>

>

> > How do you handle peoples comments about size/stature? Today

at a

> > couple of baby/toddler groups, i was talking to other mums, who

when

> > told how old he was (nearly 7mths) first assumed he was

premature, i

> > then got the comments of 'never mind he'll catch-up' and 'they

all

> > even out in the end'. I had to explain he has a growth disorder

and

> > he will always be small, but TBH i don't always feel comfortable

> > explaining details to strangers.

> >

> > Another one I got a couple of times today eas about 'how lucky i

was

> > to still have a little baby as they grow up so fast' I know they

> > mean well, but i felt a bit down afterwards, being reminded my

child

> > is 'different'

> >

> > on the other hand, he is always being complimented on how cute

and

> > smiley he is !

> >

> > i'm still new to this and not sure what to do. Apologies if it

> > sounds like a whinge1

> >

> > T

> > (Shar 3 Non-RSS, Stirling 7mths RSS)

[Guest guest]

It reealy bugs me when complete strangers ask how old Mercedes is. At the

grocery store,

one of the clerks asked what year she was born. I started to tell her but

stoped, and ended up saying 1990!

Audra wrote:

I would love to get more input on this. I find it very annoying and though I

know these people aren't trying to be rude, it really bothers me. My son is 20

months and about 19 pounds (I hope). People are amazed that he can walk, run,

do all the things kids his age do, but I dread the attention because I know

they'll ask his age and follow up with a comment on his size. Please let me

know how you deal with this!

Audra, mom to Quinn, possible RSS

Marcy Conley wrote:

Kim,

Oh my that had to be the funniest answer I' ve heard. I would of loved to see

her expression. Good for you.

na's mom

Kacey171 wrote:

Hi ,

Unfortunately there are always going to be ignorant people in the world who tend

to stick

their foot in their mouth. I didn't know my son had RSS until he was older, but

he was also

a preemie. Sometimes I got tired of explaining him to others & answering all

sorts of

questions. When was a year old, he weighed 8 lbs. One time when I was

tired of

explaining why he was so small, when another patient in a doctor's office asked

me how

old he was, I said 2 weeks old. Then, a few minutes later, I took some colored

blocks out

& asked him to hand me various colors. You should have seen the look on the

woman's

face. I thought she was going to pass out! It was so funny!

Kim C.

> How do you handle peoples comments about size/stature? Today at a

> couple of baby/toddler groups, i was talking to other mums, who when

> told how old he was (nearly 7mths) first assumed he was premature, i

> then got the comments of 'never mind he'll catch-up' and 'they all

> even out in the end'. I had to explain he has a growth disorder and

> he will always be small, but TBH i don't always feel comfortable

> explaining details to strangers.

>

> Another one I got a couple of times today eas about 'how lucky i was

> to still have a little baby as they grow up so fast' I know they

> mean well, but i felt a bit down afterwards, being reminded my child

> is 'different'

>

> on the other hand, he is always being complimented on how cute and

> smiley he is !

>

> i'm still new to this and not sure what to do. Apologies if it

> sounds like a whinge1

>

> T

> (Shar 3 Non-RSS, Stirling 7mths RSS)

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[Guest guest]

She's basically going to just accept that it will always happen...people just

don't know. elderly people are the most likely to think you're like 10 when

you're actually 22 (in my case). she'll learn to enjoy it when she's a lot

older. i just sort of smile and tell them my age, they smile and try not to look

like they don't quite believe me LOL good luck

*leah*

Graham wrote:

It reealy bugs me when complete strangers ask how old Mercedes is. At the

grocery store,

one of the clerks asked what year she was born. I started to tell her but

stoped, and ended up saying 1990!

Audra wrote:

I would love to get more input on this. I find it very annoying and though I

know these people aren't trying to be rude, it really bothers me. My son is 20

months and about 19 pounds (I hope). People are amazed that he can walk, run,

do all the things kids his age do, but I dread the attention because I know

they'll ask his age and follow up with a comment on his size. Please let me

know how you deal with this!

Audra, mom to Quinn, possible RSS

Marcy Conley wrote:

Kim,

Oh my that had to be the funniest answer I' ve heard. I would of loved to see

her expression. Good for you.

na's mom

Kacey171 wrote:

Hi ,

Unfortunately there are always going to be ignorant people in the world who tend

to stick

their foot in their mouth. I didn't know my son had RSS until he was older, but

he was also

a preemie. Sometimes I got tired of explaining him to others & answering all

sorts of

questions. When was a year old, he weighed 8 lbs. One time when I was

tired of

explaining why he was so small, when another patient in a doctor's office asked

me how

old he was, I said 2 weeks old. Then, a few minutes later, I took some colored

blocks out

& asked him to hand me various colors. You should have seen the look on the

woman's

face. I thought she was going to pass out! It was so funny!

Kim C.

> How do you handle peoples comments about size/stature? Today at a

> couple of baby/toddler groups, i was talking to other mums, who when

> told how old he was (nearly 7mths) first assumed he was premature, i

> then got the comments of 'never mind he'll catch-up' and 'they all

> even out in the end'. I had to explain he has a growth disorder and

> he will always be small, but TBH i don't always feel comfortable

> explaining details to strangers.

>

> Another one I got a couple of times today eas about 'how lucky i was

> to still have a little baby as they grow up so fast' I know they

> mean well, but i felt a bit down afterwards, being reminded my child

> is 'different'

>

> on the other hand, he is always being complimented on how cute and

> smiley he is !

>

> i'm still new to this and not sure what to do. Apologies if it

> sounds like a whinge1

>

> T

> (Shar 3 Non-RSS, Stirling 7mths RSS)

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[Guest guest]

My daughter is 20 months as well - we also get the comments - " Oh my 20 months,

she must be small for her age " and I usually reply by saying " Yes, and isn't

she just perfect how she is -so beautiful and full of energy - I can hardly keep

up with her!! "

My husband is getting more frustrated lately - at daycare there is a 6 year old

little girl who likes to caudle - hold her, carry her, etc. I, on the

other hand, am not too offended (YET) - I just think - people are stating the

obvious - and they always have a positive comment about how cute is - and

for her toddler age - that is just fine. Ask me in another month and I may have

a complete different reaction! Jane, mom to - 20 months - 17# 6oz, 28

3/4 " - periactin, zantac.

[Guest guest]

When Liam was one.. I was at Walmart, in line and the man behind me asked me

how old he was. I said 1.. He said " Are you sure? "

I just said " Actually now that you mention NO.. I have no idea how old he

is " ...

The mother in front of me just smiled....

R

Mom to:

Jed (1/22/93) Tic disorder, Asthma, Heart Murmur.....

Liam (12/12/00) SGA/RSS, Hypothyroid,Asthma, Epilepsy, Hearing Impaired,

Sensory Issues, Food Allergies, Heart Murmur...

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we keep getting from people " awe are they twins or how cute twins " you

should see their mouths drop when we inform them that no christopher is

4 and johnathon is 23months!!! i just expalin that he has a rare

growth disorder called russell silver syndrome. or christopher says no

i am 4 hes the baby!!

jodie c

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And I get " they can't possible be twins. She is so much bigger than

he is. " Just once I want to say " I should know, I gave birth to them

you jerk! "

Judith, Steve, (RSS) and (non RSS) 5 year old twins

[Guest guest]

Now that is a good answer!

mom to Autumn RSS 16 mos

> When Liam was one.. I was at Walmart, in line and the man behind me

asked me

> how old he was. I said 1.. He said " Are you sure? "

> I just said " Actually now that you mention NO.. I have no idea how

old he

> is " ...

>

> The mother in front of me just smiled....

>

>

>

>

> R

> Mom to:

> Jed (1/22/93) Tic disorder, Asthma, Heart Murmur.....

> Liam (12/12/00) SGA/RSS, Hypothyroid,Asthma, Epilepsy, Hearing

Impaired,

> Sensory Issues, Food Allergies, Heart Murmur...

>

> Groups I own:

> Toddlers with Epilepsy

> Moms 30 and Beyond

> HOHPreschoolers

>

>

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Sorry but I had to add this. At my pediatrician group last year I had to see

one of the doctors that I hadn't seen since was 2 months old. If you

look in 's picture folder you can see that and her sister are night

and day. The doctor looked at the two of them and asked if they were sisters

(she thought they were friends because of 's size). When I said yes, she

then looked at me puzzled and asked " With the same father? "

B

5 and Kelli 2 3/4

Graham wrote:

It reealy bugs me when complete strangers ask how old Mercedes is. At the

grocery store,

one of the clerks asked what year she was born. I started to tell her but

stoped, and ended up saying 1990!

Audra wrote:

I would love to get more input on this. I find it very annoying and though I

know these people aren't trying to be rude, it really bothers me. My son is 20

months and about 19 pounds (I hope). People are amazed that he can walk, run,

do all the things kids his age do, but I dread the attention because I know

they'll ask his age and follow up with a comment on his size. Please let me

know how you deal with this!

Audra, mom to Quinn, possible RSS

Marcy Conley wrote:

Kim,

Oh my that had to be the funniest answer I' ve heard. I would of loved to see

her expression. Good for you.

na's mom

Kacey171 wrote:

Hi ,

Unfortunately there are always going to be ignorant people in the world who tend

to stick

their foot in their mouth. I didn't know my son had RSS until he was older, but

he was also

a preemie. Sometimes I got tired of explaining him to others & answering all

sorts of

questions. When was a year old, he weighed 8 lbs. One time when I was

tired of

explaining why he was so small, when another patient in a doctor's office asked

me how

old he was, I said 2 weeks old. Then, a few minutes later, I took some colored

blocks out

& asked him to hand me various colors. You should have seen the look on the

woman's

face. I thought she was going to pass out! It was so funny!

Kim C.

> How do you handle peoples comments about size/stature? Today at a

> couple of baby/toddler groups, i was talking to other mums, who when

> told how old he was (nearly 7mths) first assumed he was premature, i

> then got the comments of 'never mind he'll catch-up' and 'they all

> even out in the end'. I had to explain he has a growth disorder and

> he will always be small, but TBH i don't always feel comfortable

> explaining details to strangers.

>

> Another one I got a couple of times today eas about 'how lucky i was

> to still have a little baby as they grow up so fast' I know they

> mean well, but i felt a bit down afterwards, being reminded my child

> is 'different'

>

> on the other hand, he is always being complimented on how cute and

> smiley he is !

>

> i'm still new to this and not sure what to do. Apologies if it

> sounds like a whinge1

>

> T

> (Shar 3 Non-RSS, Stirling 7mths RSS)

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[Guest guest]

I " m so sorry to hear that. The worst part is...it will always happen. People

just don't understand or even KNOW about SRS enough to think before they speak.

Just breathe and try and let it go is all I can say. I still get people thinking

I'm 14 which is weird because I am in college lol. Good Luck = )

super28chick wrote:Hi I am a new member...my daughter

Sydney is 9 mos. old and 10 lbs.

I was glad to see this thread because this subject irritates me to

no end when I take my daughter out shopping with me. People have

some nerve sometimes, you know? I keep telling myself to smile and

be polite because maybe in one of these confrontations I'll find

another mom of an RSS kid and then I'll really have something to

talk about. Until then, I grit my teeth and walk away as soon as I

can. I have made it a game to see how many times I will hear " oh,

she looks just like a baby doll " comment in one shopping trip. I'm

up to 3 times so far!

Debbie in Kansas City

> > When Liam was one.. I was at Walmart, in line and the man behind

me

> asked me

> > how old he was. I said 1.. He said " Are you sure? "

> > I just said " Actually now that you mention NO.. I have no idea

how

> old he

> > is " ...

> >

> > The mother in front of me just smiled....

> >

> >

> >

> >

> > R

> > Mom to:

> > Jed (1/22/93) Tic disorder, Asthma, Heart Murmur.....

> > Liam (12/12/00) SGA/RSS, Hypothyroid,Asthma, Epilepsy, Hearing

> Impaired,

> > Sensory Issues, Food Allergies, Heart Murmur...

> >

> > Groups I own:

> > Toddlers with Epilepsy

> > Moms 30 and Beyond

> > HOHPreschoolers

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

LOL that';s awesome = ) good for you

R wrote:When Liam was one.. I was at

Walmart, in line and the man behind me asked me

how old he was. I said 1.. He said " Are you sure? "

I just said " Actually now that you mention NO.. I have no idea how old he

is " ...

The mother in front of me just smiled....

R

Mom to:

Jed (1/22/93) Tic disorder, Asthma, Heart Murmur.....

Liam (12/12/00) SGA/RSS, Hypothyroid,Asthma, Epilepsy, Hearing Impaired,

Sensory Issues, Food Allergies, Heart Murmur...

Groups I own:

Toddlers with Epilepsy

Moms 30 and Beyond

HOHPreschoolers