Daughter getting band, Mom crying about it

[Guest guest]

I am going through a hard time emotionally dealing with my daughter

heading the band. I know its the best for her, and its only for a few

months but I can't help how I am feeling. At first my thought was to

stay at home with her, so no one would see her with it on. I just

joined MOMS group and started to make friends. My concerns are mostly

of what others (adults and kids) will think. I don't want to get the

pity looks and the stupid questions. I'm also afraid that her adorable

attitude will change. I would really like to hear from other parents

who have gone through this, so I know what to expect.

Nina Segal

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First, let me say my daughter's personality didn't change at all. Basically, she acts like she doesn't know she has it on. She has woken up more in the middle of the night since having the bad...I think she just can't get back to sleep like she was able to before. That is the only "bad" thing we have experienced. She's fine for naps though.

With regards to going out with it on...99% of people are really nice. However, I won't lie to you, there are a few idiots out there who make comments either to the person they are with & they think you don't hear them or to you like asking if your child had surgery, etc. I think decorating the band makes most moms feel better. After I decorated my daughter's band, I got compliments on how cute the decorations were & stuff.

I know this can be stressful, not knowing what to expect, but try to look at the big picture - this really is pretty minor in the grand scheme of things. And honestly, I think for most parents, the anticipation is worse than the reality.

Welcome to the group...it's a great place to ask questions, vent, etc.

-Shari

Mom to Lily - STAR Band for 5 weeks

From: travelgirl728 <travelgirl728@...>Plagiocephaly Sent: Thursday, November 6, 2008 12:31:26 PMSubject: Daughter getting band, Mom crying about it

I am going through a hard time emotionally dealing with my daughter heading the band. I know its the best for her, and its only for a few months but I can't help how I am feeling. At first my thought was to stay at home with her, so no one would see her with it on. I just joined MOMS group and started to make friends. My concerns are mostly of what others (adults and kids) will think. I don't want to get the pity looks and the stupid questions. I'm also afraid that her adorable attitude will change. I would really like to hear from other parents who have gone through this, so I know what to expect.Nina Segal

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Nina,

My daughter has had her DOCband for about 4 1/2 weeks. I was really upset when I found out as well. Let me tell you it isnt as bad as you think. My daughter was a very good little girl and still is. She slept through the night and for the most part still does. She barely even knows its on her head. She is still hitting milestones as well. I dont get any nasty comments. People still tell me how cute she is. Only 3 people have asked what it is for and twice it was kids and the other was an adult that worked at the hospital and just was curious. Keep your head up we have all been where you are. YOu are doing a wonderful thing for your baby and should be happy that you had a chance to fix it. email me any time.

heather_migliore@...

Tori-DOCband 4 1/2 weeks

From: travelgirl728 <travelgirl728@...>Subject: Daughter getting band, Mom crying about itPlagiocephaly Date: Thursday, November 6, 2008, 12:31 PM

I am going through a hard time emotionally dealing with my daughter heading the band. I know its the best for her, and its only for a few months but I can't help how I am feeling. At first my thought was to stay at home with her, so no one would see her with it on. I just joined MOMS group and started to make friends. My concerns are mostly of what others (adults and kids) will think. I don't want to get the pity looks and the stupid questions. I'm also afraid that her adorable attitude will change. I would really like to hear from other parents who have gone through this, so I know what to expect.Nina Segal

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I should have been updating, its been 1 1/2 months of wearing the helmet and she has been doing great. I do look forward the 1 hour off every day, but have gotten used to it. I decorated it with mickey mouse and cute phrases stickers and everyone l oves her helmet and say how cute it is. I still haven't taken a photo of her in it cause since she wont remember it, I don't want any evidence of it in the future. We go everywhere with her and I have gotten a few questions about, and I just tell them about her flat spot and how the helmet will help round her head. I got very happy when at the mall I saw another baby with the helmet. Nina

Plagiocephaly From: heather_migliore@...Date: Thu, 6 Nov 2008 12:05:17 -0800Subject: Re: Daughter getting band, Mom crying about it

Nina,

My daughter has had her DOCband for about 4 1/2 weeks. I was really upset when I found out as well. Let me tell you it isnt as bad as you think. My daughter was a very good little girl and still is. She slept through the night and for the most part still does. She barely even knows its on her head. She is still hitting milestones as well. I dont get any nasty comments. People still tell me how cute she is. Only 3 people have asked what it is for and twice it was kids and the other was an adult that worked at the hospital and just was curious. Keep your head up we have all been where you are. YOu are doing a wonderful thing for your baby and should be happy that you had a chance to fix it. email me any time.

heather_migliore

Tori-DOCband 4 1/2 weeks

From: travelgirl728 <travelgirl728hotmail>Subject: Daughter getting band, Mom crying about itPlagiocephaly Date: Thursday, November 6, 2008, 12:31 PM

I am going through a hard time emotionally dealing with my daughter heading the band. I know its the best for her, and its only for a few months but I can't help how I am feeling. At first my thought was to stay at home with her, so no one would see her with it on. I just joined MOMS group and started to make friends. My concerns are mostly of what others (adults and kids) will think. I don't want to get the pity looks and the stupid questions. I'm also afraid that her adorable attitude will change. I would really like to hear from other parents who have gone through this, so I know what to expect.Nina Segal Life on your PC is safer, easier, and more enjoyable with Windows Vista®. See how

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Hi Nina,

glad it is going so well. I actually want sydney to remember it, since

it was such a part of her life for 5 mo. Also over 2 years later I'm

still involved in this group as a moderator and have made lots of

friends here, so it is still a part of my life too. It is funny now

that she's 3 when she's sees the group page online with a baby in a

helmet, sometimes she asks if it is her. But she never really asks me

about the helmet. She just seems to think it is pretty normal. I know

my cousin had her son in a cast for a while after he fell off the bed

and fractured his leg (around age 18mo) and everyone was forbidden to

take a picture because she wanted to forget the whole thing. I don't

really feel that way about her band.

Anyway I hope you continue to see good progress, and that she'll be

done soon.

-christine

sydney, 3 yrs, starband grad

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heading the band. I know its the best for her, and its only for a few

months but I can't help how I am feeling. At first my thought was to

stay at home with her, so no one would see her with it on. I just

joined MOMS group and started to make friends. My concerns are mostly

of what others (adults and kids) will think. I don't want to get the

pity looks and the stupid questions. I'm also afraid that her adorable

attitude will change. I would really like to hear from other parents

who have gone through this, so I know what to expect.Nina Segal

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