RE: I cancelled again= need advice

[Guest guest]

I support your decision! What is most important is that voice inside of you

that gives you (and all of us) advice and guidance. Sometimes we take it,

sometimes we do not. I have found that with very important matters, when I

listened to that " gut feeling " if you will, I was much better off. Times

that I did not listen to that feeling, I was in deep regret. What is

important is not the revision, but your quality of life. It seems you have

weighed out the factors thoroughly and have reached a peaceful (though

painful) decision.

I wish you well!

Nahodil

I cancelled again= need advice

Well I let my second chance go by again. Dr. was so

good to give me that chance. I was at peace, but it

left at one in the morning before surgery. What I

have learned is this. I completely believe that there

is a safer way to deal with a revision, that my risk

at this wt and age, and the stapling together of the

pieces of my stomach, plus all the other suture lines,

is too high of a risk. My age, prior surgeries, my

wt, all equals and unwise decision. I believe that

God wants me to do what HE wants, not what I want, and

I wanted this surgery more than anything. What I

believe HE wants is my safety, that I will have that

complete Peace about it. A virgin belly is different

to do, and the risks are lower. A revision is a

different animal. I am challenging Dr. K, because I

consider him " my bariatric surgeon " , to come up with a

less risky procedure for people like me. If anyone

knows of one, let me know. If my variables were

different, I was younger, weighted less(i'm 280),

hadn't had a prior vbg and chole, I believe I would

go through with the faith that I did the vbg at 37 yrs

old. But now, I'm through the change of life,

although I take hormones, I don't have that working

for me. more risks, and he has spelled them out time

and time again. But there has to be help for me

somewhere and not a rny either. I'm cross posting

this to the duodenal group as well as DRK>. I believe

he is an excellent surgeon, and is no reflection on

him. I wonder if any other Dr.s have faced this? any

ideas appreciated. thanks maril

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