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I have usually found that when I am going to meet someone new and where it

really counts... like in a job interview... that I am best off to pre-inform

that person with a definition of myself that is more pleasing, rather than

to leave it up to their pre-defined definition of " fat " people.

I usually state something like, " I'm a little round lady. "

Or, when meeting someone in a much more casual situation... depending on

their age and whatever contact we've had previously (laf, such as with my

husband who I met on the internet)... I say something like, " I'm very short,

and very round. I'm a hobbit! "

Anyway, you can't sway everyone, and I don't think one should HAVE to

predefine one's self, but I prefer to be able to pick my own definition and

try to make it other people's as well.

Elle **

laf... soon hopefully gonna be a " former " hobbit!

>Re: Being called Fat

> I have a different opinion here. As long as we, the MO, accept the

> view that it is insulting to be called " fat " then we are promulgating

> the cultural view of fat as wrong, ugly, or embarassing. Oh I know

> that people have called us that wiht full intention of hurting us and

> putting us down. But unless we take control of the defination, then > we

continue to support the problem.