Re: Bashing?

[Guest guest]

God, this whole thing makes my blood boil and to think

that her patients take her side in all this and

justify it! Even medically trained ones like the

original poster of this message. It is a travesty

***Theresa,

Yes, everyone has there right to an opinion and

the right to speak it. But statements like the one

above are what I consider bashing not just someones

opinion. (of course this is my opinion) LOL.

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B 36yrs

Pre-op 11-13-01

Wt.308 BMI 49

BCBS of MI Blue Choice POS

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[Guest guest]

One of the most interesting phenomenon for me in this whole WLS

business is the way that so many post ops seem to become emotionally

enmeshed with their surgeon. They respond to a criticism of the

surgeon as though it were a criticism of them, they tout the

surgeon's presumed perfections as though these were their own. Should

amyone question the thinking of their surgeon, their surgeon's

motives or behavior.. they usually reply with a huge " ouch " as though

they were the one being questioned.

The ability to appreciate a medical professional, such as a surgeon,

who has used their professional skills to make positive changes in

the life of a person, and to accept criticism of that person, to

recognize that that surgeon is *not* perfect, is indeed human in

every way, is a sign of a level of emotional maturity I see little of

in the many WLS lists I participate in.

To be human means that every surgeon, every physician, every nurse,

etc, makes decisions, at times, for less than the most ethical

reasons. They may try and hide their motives, they may attempt to

defend or rationalize their failures or lapses in judgment. They may

make decisions based on what their malpractice lawyer says, or their

lover thinks, or what will make them the most money.

However, to suggest that anyone here had a surgeon, especially if

that surgeon did a DS surgery, has behaved in ways that may

rightfully be viewed with legitimate criticism is to set yourself up

to listen to support, defense, and perhaps outrage at your words.

Just once, just one time I would love someone to say that they had a

surgeon they loved but they know s/he is human and like other humans,

may have lapses in judgment and imperfect skills.

I'm *not* holding my breath.

, Seattle

Happy DS post op patient of the

delightful and very human Dr Welker

> God, this whole thing makes my blood boil and to think

> that her patients take her side in all this and

> justify it!