help please! any ideas?

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HI everyone. I need parent ideas about my non rss son. I am asking

because I see many parents here who have kids with other things than

RSS and I don't know where else I could go and ask this question. I

need to ask a question about my non rss son, skye, (undergoing

testing for short stature, 6 1/2 yrs, 42 1/2 inches, 35 lbs) Skye is

having problems in kindergarten that began back before he was a year

old. It began with obsessions such as keys, he knew by examining

the grooves which one went to the house, 2 cars and mailbox by age

one. He liked to open/close for hours, on/off, together/apart

endlessly. He never cared much about other kids but was very,

actually over affectionate with family. Over the years, played some

with toys but mostly any form of keys and would " unlock " toys in

their crevices or drive a ride on toy over and over while holding the

key. He always plays away from other kids, never wanted to be

involved. Would sit apart when we went to playgroups, and always do

his own thing. Didn't talk in sentences until 3 1/2 (that's when he

really started to talk besides mama, dada, ball, bye,bye,) d a

key in his pocket talked about keys 99% of the time with family and

some adults. by 4 yrs, liked to ride a powerwheels in large circles

in the yard until the battery ran out. then would go in plastic house

in/out and open and close the door over and over or go inside and

play with keys and occationally other toys...he would go through

phases of toys and still does. Whatever would facinate him at the

time would become an obsession. He would not want to eat, sleep or

do anything but talk or play with it(on top of the keys) It lasts

about 2 weeks then back to only keys. by age 6 he became obsessed

with wands from harry potter. it is always with him and he talks

about it and askes the same questions literally at least 20 times a

day unless he is going through a new 'toy' obsession which he will

ask the same questions over and over. ( he still obsessed with keys)

His new toy is a car seat light with a little remote that he will

play with for hours. He has talked with a neighbor girl an d the

girl we drive to school but only about his obsessions...he doens't

understand why they aren't obsessed like him. (recent

obsessions..stapling papers over and over, making green tickets for

hours(that is something from school)and doeing that every day, ) He

plays with his little bro and sis but always in your face play and my

2 yr old wants him to leave him alone, skye is always 'in his face "

in school, he academically top of the class, but socially and every

other way at the bottom. will talk to no one. not only that, will

ask the teacher the same question over and over on what is routine

(like putting on the jacket at the end of the day, going to the

bathroom, going to his table, pushing in the chair ) and he can't do

anyting without being directed. he falls behind in his schoolwork.

he can't do artwork without 'copying' what he sees, he can't come up

with answers that are not factual like 'what do you think about this

book?' and recently do for 3 or so weeks, can't make decitions like

juice or water? or school related forms of that..

anyways, sorry for rambling. he is with a psychologist for 2 mos now

and so far hes ocd but that is not from the key/wand stuff, it is

from his handwashing till raw because it's never clean enough...etc

stuff. they think anxiety disorder too but his teacher and I think

maybe aspergers syndrome, but he has eye contact, is affectionate and

doesn't rock or hand flap. the psychologist doesn't think so

according to meeting him a couple of times and a jilliam (I THINK)

autism rating test.....any ideas? As of now, he will not make it to

1st grade and I am searching for anything. Please help if oyou can.

He is a really sweet caring boy but we get really frustrated with

what's going on. then we realize disapline doesn't work because his

face is blank..he just doesn't get it.

I know i've mentioned a lot, but not everything and all this on top

of his size/weight for unknown reasons and stuff, am I missing

something that may be obvious to others?

thanks for any ideas

mom to Autumn 1 RSS, Skye non rss but short stature 6 1/2, and ocean

2 1/2 and baby on the way in july