Guest guest Posted October 11, 2001 Report Share Posted October 11, 2001 Hi all, struck a chord for me. I agree with her that we must claim the word fat - for it's not the word that's the issue -- it's what people paint all around it that hurts and is discriminatory. So I say paint it just what it is -- LARGE!! Fat. Round. Whatever. Hey it's OK to say it, just don't bring all the baggage with it..... Having said all that, this thread brought up something I realize I have needed to share, so thoughts are welcome. It's about guilt and many years of " loving myself as I am. " For 10 years I just stopped dieting. Long before it was fashionable to do so. I just decided to learn to accept myself for who I was, to love myself as I was and to just get on with living. Not worry about food, eat what I wanted. I could NOT maintain any diet in the past, so why try. I decided not to be size-conscious, and to this day I try to live like that. And surround myself with people like that. I hate being around people who talk about food all the time (except, LOL -- the discussions on THIS list!!) Well, you know what I mean. Diet this, have you tried that...hogwash. I was fat, I admitted it, I accepted it. So, most of my friends were like me. When I brought up WLS, I got practically attacked for even thinking about it. " WHat?? " they exclaimed.. " Botch your body up? Take a perfectly functioning body and screw around with it?? Love yourselfl!! Don't let them DO that to you!! YOu're Ok like you are. " " and so on. Plus, these people were so right about how much doctors had discriminated against us when we needed true health care, and here they were making money off of us like the other diet sheisters....it pissed me off at the time.. But WLS kept coming up, and challenged my whole belief system. My mother always said " you have to put your faith in something. " While in principal I agreed we must love ourselves for who we are, I just couldn't move anymore...starting to get diabetes, had terrible aching knees, couldnt' run jump play.....was it, incredibly, possible to REALLY take this weight off? Without a huge possibility of horrible side effects? Without morally or spiritually messing with the temple of my soul?? Well, I had to try to check into it, and maybe put my faith back in the medical profession long enough to find out and get prepared. Now, I will not let NAAFA and followers discourage me, -- I know this is a lifesaving surgery, but I still feel guilty!! I keep hearing " hey you should love yourself as you are " and " dont' let anyone mess with a perfectly good machine. " Now I know intellectually that's pretty much crap -- my machine ain't workin' too well or I wouldn't be this big... but it's still hard. I think it's like being a vegetarian and having to eat meat or something. Any thoughts appreciated. -- one who stopped dieting and starting loving herself years ago as a FAT person -- and one who has discovered there may be a life beyond intellectualism, of jumping and playing -- and one who may be having surgery soon Hawkins (Ms. that is) ====================== From: marym@... Subject: Being called Fat I have a different opinion here. As long as we, the MO, accept the view that it is insulting to be called " fat " then we are promulgating the cultural view of fat as wrong, ugly, or embarassing. Oh I know that people have called us that wiht full intention of hurting us and putting us down. But unless we take control of the defination, then we continue to support the problem. ========================= Hawkins Preop / BMI 60 / 240 to lose / 150 lbs bound! Consult Sept. 13 Rabkin in SF ****** Hoping soon for a switcheroo! ******* Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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