Re: My take on Size/Age Correlation Question

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Hi Hillary,

My name is my daughter is Tori 5 with RSS and she has a sister who is 22

months they can wear almost the same size in clothes when I put something

of Tori's on she says thats mine and I just tell her she out grew it and

then not put it back on her so she still fill s bigger then . How was thing

in school Tori starts kindergarten in the fall and I am worried how people will

react to her.

My take on Size/Age Correlation Question

My parents introduced the idea of size not equaling

age by giving me examples. There was a family that we

were good friends with that had a daughter who had

's Syndrome and my parents would always point

out that we were the same size but that she was older.

My younger brother and I are only 18 months apart, so

my parents would also use him as an example, " You're

older than even though he is taller than you. " I

think it's really important to also be careful of

" sizist " language. Instead of saying you can do such

and such when you're bigger, say you can do such and

such when you're older. I also think it's really

important for kids to be treated as their age, not

their size by EVERYONE in their lives (not just

parents). My parents never carried me after a certain

age because age wise it was inappropriate. I remember

begging to be carried and saying things like, " but my

legs are smaller! " My parents would always respond

with something along the lines of, " People your age

don't get carried. If we're walking too fast, we'd be

happy to slow down so you don't get so tired. " I

don't remember them doing anything else to help me

understand that size does not necessarily correlate to

age, I think I just eventually got it (and would be

the first to correct people when they treated me

younger than I should have been because of my size!).

~Hillary

22, RSS

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[Guest guest]

Hi my husband is the same way has to be right on tori at all times when

we go any where even right out side for them to ride their bikes. I know you

have to watch your kids all the time but their is limit. and they need to feel

independent. Well any way talk to you more soon.

, Tori 5 RSS 22 months nonRSS

Re: My take on Size/Age Correlation Question

Thank you Hillary. I am actually going to make sure

my husband reads this because he is a big offender.

First he thinks of our girls as his little girls kinda

thing. For example we went to the park yesterday and

I was so happy to see 5 and Kelli 2 1/2 (more

though) manuevering herself on the equipment.

My husband of course was following behind Kelli but at

the end of the day said she had fun and he told

me secretly that he did not. He was upset that his

girls are getting bigger but more it was the fact that

he was a nervous wreck. He's got to get used to this.

B

5 and Kelli 2 1/2

--- Hillary nsen

wrote:

> My parents introduced the idea of size not equaling

> age by giving me examples. There was a family that

> we

> were good friends with that had a daughter who had

> 's Syndrome and my parents would always point

> out that we were the same size but that she was

> older.

> My younger brother and I are only 18 months apart,

> so

> my parents would also use him as an example, " You're

> older than even though he is taller than you. "

> I

> think it's really important to also be careful of

> " sizist " language. Instead of saying you can do

> such

> and such when you're bigger, say you can do such and

> such when you're older. I also think it's really

> important for kids to be treated as their age, not

> their size by EVERYONE in their lives (not just

> parents). My parents never carried me after a

> certain

> age because age wise it was inappropriate. I

> remember

> begging to be carried and saying things like, " but

> my

> legs are smaller! " My parents would always respond

> with something along the lines of, " People your age

> don't get carried. If we're walking too fast, we'd

> be

> happy to slow down so you don't get so tired. " I

> don't remember them doing anything else to help me

> understand that size does not necessarily correlate

> to

> age, I think I just eventually got it (and would be

> the first to correct people when they treated me

> younger than I should have been because of my

> size!).

>

> ~Hillary

> 22, RSS

>

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>

[Guest guest]

I'll chime in again on what Hillary is saying. I totally agree with

her. I am the oldest (and shortest!) of six children. My siblings

always knew I was the oldest and my parents always treated me as the

oldest. When I was a teenager, I babysat and some of the kids were

taller than me, but I was clearly in charge. I learned to drive at

age 16, and my younger sister who was average size was not allowed to

drive when she turned 16 because my parents did not think that she

was mature enough.

My mom, never ever told me that I couldn't do something because I was

too small. I had chores around the house such as doing the dishes,

cleaning the bathroom and vacuuming. I stood on chair to do the

dishes and I managed to vacuum even though the vacuum was my size. I

made my bed, I helped in the garden.

The principal at my elementary school placed milk crates at every

drinking fountain so I could stand on them to get a drink of

water...this was so the other kids wouldn't pick me up to get a

drink. I participated in the regular gym class as well.

When my family went bowling...I bowled...it took forever for the ball

to roll down the lane, but I did it. My parents and teachers at

school treated me appropriately for my age and I will always be

thankful for that.

Claire

> My parents introduced the idea of size not equaling

> age by giving me examples. There was a family that we

> were good friends with that had a daughter who had

> 's Syndrome and my parents would always point

> out that we were the same size but that she was older.

> My younger brother and I are only 18 months apart, so

> my parents would also use him as an example, " You're

> older than even though he is taller than you. " I

> think it's really important to also be careful of

> " sizist " language. Instead of saying you can do such

> and such when you're bigger, say you can do such and

> such when you're older. I also think it's really

> important for kids to be treated as their age, not

> their size by EVERYONE in their lives (not just

> parents). My parents never carried me after a certain

> age because age wise it was inappropriate. I remember

> begging to be carried and saying things like, " but my

> legs are smaller! " My parents would always respond

> with something along the lines of, " People your age

> don't get carried. If we're walking too fast, we'd be

> happy to slow down so you don't get so tired. " I

> don't remember them doing anything else to help me

> understand that size does not necessarily correlate to

> age, I think I just eventually got it (and would be

> the first to correct people when they treated me

> younger than I should have been because of my size!).

>

> ~Hillary

> 22, RSS

>

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